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@notyourplayertwo
When my wayward spouse promises to be there for me, his betrayed spouse, through all the pain he caused me by having an affair, then refuses to comfort me when I’m crying over his terrible treatment of me or kiss me goodnight after snapping at me for shit that wasn’t my fault for days
Don’t forget it.
Listen to actions only, not words.
I made this for couples with one partner who’s anxiously attached with an avoidant attachment.
It’s rough.
Working on an impact statement when I haven’t even been offered a formal disclosure sounds dumb but I don’t know how else to make him realize shit has to change. I wouldn’t wish PISD on my worst enemy.
Five years ago, reddit had an April Fool’s Day event called Circle of Trust where you could join or “betray” the circle, destroying it. I didn’t want to participate but I wanted the achievement for it so I invited my husband to my circle. Here’s a screen cap of my lying cheating husband five years ago—the irony in seeing him say he would never betray me is thicccc
221 days since D-Day
Anyone wanna guess how much work he’s done?
Do you think he’s in therapy?
Do you think he’s attending his Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings?
Do you think he’s even being nice to me?
If you guessed in the negative, you’d be correct!
Of course he’s been lying and faking reconciliation this whole time.
Of course he’s too lazy to do the work.
Of course he expected me to stay with him regardless of how abusive and disrespectful he is.
Of course l’m over this sham marriage.
I poured my all into him for 15 years (almost 16, anniversary’s next week *sarcastic yay*) and when it was my turn to be repaid for fighting for him all this time, I get nothing but smug smartassery and more disrespect.
He’ll never learn to be mad at himself. He’s too weak to realize he’s the problem. He’ll always blame me, even when all I ever did was love him more than myself. No more. I’m done.
Did I mention on here that he never bought me an anniversary gift? He convinced himself we were over, I invited him over the night before our anniversary to prove himself because I had kicked him out a few days before that, and he just.. Stayed. Never tried. I’m so exhausted.
This list is meant for educational purposes and to help aid your recovery. It is *not* meant for self-diagnosis. If you are concerned about your mental health, please see a professional.
There are thousands more books and way more topics but this is just to get you started. I tried to stay away from religious books as well as books that focus on one gender over another.
There are only a handful of memoirs because they can be triggering. ALWAYS USE CAUTION WITH READING MEMOIRS!
Mental Health:
50 Signs of Mental Illness
Creativity and Madness
Family Guide to Mental Health Care
Holistic Mental Health
Mental Health, Naturally
Psychology of Creativity
Selecting Effective Treatments
Strong Imagination: Madness, Creativity, and Human Nature
The Integrated Self
The Neuroscience of Psychotherapy
Addiction & Substance Abuse:
12 Smart Things to Do When the Booze and Drugs Are Gone
Beyond Addiction
Clean: Overcoming Addiction and Ending America’s Greatest Tragedy
Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening
Overcoming Crystal Meth Addiction
Opiate Addiction
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
Powerless No Longer
Recovery and Renewal
Quitting Crystal Meth
Anxiety:
Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving
Coping with OCD
Dying of Embarrassment
Loving Someone with OCD
Overcoming Obsessive Thoughts
The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook
Bipolar Disorder:
50 Shades of Bipolar: Poems and Reflections from a Twisted Mind
An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Madness and Mood
Beyond Bipolar
Bipolar Disorder: Insights for Recovery
Bipolar Strong
Break the Bipolar Cycle
Comes the Darkness, Comes the Light
Facing Bipolar
Finding Your Bipolar Muse
Intense Minds: Through the Eyes of Young People with Bipolar Disorder
In Two Minds: 50 Short Poems
I’m Not Crazy Just Bipolar
Living With Someone Who’s Living With Bipolar Disorder
Less Than Crazy
Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder
Manic
Manic Depression and Creativity
Mind Race
Navigating the Space Between Brilliance and Madness
Perfect Chaos
Preventing Bipolar Relapse
The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide
The Bipolar Relationship
The Tao of Bipolar
The Natural Medicine Guide to Bipolar Disorder
Touched with Fire
Surviving Manic Depression
Welcome to the Jungle
When Someone You Love is Bipolar
Depression and Seasonal Affect Disorder:
How You Can Survive When They’re Depressed
Not Alone: Stories of Living with Depression
Positive Options for Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
Unstuck
What to Do When Someone You Love is Depressed
Dissociative Disorders:
All of Me: How I Learned to Live with the Many Personalities Sharing My Body
Amongst Ourselves
Depersonalization: A New Look at a Neglected Syndrome
Feeling Unreal: Depersonalization Disorder and the Loss of the Self
Multiple Personality Disorder from the Inside Out
The Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook
The Stranger in the Mirror
Down Syndrome:
Mental Wellness in Adults with Down Syndrome
Teaching Children with Down Syndrome About Their Bodies, Boundries, and Sexuality
