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“How do I stop carrying everything that has ever happened to me?”

— Blythe Baird, from If My Body Could Speak

unhinged-hinge

Why does my brain gotta be so dramatic like shut up and sit down we’re all sick of your shit already

lustingupon

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shaikhspears

You will not find a strong person without a painful past. No one reaches the stage of rationality without destroying something in them.

لن تجد إنسان قوي دون ماضي مؤلم، لا أحد يصل إلى مرحلة العقلانية دون أن يدمر شيء ما في داخله.

florial

lustingupon

@_youthclub

insomniac-dot-ink

we survived because we were the “smartest” species you say, we survived because jellyfish don’t know how to construct a Fighter Jet. We survived because our environment is ours to manipulate with walls and floors and lightbulbs to capture the sun and tunnel into night.

we survived by being faster in our cars and stronger with our tools, and better than we were before. We survived with language to build on the past with and weapons to fight the future. We survived because of our hands and our heads and the fact we make the universe itself knowable.

But then again, a mother will gain the strength of ten men to lift a full car off her baby. A man will spend eight hours nursing a puppy back to health and that dog will follow his every step from the doorstop to the grave. A best friend will dropkick an alligator in the water for the sake of him.

And I’ll tell you, maybe it was all of it. And maybe it was because we loved each other better than we hated, we loved each other in the dark before the lightbulb and loved each other more in the wilds before our walls, and we loved each other so thoroughly we made pyramids and libraries and monuments, and wrote not for the sake of money and food and living, but for the sake of wrapping each others hearts in velvet soft to escape the sandpaper winds of this world.

And that too is survival. That too is a reason. Not for our brains or our hands or our grit, but for our willingness to wrap each others wounds in bandages and set the broken bones of grandparents and sit outside windows and sing lullabies and love songs and cry over butterflies and sunsets and care too deeply. Care too strongly. Care too much.

That too is survival.

angiiireads

I am so determined to fall more in love with life. intentionally romanticising the walks I am on, the birds chirping, the blooming nature around me, the water in my cup of tea turning from a light peach tone to a dark pink, the poetry I write, the things I am learning, my handwriting, dozing off while sitting in front of my window, all of it and more. I have to take a closer look at the little things that make my heart beat faster.

sonderdog

I don’t “flaunt” my mental illness, I seek spaces where it’s an OK subject to talk about

because literally anywhere else but here I have to stay silent and hide my symptoms all the fucking time.

sleepy-bebby

redrola

scrapyardsaint

aspiritualwarriors-deactivated2

As we willingly enter each place of fear, each place of deficiency and insecurity in ourselves, we will discover that its walls are made of untruths, of old images of ourselves, of ancient fears, of false ideas of what is pure and what is not.

— Jack Kornfield

teeteewhoelse

The Habit Loop

The habit loop consists of 3 things:

Cue → the trigger that tells your brain to go into an automatic processing mode

Routine → physical, mental, emotional or spiritual habits

Reward → the feedback your brain gets after this habit is completed

A craving is what is driving the loop

Example: Food cravings The cue is seeing a food item on the counter and your body starts to anticipate the calories and the delicious taste. The routine is actually eating the food item and finally, the reward is the good feeling you feel while eating it.

To overpower a habit you need to recognize what craving is driving your behaviour. It’s about planning how to change that pattern. What can you replace the routine with?

You start with a craving and you anticipate it and then when you give in to that craving you feel a nice relief

New habits take a lot of discipline! Be disciplined, be mindful and check-in with yourself.

Replace self-destructive routines with healthier alternatives! Find what aligns with you.

Last but not least, remember fake it till you make it!