[nervousfeminist]

Wow, I love it when you watch a random movie, are surprised by lesbians being in it, and then those lesbians are treated like absolute shit. In this one there was a Black lesbian character, who of course was the first person to be killed, and then her girlfriend was introduced solely to be killed within seconds of her arrival in arguably the most graphic death scene in the whole movie, and then the “Psycho Lesbian” trope was falsely invoked by not one but two characters to explain away the events of the night. Love it. I was going to check out the director’s other work, but this turned me off so completely that I don’t think I ever will bother.

Ultimately I know that this was a horror movie, I know that the lesbians weren’t the only ones to be killed, and I know that the characters’ behaviors weren’t necessarily endorsed, but it still kind of feels like shit to put on a random movie and unexpectedly have to see lesbians being treated like total garbage yet again. I should’ve known better than to be excited about surprise lesbians in a movie!

[partialbirthabortion]

We owe all the gay men and women who came before us an incalculable debt for living in the world they did and still making art, writing poetry, taking pictures of themselves loving the people they loved. Love each other just as fiercely as they must have looked to the future and loved us.

[empressofkalumina]

Adèle Haenel by Isabelle Eshraghi.

[wombstve]

every time a GNC woman jumps ship and IDs as some category of “not a woman” it feels like she’s thrown her hands up and said “FINE you were right, I was being a woman the wrong way and it’s because I’m NOT one” but it’s celebrated as a victory rather than a crushing defeat for the rest of us who choose not to hide from our own reality. I get wanting to opt out of misogyny, but it’s just not possible...

[inceloid-deactivated20210822]

the same people on tumblr who recognize “monosexual privilege” as bogus (because it groups gay people with their oppressors, straight people) can’t seem to grasp the idea that “cis privilege” is bogus for the same reason; because it groups women with their oppressors (men)

women are not privileged for being recognized as female since birth

[girlsmoonsandstars]

This was my PTM honestly. 

[padre-conceptual]

Truly hate how idiots all across the political spectrum think that lesbians exclusively liking pussy is tied to politics. Homosexuality is innate, there’s nothing to “unpack” about it, it’s not the result of socialization or politics.

[ectojammer-deactivated20170613]

Oh, woe is me!  To be transformed, transmogrified, shapeshifted, bewitched, and bemoaned!  To be naught but a gourd!

[lizbethborden]

i was at the bookstore last night and picked up a book and the summary on the back said that it was about a woman in the lesbian community who “crosses enemy lines” to first sleep with then have a lengthy affair with a man and i just kind of dropped it in disgust because even if the novel is less gross in the telling than that sentence was in the summarizing, i am just sick to fucking death about every single story ever written about a “lesbian” character being about her fucking men. i looked up the author and she calls herself a queer writer and is also a professor and this is certainly one of my problems with academic writers and all the literary fiction coming out of MFA programs etc. that these people see the real lived experiences of e.g. lesbians as the kind of stage for their dramas about coming of age (by letting men inside your pussy), because their lives are just rafts on this big ethereal sea of theory and they’ve never met an ordinary gay person

[matstegen]

📷 photogenic viv

[shesnake]

Rafiki (2018) dir. Wanuri Kahiu

[nervousfeminist]

I’ll never understand why so many people are unwilling to believe that gay people are in fact completely gay!!!! I mean, obviously the answer here is that they’re homophobic, but it’s still maddening sometimes.

Countless times I’ve experienced non-gay people trying to tell me, an actual homosexual person, what homosexuality is. This happens in so many different ways, but today it came in the form of a straight person lecturing me that no one is “100% gay.” I then defined what homosexuality is -- exclusive attraction to the same sex -- and was dogpiled by, yet again, non-gay people desperately wanting to push the idea that gay people are not “100% gay.” They told me that I was “factually incorrect.” 

I’m so tired of this idea that absolutely everything is a spectrum and that gay/lesbian people can have “exceptions” and that homosexuality is “old-fashioned” or not “progressive” and that gay/lesbian people can’t have boundaries. It’s super frustrating and nonsensical. If gay people don’t have to be “100% gay,” then why have any words at all? What then can “100% gay” people call themselves to differentiate themselves from the “gay” people who aren’t “100% gay”? These words have simple definitions, and we have these words for a reason. You either are gay or you aren’t -- there is no spectrum. If you have “exceptions,” then you’re not gay. There is nothing wrong with being attracted only to your same sex.