The Down Syndrome Transition Handbook
The Guide to Good Health for Teens & Adults with Down Syndrome
Eating Disorders:
8 Keys to Recovery from an Eating Disorder
Beating Ana
Beating Eating Disorders Step by Step
Binge No More
Biting Anorexia
Biting the Hand that Starves You
Brain Over Binge
Brave Girl Eating
Compulsive Exercise and The Eating Disorders
Crave
Decoding Anorexia
Eating Disorders and The Brain
Eating Disorders: A Guide to Medical Care and Complications
Eating Disorders in Sport
Eating Disorder: Something Deeper
Eat, Drink, and Be Mindful
Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat for Binge Eating
Food: The Good Girl’s Drug
Life Beyond Your Eating Disorder
Healing Your Hungry Heart
Mindful Eating
Next to Nothing
Nutrition Counseling in the Treatment of Eating Disorders
Overcoming Binge Eating
Please Eat
Regaining Your Self
The Rules of “Normal” Eating
Therapy for Eating Disorders
Reclaiming Yourself from Binge Eating
Restoring Our Bodies
Savor: Mindful Eating, Mindful Life
Stop Eating Your Heart Out
Telling ED No!
Medication:
Essentials of Psychiatric Diagnosis
Generic: The Unbranding of Modern Medicine
Mental Health Medications
Saving Normal
The Pill Book (15th Edition)
Unhinged: The Trouble with Psychiatry
Pervasive Developmental Disorders and Sensory Processing Disorders:
Asperkids
Be Different
Can I Tell You About Asperger Syndrome?
How to Make & Keep Friends
Look Me in the Eye
Managing Meltdowns
Taking Care of Myself
The Asperkid’s (Secret) Book of Social Rules
The Autistic Brain
The Complete Guide to Asperger’s Syndrome
The Out-of-Sync Child
The Reason I Jump
Self-Regulation Interventions and Strategies
Personality Disorders:
Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified
Hard to Love: Understanding and Overcoming Male Borderline Personality Disorder
I Hate You—Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
Lost in the Mirror
Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder
Surviving a Borderline Parent
The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide
The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder
The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder
Pregnancy:
A Mother’s Climb Out of Darkness
Bipolar and Pregnant
The Mother-to-Mother Postpartum Depression Support Book
The Postpartum Husband
Understanding Postpartum Psychosis: A Temporary Madness
Psychosis:
Back to Live, Back to Normality
Cognitive Therapy of Schizophrenia
Delusional Disorder: Paranoia and Related Illnesses
Getting Your Life Back Together When You Have Schizeophrenia
Psychosis, Trauma, and Dissociation
Stress Fracture: A Memoir of Psychosis
Surviving Schizophrenia
The Center Cannot Hold: My Journey Through Madness
The Complete Family Guide to Schizophrenia
Understanding Paranoia
Self Injury:
A Bright Red Scream
Bloodletting
Bodily Harm
Cutting
Inside A Cutter’s MindThe Tender Cut
Suicide:
Choosing to Live
Hello Cruel World
Suicide: The Forever Decision
Workbooks:
ACT Made Simple
Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence
Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame
Calming the Emotional Storm
CBT Skills Workbook
Co-Occuring Disorders Workbook
Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation
Depressed and Anxious
DBT Made Simple
End Emotional Eating
Finding Life Beyond Trauma
Finding Your Voice Through Creativity
Freedom From Self Harm
Healing From Post-Traumatic Stress
Mastery of Your Anxiety and Panic Workbook
Mind-Body Workbook for Anger
Mind-Body Workbook for Anxiety
Mind-Body Workbook for PTSD
Mind-Body Workbook for Stress
Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder
Mind Over Mood
Never Enough: A Recovery Workbook
Overcoming Bulimia
Overcoming Crystal Meth Addiction
Overcoming Paranoid and Suspicious Thoughts
Overcoming Social Anxiety
Overcoming Trauma and PTSD
Overcoming Your Alcohol or Drug Problem
Rational Recovery
Reflections: An Eating Disorders Recovery Workbook
REPAIR Your Life Workbook
The Addiction Workbook
The Anorexia Workbook
The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook
The Binge Eating and Compulsive Overeating Workbook
The Bipolar II Disorder Workbook
The Body Image Workbook
The CBT Toolbox
The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Anxiety
The Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Depression
The Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Personality Disorders
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook for Anxiety
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook for Bulimia
The Grief Recovery Handbook
The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety
The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction
The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD
The OCD Workbook
The Pregnancy and Postpartum Anxiety Workbook
The PTSD Workbook
The Sex Addiction Workbook
The Substance Abuse & Recovery Workbook
Stopping the Pain
Stop the Chaos Workbook
Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse Workbook
When Panic Attacks
Other:
Banish Your Body Image Theif
Bouncing Back
Broken Open
How to Train a Wild Elephant
Intuitive Self-Healing
Mind Whispering
Radical Acceptance
The Art of Comforting
The Book of Qualities
The Core Journey: Unleash Your Power to Thrive
The Dancing Self
The Exercise Balance
The Mindfulness Solution
The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion
The Mind-Made Prison
The User’s Guide to the Human Mind
Shut Up, Skinny Bitches!
