a nonbinary nook

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Even though I had thumbed through the book “Genderqueer: Voices from Beyond the Sexual Binary”, I hadn’t stumbled upon Mr. Geves piece until I read it for my ‘Womyn Images and Realities’ course at uni a few days ago. I really like how Barb emphasizes the fact that there truly is no ~normal~ trans* narrative, and that for some people it really isn’t a destination, but “about being the best person [one] can learn to be.” Maybe this piece actually sucks and I’m just in love with it because I’ve never read any personal experiences of genderqueer folx that resonated so much with me, but hey. If you’re interested in nonbinary folx’ experiences, you should take the 6 minutes to read this.

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Gender Neutral Pronouns!

Hey, I’m doing a project involving gender neutral pronouns, but I haven’t had any luck finding out which ones people actually use. I’d really appreciate it if your followers could let me know which gender neutral pronouns they use, so I can get an idea of how common the different sets are. My ask box has anon, for people who'd prefer that. Thanks!

[nonbinarynook]

PFLAG and being genderqueer/nonbinary

How nonbinary/genderqueer/fluid inclusive are PFLAG groups?

[butchinthesouth]

A Little Revelation: On Non-Binary vs. Genderqueer

So, I’ve been feeling less and less and less in touch with the word “genderqueer” over the last year.  Something about it just irked me but I could never figure out what.

At the same time, the word “non-binary” seemed to come into common usage, and I realized that I actually like that word far more.

I couldn’t figure out why “non-binary” felt so much better to me than “genderqueer”, though.

And I think I finally know what it is.

I really resent the idea that my gender identity is considered inherently queer just because I don’t identify with one of the binary genders.

I feel like I have a lot more to say on this subject, but since I’m feeling nauseated I’m having a tough time stringing together solid thoughts.  I might make a follow-up post later when I’m feeling better.

Is there anyone else out there who feels this way?  I’d love to talk about it with someone, if so.

[diqg]

An interesting topic for discussion.

I connected with genderqueer primarily because my understanding of queer was that this meant an umbrella word signifying non-normative identity as considered by my given society (social, rather than essentially so). An identity is considered queer / non-normative depending on social context in my understanding. However, the additional problem with this is it poses a barrier to such an identity ever reaching normative, or even ‘normal’ status, and that there is some reference to or even reliance on what society thinks, which may not be relevant at all depending on the person and situation. I do not identify with radical concepts of queerness as something confrontational or political, so these associations have made me uncomfortable (not when others feel this way, but assumptions about how my identity is). Non-binary gender as a term hasn’t come into currency until comparatively recently, either, so this was not really an option for me to consider to begin with, and now I have to weigh how I feel about the applications in my own identity. Whether a gender could be considered queer, non-binary, or something else depends very much on both context and one’s own personal comfort.

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feelin this

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I also have been questioning my use of the term genderqueer.

Recent body dysphoria has made me re-think my own gender identity and presentation (and thus labeling). I honestly think non-binary is such a brilliant term - in itself it is a statement and clearly states its intention. I am against the binary. I do not associate with clearly defined portions of society and the associated expectations and rigid roles.

[personal tangent:] I don’t think I am either gender. I don’t consider my genitals to define my gender. These may be obvious statements to the trans* community, I suppose.. but after feeling tortured for most of my life with the obligation of maintaining within the expected expression of my assigned gender - I STILL from day-to-day feel unsteady or alienated in my chosen non-binary existence. And now of course I am at much more comfortable place in my body because I’m not constrained to one gender.

From now on I think I will stick to non-binary when asked. Gender neutral pronouns as always. And I’m considering slowly introducing the possibility of a gender neutral name to family and friends - Grae instead of Grace, pronounced ‘gray.’

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Simple Softie Packer Now Available At The Levamentum Project

The Levamentum Project, a nonprofit organization designed to help transgender youth all across America, is now making packers available at a rediculously cheap price. The average price for a packer anywhere else is $10-$12(thats just for the xtrasmall one), but The Levamentum Project is now selling The Simple Softie Packer in 3 different colors and 4 different sizes for as low as $6! Check out this amazing deal at The Levamentum Project.

