nsana @nsana - Tumblr Blog

Almost a decade ago, tumblr was my very safest place. I was so deep in the closet and surrounded by a community that - at best, misunderstood me, and at worst, hated me.

That all feels like a lifetime ago now, but I look back with a heart full of nostalgia at gratitude for the friends I met here, the art I was exposed to, and the way my worldview deepened and changed.

I’m not on here at all these days, but if you’d like to follow along with me now, I’d so appreciate your support for my little tiny biz. Follow me on Instagram at @carlyisanartist or visit my website: carlyclarkart.com

Much love,

Carly

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sundathe

yesdarlingido

“When your parter confides in you about a problem they’ve faced, and your first response is to try to fix it, what this says to your partner is not that you care enough to help, but that you don’t believe they’re capable of figuring out a solution by themselves. This is one of the most common ways to miss your partner because you bypassed empathy when that’s the only thing they were looking for. When your partner confides in you, resist problem solving. If they want solutions, they’ll ask for your input, but what they most likely want is connection, which looks like asking questions, empathizing, and never siding with the enemy. All they want is to be heard, to know they’re not alone, and to feel that you’re on their side.”

— L, thoughts of a therapist (based on the work of Julie Gottman)

illsingittillthedayidie

“You are personally responsible for becoming more ethical than the society you grew up in.”

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Eliezer Yudkowsky

Being a “product of their times” is no excuse. Never let someone off the hook for bigotry.

(via toostoked)

tresbongout

wehadfacesthen

The Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr leads a kneeling protest in Selma, Alabama, 1965

nevver

C'mere you

jenmyers

I think there is a certain age, for women, when you become fearless. It may be a different age for every woman, I don’t know. It’s not that you stop fearing things: I’m still afraid of heights, for example. Or rather, of falling — heights aren’t the problem. But you stop fearing life itself. It’s when you become fearless in that way that you decide to live. Perhaps it’s when you come to the realization that the point of life isn’t to be rich, or secure, or even to be loved — to be any of the things that people usually think is the point. The point of life is to live as deeply as possible, to experience fully. And that can be done in so many ways.

Theodora Goss (via awelltraveledwoman)