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chessys

so many things happen how are u supposed to get over all of them

shittowatch

Kedi (2016)

frogmp3

epic how human beings love being held and love to hold one another

vethox

ohbutwebestmakepeacewithit

david shrigley

cottagehonaey

wide open field hold a special place in my heart

thatdiabolicalfeminist

it goes the other way too – you can empathize with or hear out someone’s feelings or thoughts or wishes or intentions, but if you want to understand what kind of person they are, it’s also important to pay attention to what they actually do.

e.g. if someone says they love you, says they respect you, etc etc but they routinely treat you in unloving ways and with disrespect – you can decide whether you think they WANT to treat you lovingly & respectfully, but you cannot let their words excuse how they are actually choosing to act. what they believe about how they treat you is less important than the material reality of how they DO treat you.

on a larger scale, oppression is carried out via concrete actions by groups and individuals. regardless of how people think or feel or excuse or minimize their actions, some actions add to the systems constituting oppression and some chip away at it. identify these actions and the material change (or lack thereof) they effect, alone or in aggregate. don’t assume that a stated intent means they will actually effect change in accordance with that intent.

and if someone’s actions seem at odds with the person they seem to think they are, or want to be – bring this to their attention. and see what they choose to do about it.

the world is built of actions, not intentions

spillywolf-deactivated20190920

If courage isn’t the absence of fear but doing the right thing regardless of it, maybe confidence isn’t the absence of insecurity but knowing you have real worth despite it

oncemylove-deactivated20180625

this is beautiful

andlifemovesonn

kalesbug

quotemadness

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.”

— William James (via quotemadness)

haroldtheyrewuhluhwuh

I love not wearing makeup!! I love coming in from the sun and being able to splash water on my face to cool down!! I love being able to rub my eyes if they’re itchy!! I love seeing my bare face so often that I’m used to it and it looks normal and good!! I love being able to hug people tight without worrying that I’m gonna get foundation on their shirt!! I love being able to just exist without having to be constantly aware of gunk on my face!!

I!! love!! Not!! Wearing!! Makeup!!