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gqid:

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<look below for the updated list>

I’m amazed and proud that the Genderqueer Identities resource list has been reblogged 800+ times! Now updated with links newly added since this was originally posted. Let’s keep passing it on.

Here are the updated ones for y’all, courtesy of Genderqueer Identities! I’m super stoked that people have been so awesome about reblogging it :) It shows how necessary of a resource it was. The internet was hungry for it! I’ve also included, at the bottom, the other posted list of gender/sexuality resources. ALSO I AM SO EXCITED THAT THE CSPH IS INCLUDED HERE. Wheeeeeeeee! I’ll add on to this personally when I have time. For now, sharing what others have made :) KEEP ADDING TO THE LIST, EVERYONE. Crowdsourcing for the win.

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The following are link and book recommendations, all evaluated myself, as helpful resources that relate to genderqueer and non-binary concepts and identities. If there is a resource you would like to suggest, please use the GQID submit form (select Submit a Link from the drop-down or copy and paste a list into the default text box). See also Marilyn Roxie’s genderqueer tag on Delicious. If you are instead looking for the bibliography for the Genderqueer History and Identities project, click here.

     Links:

Genderqueer-friendly Tumblrs

Androgynites Unite, Anything But Binary, Ask a Non-Binary, Blitz: A Trans* Resource Guide, Break the Binary, Closet Problems, Fat Genderqueers!,Freedom Centre: FC Yeah!, Fuck Yeah Androgyny!, Fuck Yeah Bigender!, Fuck Yeah Genderless, Fuck Yeah Gender Studies!, Fuck Yeah, Genderqueers!,fyeahtransfashion, Fuck Yeah, Transitioning GQs, the gender bender agenda, The Gender Book, Gender Edge, Genderforkr, GenderPanic, Gender Queeries, Genderqueer, The Genderqueer Activist, GenderQueer Confessions, Genderqueer Fashionista, Genderqueer Problems, Gendered Intelligence, GQ Moments, The Identity, Sexual, and Romantic Minorities Space!, KNOW Homo, LGBTQ Advice, LGBTQ Asks, LGBTQ Connections,Midwest Trans* & Queer Wellness Initiative, Neutrois, Nonbinary, Non-binary Artists, Nonbinary Autistics!, Non Binary Confessions, Non-Binary Folk, Non-Op, no gender rules, nullgrade, Practical Androgyny, Queer Dictionary, The Safe Space Network, Smashing the Binary, spectrumofgenders, STFU Binarists, T.R.A.N.S., Transcending Anatomy, Transgender Housing Network, transissues101, Trans*Opinions, transqueery, TransRadical,Trans*toons, Trans* Transgressions, Trans* Tumblr Directory, transbears, TransFess, TRANSPRIDE, Tucking and Other Skills, We Are Gender-Fluid!, ygender[queer]

GQ-friendly Livejournal Communities

Androgynes, Bigender, Birls, Gender Blur, gender_fluid, Genderqueer, Gender.queer_FTW, Girlfags and Guydykes, Transgender

Websites and FAQs

Androgyny Rarely Asked Questions, Chroanagram, Crossdreamers, Genderfork, Genderology, Genderpedia, Genderqueer in the UK, GenderQueer Revolution, Gender Sphere, The Midwest Trans & Queer Wellness Initiative, Nonbinary.org, Non-Op: Another Option, pipisafoat: FAQ on Genderqueers, Gender Expression, and Gender Variance, Practical Androgyny, Questioning Transphobia, T-Vox, We Happy Trans, World Professional Association for Transgender Health, YGender

Organizations and Events: Click here for a list

Forums and Groups

AVEN: Gender Discussion, Forum GenderQueer (Russian), GenderQueer Atheists Group on Facebook, Last.fm: Genderqueers Group, Laura’s Playground, Scarleteen: Gender Issues, Susan’s Place, #transchat, TransYada, TQ Nation, What is Gender?

