we all go to hell @nxmercy - Tumblr Blog

desultory-suggestions

An apology without change is just manipulation.

furtho

Detail of a gravestone, St Peter’s church, Heysham, Lancashire (via here)

gunsandfireandshit

furiousgoldfish

Tough kids are the ones who were punished for being vulnerable and hurt. Nothing forces a kid to hide their pain like the promise of humiliation and pain, and awareness that no compassion will be shown for their pain. Abusive parents even go step further and insist their kids have to be “tough”, they have to endure screaming and insults, they have to stay impassive and stoic thru fear and pain and never demand to be paid attention to or comforted. This is not how we treat other human beings in society, that’s how we treat prisoners and criminals, those we don’t care about, those we condemned to a life of hidden suffering.

Sometimes children will have to go thru listening how bad and selfish they would turn out if they weren’t “tough”, names like wimp, coward, and sissy will be thrown around, as if those describe any single person except abusers. Children are forced to grow scared of their own vulnerability and pain, feeling as if they’re at fault if they show any kind of weakness or pain, as if that’s the problem, and not grown adults failing to give them any sort of care or nurturing. And children are grown like this for no other reason than for adults to be able to lash out at them and abuse them for personal satisfaction. Yelling “you’re tough, you can take it!” while abusing a child, as if they’re doing a favour to the kid.

Don’t go lashing out at tough kids, thinking this wont affect them. They’ve already been tortured enough. They’ve already hidden their pain too many times. They’re already piling up a mountain of things they’ve repressed and dissociated from because it was too much for a kid to handle. You’re not doing them a favour adding onto that pain. That kid will break one day and realize nobody ever cared for them, and instead all people in their life used their grooming to feel justified in hurting them. No kid needs to be that tough. No kid needs to be that strong. Children need to be safe. Children need to be around people who don’t require them to show impassive expression in the face of pain. Children should get to have full hearts of knowing they’re loved, not pain in their chest they have to hide, in fear of being called weak. Give the tough kids a chance to be children, or leave them alone.

itsbpdtime

contrary to popular belief hypersexuality is not some cute kink that gets cured by fucking a couple times and masturbating lmao.

it’s intrusive thoughts, it’s repulsion and feeling like you don’t own your own body, it’s the lack of control that leads you to do things you often regret, it’s being unable to feel validated unless people find you sexually attractive, it’s thinking about sex nonstop but not actually wanting to have sex with someone, it’s being unable to say no towards sexual advances, it’s being unable to separate romantic affection from sexual attraction, it’s often but not always the result of trauma or rape, it’s abusing your own body to fulfill the neverending itch, it’s forcing yourself to fuck people you don’t even know/hate because it’s better than nothing, it’s not pretty. but only hypersexual people can define what it means for them.

you’re not hypersexual because you once fucked more than once a day. you’re not hypersexual because you have a few unusual kinks. you’re not hypersexual just because you’re a “man” or whatever patriarchal bullshit teaches men that the only thing they care about is sex. don’t go around around throwing the world lightly when you have no idea about the reality behind it.

warmandwelcome

there’s not a person in this world who hasn’t embarrassed themselves or hurt someone or made a mistake. learn and grow from these things, rectify them if you can, but don’t dwell on them. we are all human; we are all imperfect.

oldfarmhousefallfeatures

these words are abundantly accurate, we all have experience these emotions one way or another, so be it, move on!

hogwartsderp-deactivated2021090

I am a:

⚪️ man

⚪️ woman

🔘 traumatized bastard

Seeking:

⚪️ men

⚪️ women

🔘 emotional support and validation in a way that doesn’t heighten my anxiety

ohboyfelix

apparently you're supposed to present as "feminine" or "masculine" well i'm presenting as a "fucking idiot"

avianawareness

THEY JUST KEEP GETTING BETTER

diamondnokouzai

“shitty memory” aesthetic

-giving ur friends the same information over and over because u forgot u ever gave it to them

-opening up a new text post only to forget what u were going 2 say

-never changing a wall calendar/needing to look up what day of the week something will be

-literally not being able to remember what happened yesterday/an hour ago/five minutes ago

-forgetting where ur going/what ur doing in the middle of doing it

-flipping through the beginning of a book because u forgot some characters and plot development

-making a typo, make a mental note to fix it, get up to do something, keep typing without fixing the typo

-”haha ur memory cant be THAT bad”

-it can be

-reminding urself 2 do something but u forget

-writing reminders, forgetting that u wrote a reminder/forgetting what was on the reminder/forgetting where u put the reminder

-”just put something in ur room out of place before u go 2 sleep” and ur room has so much shit on the floor u wouldnt even be able 2 tell whats out of place

-alternately: doing the above and then forgetting what it was supposed to remind u of

-did that happen or was i dreaming

-i was gonna put something here but i FORGOT it and i HATE it

unrly-deactivated20210621

So how many business days do you think it takes to heal from trauma? lol asking for a friend.

thetowersystem

aspects of emotionally abusive parent/child relationships that i still can’t believe they included in tangled:

gothel appearing genuinely sweet and caring at times, enough to possibly even confuse the audience

the mumbling: just having that tiny insignificant little thing be something that gothel consistently, for no discernible reason, gets pissed about

having a special “i love you” exchange: seriously like idk if this is common but i had the same sort of thing with my abusive dad and the first time they said the whole “i love you more” “i love you most” thing i was like holy SHIT

when gothel says “oh great, now i’m the bad guy”: i cannot stress enough that 100% of the time any parent who complains about being the bad guy is abusive

and then later when she’s like “you want me to be the bad guy? fine” as if rapunzel’s making her do all this by not wanting to be locked up forever

when rapunzel tells pascal “shh, don’t let her see you”: why wouldn’t gothel want rapunzel to have a pet?? they never explain that, but they don’t need to, because of course she won’t allow rapunzel to have this harmless thing that makes her happy

rapunzel having an entire sequence where she struggles with finally feeling free and happy and also thinking that makes her a terrible person because her mother wouldn’t like it

phloxy-foxxy-deactivated2022062

So many parents treat their children like trained pets as something to control and not an individual that needs taught and nourished in great detail.

furiousgoldfish

If you hurt your child who is already suicidal, if you make your child wish they were never born, then you deserve to have them run away from you, you deserve to know that nobody wants to live with you, nobody wants you to be their family.