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Stay the course. Something amazing is on its way to you.

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your honour, tbh, ngl, idgaf

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7 Ways to Really Love the People in your Life

1. Tell them how great they are and how much you appreciate them.

2. Be genuine and real in your relationships. Don’t pretend and wear a mask but share your true, authentic self.

3. Note, however, that being genuine doesn’t mean always dumping your garbage on those around you. Be respectful of their needs and feelings too – and recognise that we influence and affect others’ moods. That is, we can choose to either brighten or pollute the atmosphere.

4. Be a great listener. We feel loved and valued when others really listen to us (and demonstrate they’re listening through their nonverbal cues).

5. Don’t try to fix, change and make them into different people. Instead, allow them the freedom to be themselves, as well.

6. Recognise that we don’t have to agree with, or respect, others’ choices in order to have a good relationship with them. A lot of the time, we can simply agree to disagree.

7. Don’t allow yourself to fall into the role of victim or martyr … or a co-dependent lover, family member or spouse.

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"I know it’s a hard lesson to learn, but the truth is you can’t love yourself and love someone who hurts you at the same time. Choose you." - Unknown

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"Some days are just hard." - Unknown

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If you want to be happy, you have to be happy on purpose. When you wake up, you can’t just wait to see what kind of day you’ll have. You have to decide what kind of day you’ll have.

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— Brenda Hillman, from "Escape & Logic," In a Few Minutes Before Later

archaic-stranger

the japanese students

characters copied down with your favorite pen

the vibrant green of high-quality matcha

writing hiragana, katakana, and kanji until the symbols are familiar

strolling through a botanical garden

practicing suffixes, learning the social contexts that determine when different honorifics should be used

the satisfaction of seeing your grasp on the language improve

studying ancient poetry, reading pages of the man’yōshū

a scattering of cherry blossom petals in your hair

watching your favorite shows, recognizing the words and phrases you’ve learned and picking up new ones

recognizing the global influences of japanese culture

busy city streets and neon lights

picking up takeout from your local sushi restaurant

learning to cook authentic dishes

a stack of manga paperbacks with beaten-up corners and broken spines from each re-read

coming up with mnemonics to improve memorization

relishing the challenge of talking with a native speaker

the gently curved roofs of traditional architecture

organized notes, the title written at the top of the page in multiple alphabets

celebrating the theater traditions of noh and kyōgen

analyzing the intersections of japanese culture and contemporary western influences

studying various periods of history, from the Heian to the Meiji

thestarsinmycupofcoffee

I'm an INFP and I GET WAY TOO ATTACHED TO PEOPLE TOO EASILY. Help. I feel like my feelings for people are always ridiculous and one-sided.

Getting attached to people is normal but as an infp, yeah, if you let yourself close to someone it happens really easily. For this reason, lots of infps close themselves off to the world but this usually does more harm than anything else as they get lonely and lie to themselves about not caring. Your feelings may not be “ridiculous” or one-sided but you should keep in mind that people don’t access them as quickly as we do.

In my opinion, attachment is fine but don’t get attached to anyone before thinking out whether they are going to be around for a long time or not because otherwise you could end up on the floor with tears because they left without a word and you can’t even make a sound because you’re afraid all the sticky tape holding you together will snap.

Sorry :3 But life happens and often people don’t return the attachment and we are left feeling ashamed and sad so I’m trying to protect you bby. This is something I have to deal with myself, as an infp so I know exactly how you feel. Attachment works best when it’s a mutual thing and if it’s not that’s okay! You can like or even love someone without being attached to them. Attachment is an anchor that weighs you down so try not to give in to it.

- Your infp princess Xx