I think it would be useful if objectums learned about amatonormativity, because i feel like the concept could be really helpful in our community!
What Is Amatonormativity?
Elizabeth Brake, the coiner of the term, describes it as "the widespread assumption is that everyone is better off in an exclusive, romantic, long-term coupled relationship, and that everyone is seeking such a relationship." It describes the stigma groups like aspecs, arospecs, and polyams and the devaluing of friendship and alternate relationship structures.
Why Would Amatonormativity Include Objectums?
I feel like it could include objectums, fictos, and anyone else who has a "non-standard" partner. Why? Well, the word amatonormativity comes from "amato", the greek word for loved, and normativity, relating to social norms. Having a partner who is an object or who is fictional definitely doesn't sound like it would be included in relationship social norms. The term was not coined with these things in mind, but I feel like there's room for them, especially given the links between the objectum/ficto and aspec communities.
What Does Amatonormativity Look Like Relating to Objectums?
Refusal to call our relationships real
Insistence that we would be happier with a (bodily) human partner
Viewing our relationships as lesser than a (bodily) human x (bodily) human one
Objectums (and fictos, autos, ect.), try to find solidarity in other communities affected by amatonormativity. We need all the allies we can get
Those affected by amatonormatity who aren't objectum (or ficto), respect these different relationship types as real and fulfilling. Otherwise, you are playing into the same kind of societal assumptions about relationships and romance that affect you.
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