[luck-voigt]

[pronounpin-deactivated20200801]

Trans people and tbh a lot of straight people need to realise that a huge part of gay people’s oppression is rooted in our inherint gender non-conformity and that most of us experienced that oppression before we were openly gay or even aware of our homosexuality.

[lesbian-lizards]

I sometimes wonder how purposeful this is when orgs like Mermaids are out there transitioning kids on the basis of gender non-conformity or even same sex attraction.

GNC behavior is often a motivator for homophobic hate crimes because, let’s face it, people see “GNC” and think “homosexual” [Source 1] – [Source 2] – [Source 3]. It’s not an accident, either. We have many studies that have found that GNC people tend to be gay/ssa. With dysphoric, ssa children, their gender non-conformity is often retained through adulthood, while their dysphoria goes away [ Source 1 ] – [ Source 2 ] – [ Source 3 ] – [ Source 4 ]

Remember that societies have always found ways to push back against gender non-conformity and homosexuality, and this is definitely a huge factor propelling the modern trans movement forward. When it comes to very young children, they can be transitioned before they are even close to being ready to explore their innate sexuality, not because they choose this for themselves but because parents see their child’s “gay” mannerisms, their cross-gender interests, their non-conformity, and decide that they’d rather have a kid that at least passes for “normal”.

[mango-ice-deactivated20220407]

liberal feminists would probably get pornhub to rename the lesbian category wlw and call it activism

[desbianherstory]

I was struck by something I read regarding the troubles you had getting funding for [Nina’s Heavenly Delights]. The UK Film Council had turned you down for a second time and the reason was, "Lesbianism has had its sell by date." This statement kills me. What does this mean in the 21st century and how do you continue to have hope?

(Laughing) I know. I tell you, there were moments when it was really dire. I just thought, "Oh my God, how naïve am I, thinking the world has changed and financiers and distributors are going to be much more open to lesbian films and lesbian work? The UK Film Council is a public body, who has a public commitment to diversity in all its forms. One of its officers wrote me an email, saying, "We think this story and lesbianism has had its sell-by date." I did write back, and I said, "Until people are not hanged and stoned and murdered for loving the same sex person, then there is still an interest out there."

To me, this revealed the deepest level of homophobia. I think that what happened and has been happening is that there is a drive not to be PC any more, because it's not cool to be politically correct. It's much cooler to be kind of "Oh yeah, but we've all achieved equality now. We don't need to make special things for anyone or anything." In that kind of climate where everything is "the same," people have the arrogance to make statements like that.

There was another incident where I was at a second meeting with a potential financier and he said he really liked the script. We were near the end, when he said, "You know, there's just one little problem I have. Does it have to be gay? Can you imagine Lisa being a boy, being John?" And I said, "Well, no one needs that." You don't have to be hugely imaginative to see that, because it's around us all the time, in advertising, in films. I said, "That's not the story I wanted to tell." So you know, it's the 21st century, and how have things changed around lesbian and gay sexuality? In some ways, things have gotten better, but we still live in a world where homosexuality is not altogether tolerated.

—Let's Tell That Story: An Interview with Pratibha Parmar

[wandering-feminist]

It's only natural for gay people to feel disconnected from traditional man/womanhood, as many facets of these gender roles are comprised of heterosexuality and behaviours intended to appeal to the opposite sex. This does not mean that being gay makes one less of a man or woman, only that gay people are less likely to meet society's expectations of members of their sex. If you are gay and struggle to "feel like" or relate to society's ideas of what you should be as a male or female, please know that this is perfectly normal. Being gay and gender-noncomforming is wonderful, and there is nothing wrong with being your own kind of man/woman.

[lesbianherstorian]

photographs from lesbian couples’ commitment ceremonies in the 1980′s, published in ceremonies of the heart: celebrating lesbian unions by becky butler, 1990