Simple Abundance
You Are A Badass
Your Body Never Lies
“Man is insatiable for power; he is infantile in his desires, and always discontented with what he has, loves only what he has not.”
— Joseph de Maistre
Yesterday, for the first time in 152 days, my wayward husband thought to empathize with me instead of assuming I was saying how I felt to make him feel bad. He spent all day yesterday and today crying. After almost 6 months of living with PTSD triggers that keep getting closer and closer together because of his neglect, it’s hard to care that he finally decided to show up for me.
Bro, I’ve been begging you to do what all the recovery sites say to do for months. When I’m finally checked out and ready to end it all, NOW you show up? God damnit I deserve so much better than this
Look at this infographic on identifying and ending codependency I just whipped up. I’m quite proud of it! Since tumblr alt text works much different than what I’m used to, I’ll add alt text here.
How to END CODEPENDENCY
Ending a codependent relationship requires first identifying it:
GIVERS:
• feel lost or lonely when they're by themselves
• are afraid of being rejected or abandoned
• define their worth through another's eyes
• are unable to find their own worth or identity
• boost low self-esteem by comparing themselves to a dysfunctional partner
TAKERS:
• their poor functioning brings them much needed love, care, and concern
• an enabler's consistent support reduces the pressure to mature or advance their life skills or confidence
• they become highly dependent on the enabler to satisfy needs normally met by multiple close relationships
SIGNS YOU'RE IN A CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP
• Inability to find satisfaction in your life outside of a specific person
• Staying with a partner in spite of recognizing their unhealthy behaviors
• Giving support to your partner at the cost of your own mental, emotional, and physical health
HOW TO END A CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP
• take ownership and set boundaries
• Let go and detach from the problems of addiction
• Change your focus onto yourself
• Reach out for help and support
PRACTICE SELF CARE
Tune in to your body and mind so it can tell you what it needs, then do exactly that!
Self care charges your batteries; it isn't indulgent. It may be uncomfortable to focus on yourself at first. That’s okay! Practice makes perfect!
A man’s needs are met, and his appetite subsides.
A man’s wants are met, and his thirst swells greedily without end.
5 posts!
I’ve been bitching about my cheating husband for 5 posts and almost 5 months! I’m beginning to hate myself.
A partner who respects themselves acts within integrity when no one is watching. Not because they're afraid of losing the relationship. Because they honor their mind, body, and their own word. Because they know in betraying another, they betray themselves.
Because they know lying is the heaviest burden to carry, and they value the emotional freedom that only comes from the truth.
—@Theholisticpsyc, Dr. Nicole LePera
Of course he’s been lying and faking reconciliation this whole time.
Of course he’s too lazy to do the work.
Of course he expected me to stay with him regardless of how abusive and disrespectful he is.
Of course l’m over this sham marriage.
I poured my all into him for 15 years (almost 16, anniversary’s next week *sarcastic yay*) and when it was my turn to be repaid for fighting for him all this time, I get nothing but smug smartassery and more disrespect.
He’ll never learn to be mad at himself. He’s too weak to realize he’s the problem. He’ll always blame me, even when all I ever did was love him more than myself. No more. I’m done.
