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[cogneartive]

can i please get more pictures like this. this how it feel

[cogneartive]

more examples

[logically-asexual]

i feel so seen!!

(twitter thread)

[boop-your-dragons]

Does everyone "have" a gender?

Examining 'gender detachment' in the asexual community

[snazzy-hats-and-adhd]

Saving @derinthescarletpescatarian 's tags because I just like the way they are worded.

[tsarq]

This is so cool

[runesinthenight]

This is so validating because the respondents in this paper are saying some of the same things I've been feeling and thinking for years.

I'm asexual. I figured that out not long after I first came across the term in high school. But figuring out my gender took a lot longer. I didn't really think about my gender identity for years, it wasn't until I was in college that I started trying to figure out what my gender was. That process took years.

I didn't really feel attached to my assigned gender, but I also didn't feel the gender dysphoria that trans people described. I didn't particularly feel like I was neither of those either. For a long time, I honestly didn't feel like any of the gender descriptions and identities I was coming across really fit. I just didn't care that much about what my actual gender was. Eventually I decided upon the agender label as that seemed the most apt. As the paper says, it's really hard to be truly without gender in this highly gendered world. Agender is a way of defining myself in a way that people who experience gender might be able to understand when "I'm just me." isn't really an acceptable answer to the "what's your gender?" question.

I don't mind being perceived as a gender, none of them are offensive to me. While I do like when I am perceived as male or at least not female, I think that more has to do with growing up female and not wanting to be pushed into traditional female roles and values than a connection or repulsion to any gender. I'm impossible to misgender because I frankly don't care.

Honestly, the biggest problem I have with my gender, is trying to define it to people. There's been a large push in recent years for asking people for their pronouns, or including pronouns in things like email signatures and surveys. And don't get me wrong, I'm not saying this is a bad thing! This is very affirming for a lot of people. But it feels like I need to pick something that doesn't quite fit. At pride, for instance, there's always pronoun buttons. But they're all she/her, he/him, they/them, she/they, he/they, it/it, xe/xir, etc etc. And that's great. I'm always glad that there are a lot of options for people. But there's never any pins for any/all pronouns. I've never picked up a free pronoun pin at pride, despite always looking, because they all feel like picking what pronouns I don't want poeple to use and the answer is that I don't care. I fround an any/all pronoun pin once at a queer museum and I cried.

I really suggest you read the paper if you haven't. Not just the article, the whole paper. This is probably the most seen I've felt in a long time.

[mel-155-a]

@abalidoth

[misanthropemom]

Gender is a mug's game, and I don't wanna play.

[neuro-stasis]

This is interesting, because I've been thinking about Gender™ lately - or more accurately, I've been wondering if I might be trans or non-binary. But then I think about all the song-and-dance of transition and it doesn't seem worth the effort, tbh. I don't mind being referred to as a woman (I thought I'd prefer not having the possibility of becoming pregnant.)

Which leads me to: what is gender, really? We're told it's not defined by biology: just having XY chromosomes or a penis doesn't necessarily mean you're a man (and it's more complex than that anyway), it's not definied by dress (a man wearing a dress is still a man), and it's not definied by behavior (a woman can be into "masculine" things, a man can be nurturing and gentle, etc.)

To be clear, these are all good things - people should be able to identify however they want, and we shouldn't be pigeonholed into narrow boxes because of the set of genitals we're born with. But considering all that - what even is gender then?

That's why transness is deeply fascinating to me, because clearly at least some people must have some deeper feeling of Gender than I do, if they go through the hassle of transition even in the face of cultural pushback, or even threat of being harmed and/or killed in some cases.

[neuro-stasis]

How Mewgenics is going: my two nonbinary cats made a kitten via a satanic ritual(?)

the kitten is also nonbinary

[louisegluckpdf]

they won't tell you this in therapy but sometimes the best way to stop catastrophizing/anxiety is to interrupt your spiraling with "girl what the hell are you talking about"

[ytpreviews]

It's not a cure but you have no idea how many times this image has helped me with my OCD

[theparadigmshifts]

evangelicals being like "god made men to do This and be like This and women to do That and be like That that's just how it is" and it's just a picture of a white man and woman following traditional gender norms makes me so insane like you boring fascist fucks. god made 2 million species of beetles. god made whales, ducks, humans, and 1500 other species capable of same sex behavior. god made fish and amphibians that change sexes. god made more than 30 different intersex variations in human beings. god, in his infinite curiosity. wake up!!! fuck!!

[theparadigmshifts]

"god wants women to have perfect no-makeup makeup looks and stay at home not talking back and upholding capitalism" god??? that guy who made lizards that shoot blood out of their eyes?? that guy who made salmon do whatever the fuck that is?? are you fucking crazy???