Identity Sites

Androgyne Online, Bigender, Bi-Gender the Bisexual Partner, GirlFags, Neutrois.com/Neutrois Outpost, Neutrois Nonsense

Prounouns and Titles

Art of Transliness: Gender Neutral Relational Terms, Freelance Writing: The History of the Indefinite Singular Pronoun, Gender Neutral Pronoun Blog,Gender Queeries: Gender Neutral/Queer Titles, Genderqueer in the UK: Misc, or Mx: A Gender-neutral Title, MIT’s Ally Toolkit: Gender Neutral Pronoun Usage, Warren Wilson: Using Gender-Neutral Language in Academic Writing

Articles: Click here for a list

Fun, Videos, Podcasts, & Performance

Agender Earthworm, Facts About Queers (Humor), Fuck Yeah Non-Binary Seahorse, Genderqueer Chat, Gendercast: Our Transmasculine Genderqueery,Gender Queeries,Kreative Korporation: Yay genderform! (a comprehensive and fun-to-play-with list of gender, sex, orientation, and more identities),Midwest Genderqueer, regender: A Different Kind of Translator, Trans Parrotfish

Education

Gender Diversity Project, Gender Spectrum: Resources, Queer Teaching Tips, Safe Schools Coalition, TRANScending Identities: A Bibliography of Resources on Transgender and Intersex Topics, Transgender Student Rights, Trans What?: A Guide Towards Allyship

Sex Ed: Click here for a list

The Trevor Project: “The leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services” to LGBT youth: 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) Also available for matters of less pressing urgency, Dear Trevor is an “online, non-time sensitive Question & Answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.” A directory of previous questions in the category of Transgender/Genderqueer is also available.

Social Media

Click here for a list of social media with options apart from male and female, as well as scripts to alter options on websites that don’t provide these options by default

Fashion and Transitional Gear: Click here for a list

Banner: This Journal is Gay/Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual, Transgender, Intersex, Genderqueer, Asexual Positive banner (with flags; without flags). Designed by nethdugan.

     Books: 

Note: Use Worldcat.org, the world’s largest global library catalog, to see if the book you’re seeking is available at a library near you!

Gender Now Coloring Book - Maya Christina Gonzales

Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us - Kate Bornstein

Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation - Kate Bornstein

Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws - Kate Bornstein

My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely - Kate Bornstein

Books and essays by Ivan Coyote

Grrl Alex: A Personal Journey to a Transgender Identity - Alex Drummond

GenderQueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary - Joan Nestle, Riki Wilchins, Clare Howell

Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality - Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel

Queer Theory, Gender Theory - Riki Anne Wilchins

Read My Lips: Sexual Subversion and the End of Gender - Riki Anne Wilchins

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (in-progress) - Laura Erickson-Schroth

whatever.odt (free!) - JD O’Meara

Feeling Wrong in Your Own Body: Understanding What It Means to Be Transgender - Jamie A. Seba

That’s Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men - Lori B. Girshick and Jamison Green

Transition and Beyond: Observations on Gender Identity - Reid Vanderburgh

(Looking for a list of books concerning gender, sex, and orientation that aren’t genderqueer specific instead? Click here)

Book lists compiled by others:

Bibliography of Books Concerning Androgynes and Androgyny

Booklist for Trans Youth on Goodreads

Genderqueer Chicago on Goodreads

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List of Gender Neutral Pronouns in Third Persoooooon

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Hi I want to introduce you to a new tumblr made as a resource for non-binary spanish speaking persons: nobinario(.)tumblr(.)com. Si habláis español os esperamos, amigxs! :)

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Translate Gender is a collective-based consensus-run nonprofit organization that works to generate community accountability for individuals to self-determine their own genders and gender expressions.

Translate provides workshops, consultation, mediation, and facilitation focused on gender oppression and concerns specific to trans and/or gender non-conforming individuals.

A community needs only to take a few small steps to change the experience of its members.

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The Inherent Problems in Language Around Gender, Sex, and Genitals and a Proposal for New Terms and Language

(written and submitted by Tranzfat)

Step 1: This will be a discussion on the problems inherent in our language around gender, sex, and genitals, and will offer some possible improvement in language that we may switch to that are more logical and coherent. Labels around such complex issues as these will almost certainly always fall short, and discrete approaches will never be able to account for infinite possibilities. 

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Any More Resources for Partners of Nonbinary or Trans* Folks?

thanks, babez<3

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a haiku 4 u

Lots of new follows,

but no people are posting.

this makes me real sad

~errol2012

[autumns-daughter]

http://www.care2.com/causes/uk-considering-gender-neutral-passports.html