what kitty dragged in

figuring things out. 23

[novapurrs]

This is here for my headmates to reblog what they want. Friends can follow. Pronouns under cut –🐈‍⬛

🐈‍⬛ - they/he/sun/love (host)

🩵 - she/her

🚀 - she/he

🎞️ - they/he

🍊 - they/it (don't interact)

🍂 - he/it (don't interact unless he knows you)

🪐 - she/sie/they (interact with care)

🪻 - he/him

🪲 - he/they

🦗 - ??/?? (don't interact)

🌻 - they/them

🪪 - he/him

⚠️ - he + neos

💫 - ey/em, hy/hym

🌆 - she/it (don't interact)

💣 - it/he

⛓️ - he/him

♦️ - any neos

🌒 - it/its

♠️ - he + neos

📠 - he/him (don't interact)

🌾 - he/it

[drv3ch5]

how it feels trying to hold back the mean alters from saying mean shit

[oursystemblog]

[shetheyslain]

Dahling you simply must read this book! It’s all about this devious little caterpillar who simply gorges himself on all manner of divine things

[zeitghost]

Of course I contradict myself. I contain multitudes [suddenly getting defensive] But not in a plural way. I’m not plural [trying not to seem ableist] Not that there’s anything wrong with that [three year old alter takes over] Abaa, lalala,

[gatheringbones]

I love your agreeable and amenable and flexible nature and how none of your wants and needs ever get priority and how nobody even knows what they are to begin with and how you never start or engage in conflicts and never express even mildly unsavory opinions and get along with everyone from every conceivable group, that’s so trustworthy. hey quick question. do you happen to have an enormous pressurized reservoir of rage and resentment you feel like you can’t ever analyze or express because that would break the rules for the kind of person you are and if so, do you think a lifetime of squashing it down might ever backfire?

[crabussy]

"I just find it hard to believe some people who claim to be systems. why do all their alters have strange names and unique appearances and weird mannerisms?" queer people are disproportionately at risk of experiencing childhood trauma. autistic people are disproportionately at risk of experiencing childhood trauma. there are countless studies on this if you want to hear it right from the source. childhood trauma is the driving factor behind a massive majority of DID/OSDD system formations. I trust that you can connect the dots here!

[crabussy]

if you intentionally choose to disregard peoples' existences based on their appearance or behaviours, you have biases that you absolutely need to deconstruct before people like me can ever feel safe around you.

you can start by saying nothing about how you "just can't believe it" when someone you don't know exists as a system where you can see. you can keep going by trusting the people in your life when they share extremely vulnerable information about themselves.

[crabussy]

telling someone that you're part of a system feels like exposing your soft underside. I've cried from terror almost every time I've had to reveal it to someone I care about, and I don't cry easily. if someone tells you they're part of a system, they're placing a monumental amount of trust in you.

please don't break that trust.

[crabussy]

actually, another thing!!! you are seeing systems who:

1. actually know that they're systems (this is rare. being online makes resources on figuring it out WAY more accessible) 2. happen to exist in the same online space as you, the tumblr user reading this 3. are, as a result, usually younger and/or autistic and/or queer, which are all factors that can influence individual alters' identities.

so of COURSE you think we're all like this. you're looking at one damn tree instead of the whole forest!!! there are systems who are 60 years old and never had the resources to figure out what was going on. there are systems who are 30 and barely use social media for personal reasons. there are systems who are 20 and don't tell anyone because of the cruelty they've faced every time they try. there are systems who are 15 and are SO relieved to have answers to why everything felt weird and wrong their whole life, so they shout it from the rooftops. your limited interactions with systems in specific online spaces does not represent the majority of systems on earth.

even if it did represent the majority of systems on earth we STILL deserve to be treated like people. this should not be something I have to beg for!!!!!

[caydencrypted]

the wisdom ive learnt is that becoming part of a friend group 1) takes a long time and 2) involves a lot of feeling awkward and left out at first. there’s nothing terrible about this but if you grew up chronically lonely or have any kind of trauma relating to social isolation this likely feels Really Wrong and activates danger signals. but both fortunately and unfortunately it’s just how becoming close to new people works most of the time

[crabussy]

"oh you're part of a system? that must be so awful, having people speaking inside your head and taking over your body to do whatever they want!" it wasn't awful when sunny realised I wasn't drinking enough and filled up a large bottle of water so that I could see it and pour it directly into my cup without getting up. it's not awful when jasper immediately shoots down my irrational fears with calm, kind logic.

[crabussy]

it wasn't awful when francis spent an afternoon at the aquarium instead of me and got to see all the fishes for herself. it's not awful when julian can't contain a snort of laughter in my head at something we both heard or saw. it's not awful when phoebe procrastinates on assignments to play beatsaber until she's sweaty and bored. it wasn't awful when jon sat outside on the porch late at night, talking quietly to a neighbour's cat. it's never awful when any of the others chime in about everyday tasks and decisions and ideas. it's not awful when I come back and see that my house is suddenly tidy. it's not awful when I come back and it's messier.

[crabussy]

we're just people moving through our lives with one body between us. we have just as many small joys, irritations, helpful moments, poor choices, fits of giggles, bad times, and affectionate interactions as anybody else on earth. you can't decide we exist in a state of constant misery from our mode of existence alone. I love my crew.

[crabussy]

it's been nearly 8 years since I figured out that I wasn't alone in here. in those 8 years, we've all been through so much shit. we've also made so, so many good memories. I truly wouldn't want to live any other way.

I hope you're kind to the systems in your life. you have a very real power to make being part of a system less awful, just by listening and treating us like real people. and is that not wonderful? [:

[blixandco]

Parents: How was your day? Me: Fine. Family: How was your day? Me: Fine. Friends: How was your day? Me: Fine. My private discord server: How was your day? Me: pk;m new Shadow the Hedgehog

[abalidoth]

You're telling me a french fried this

Traceback (most recent call last): File "<stdin>", line 1, in <module> TypeError: fried_rice_joke() takes exactly three arguments (2 given)

[emptysould]

[urgetocreate]

Adam Clague (American b.1984), Glowing Citrus, 2026, Oil on board

[melonwah]

[novapurrs]

Anger holder this trauma holder that when are you going to be a holder of my hand

[alteredpanel]

[dumblr]

When you get mad, take a deep breath and count to ten. Throw a punch at eight. No one ever expects that.