[liarsblade]

The overcompensating utter aversion to depicting characters as sexually/romantically inexperienced gets crazy sometimes too. Like people will twist themselves into pretzels to figure out a way to make it so that a character has Definitely Had Sex Before even if it's like, genuinely physically implausible for them to have done so. It's weird.

[liarsblade]

a character could be like I have had zero close personal relationships since reaching adulthood. I am experiencing my first human friendship right now on screen in front of you, this is my primary character arc. Before that I was raised on a space station alone by robots. And then you'll read fic about them that's like "I of course have had multiple sexual partners since reaching the age of majority, long before meeting the person I'm being shipped with here." Like dude How.

[neuro-stasis]

When I was in high school/university everyone around me thought it was my dream to go to Japan - I probably thought that too. For a time it wasn't really a possibility, because money. Now I theoretically have the money and everyone I know is like "why don't you go to Japan? you can speak Japanese, right? why don't you live a little?"

And idk, it's just hard to explain that I'm reluctant to drop so much money on a trip when the reality is I likely won't enjoy it much, because the stress of everything involved means I most likely would just be a ball of anxiety and nothing else.

I wish I were the kind of person who enjoys traveling, but mostly, I prefer things to be predictable. But oh, you can't say that in company, can you.

[cryinginribs-deactivated2026051]

who needs enemies when you have your own brain

[neuro-stasis]

holy shit, Ace Combat 8

[fionn-o-nassus]

[fionn-o-nassus]

it's very funny to me that the advice in the notes divides cleanly into two camps:

Actually actionable advice (break it down into smaller pieces, leave and come back later, find somebody to do it with you so you aren't doing it alone)

People who are Jared, 19 and just say something that's fundamentally a variation on "just do it scared"

[spirit-of-science]

Warning: advice that "you have to leave your comfort zone to grow" is meant for people who are IN their comfort zone the majority of the time. If you rarely/never feel comfortable and safe, you actually need to get more comfortable and safe before you can grow 👍

[freddiebeg]

you need to oscillate between your comfort zone and your discomfort zone, like going between a sauna and a icy lake

[thirteens-earring]

I love ace ppl bc they’re like you know you don’t have to right. And it’s true. you dontttttt have to

[thirteens-earring]

[ As long as people don’t know about asexuality—hell, forget about the label, so long as they don’t know that saying no forever and for any reason and in any context is okay—sex education, sex therapy, and popular depictions of sex are incomplete and people don’t have the relevant information to fully consent. Sexual rights should not be assumed and self-determination must never end upon entering a relationship. You can give a no with zero caveats in each and every situation, full stop. You can say no if someone loves you and you love them back. You can say no for the rest of your life. ]

Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex (2020)

[neuro-stasis]

I do wonder sometimes, though. Life is full of stuff that sucks but you do them because it's either Good For You or necessary to survive - like chores, work, or exercising. Do relationships and sex also fall under either of these categories? Should I try getting into one because it'd be Good For Me?

But ultimately I just don't wanna lmao

[stuck-in-jelly]

Viren: I killed a dragon

Ezran: I befriended a dragon

Claudia:

[neuro-stasis]

Getting back into Frieren and I'm sick of the argument "oh it's so refreshing to have demons that are just evil with no nuance." And like. I get it, it's different than what most fantasy media does nowadays. But it's also the most boring (to me) conclusing to the questions brought up by the series. You're telling me we have these sentient humanlike beings, some of which are genuinely curious about the possibility of co-existence with humanity, but every time it's brought up we end up on "it's impossible because the innate biological differences prevent demons from ever truly understanding humanity, and we should just kill them on sight?" And that's a good thing?

[neuro-stasis]

And to be clear, my issue with this isn't because it's fascist propaganda (which I don't think it was... intended as?) I just think it's boring

[corviiids]

i want devices that are functional and hardy and i want them to last and fuck the rest of the shit i dont need. my ds and 3ds can lie in sleep mode for months if not years and i can pop them open and they've still got two or three bars left. my old phones in high school could go days without a charge. if i leave my nintendo switch on the floor for a few days doing absolutely fuck all nothing i will turn it on and it will cry to me mother i am dying. i am dying mother. and i tell him he'll never be half the man his brother was and he can't hear me because he's dead

[sparrow13sworld]

WAKE UP, TDP FANS!!

[zuppizup]

[arttheclowncult]

sorry to have to tell you this but if a stranger comes to your inbox or slides in your DMs asking you for your money with some sob story, no matter how tragic and convincing the story is, they are a scammer — especially if the story is obviously copied and pasted, formatted in the exact same way as the other 100 bots in your inbox

[hotvampireadjacent]