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Circular scars - Cazador, Vellioth BG3 comic [TW violence, blood]

I wonder if anyone even cares for these characters haha, but I really liked the little hidden story of them so I wanted to draw it. (That being said I don't think the events the game is telling did not happen on one single day, but I wanted to put it in a short comicstrip lol)

But yeah, this was my idea of "what if Vellioth was a handsome man who looked and behaved a little bit like Astarion" haha~

Most DnD vampires are designed to charm people so I was always a bit surprised that Cazadors design was very ...hm...inconspicuous, I suppose.

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I hate how some of our lives revolve around the louder of the mental health community. The ones who demand for people's emotional labor all the time or use those cute lil psychology buzzwords to trap other people with mental illnesses with guilt trips.

It's always "put your time aside when someone trauma dumps. When someone vents. When someone is angry and triggered by something unrelated. Keep an eye out for friends who do this or that. Always be available for anything. Be ready to talk to them about anything, even if it's triggering." Before y'all deny, yes it happens.

Y'all just... make DEMANDS to random people you don't know, to extend a listening ear before you even consider the *quiet* illnesses/symptoms that other people might be going through. Grief, paranoia, anxiousness, distrust, trauma, etc. Things that make it hard to be an effective communicator and listener in the moment. I hear y'all constantly say to listen and lend a hand but you never check with them to see if they're in a good mental space to take more grief or pain from problems that aren't even theirs.

And then y'all take a step further and guilt trip people! "If you don't talk to them, you'll regret it! They'll die and it'll be your fault! You're an awful friend and not a good mental health advocate!" As if that's not just a bunch of fear mongering tactics to guilt trip someone into becoming exhausted and deal with compassion fatigue because they'd rather suffer than let their friends suffer. That's enabling people pleasing behavior and it's very toxic and not at all mental health advocacy. Not to mention possibly *triggering* to trauma or paranoia.

You're not doing people any favors and that's why y'all constantly shout it in the first place. You feel resentful because no matter how much you try to force conversation so you can vent their ear off, you don't feel quite heard enough. You think guilt tripping will make it better but it WON'T. They're gonna get more and more tired and you're gonna get louder and louder and nobody will feel heard or respected because you don't see them as a separate person with their own separate things. Some of you don't even bother asking if something is wrong with them before jumping the gun to offense.

And the worst part is some of y'all think that type of shit is FAIR. "they need to stick up for themselves". Or "it's not my job to care about them". Or "they aren't the expressive type so the least they can do is listen." Some of y'all LIKE the doormats of the mental health community. Because instead of seeking professional help, looking up healthy coping mechanisms, or at least seeking consent, you'd rather exploit a bunch of yes-men so you feel temporary relief, and then you get to blame them when everyone is too tired to keep it up, because y'all got too comfortable in the roles of giver and taker. And act like it's their fault that they're not mentally healthy and being irresponsible, when you guilt tripped them into not caring about themselves by saying their friends would die if they didn't!

Y'all wanna sit in your toxic traits and negative symptoms and push all of it onto other people and they're just supposed to have the "good" symptoms while dealing with it. Y'all HATE when we finally tell you our boundaries because you think it's disrespectful. Because y'all have the expectation that there are those who are supposed to baby and give and they're not mentally ill enough to need help (and if they are, it's "a lot easier to control"), and those who are like feral beasts and can do whatever because "they're impossible to get under control" so the only thing to do is appease them and understand them! Obviously there's no way someone can be held responsible for something if they already came into this world, foaming and ravenous. /sarcasm

Listen, the reality is it's impossible for people pleasers to learn healthiness if people constantly guilt trip them and make them feel like boundaries and self control towards their empathy is *wrong*, just as impossible it is for you to learn self control if you manipulate people to cater to you and never want to hear the words "no" or "not now".

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To anybody who might see this, July in the states is disability pride month. As someone who’s past decade plus has been a journey towards understanding, accepting, and advocating for my psychological and physical disabilities and my whole life, aiding disabled family members, I want make it known that: the way many of us feel you can help us the most, is not by “pretending” we’re abled, like we’re just like everyone else, because we’re *not*

When disabilities are ignored, or treated as just “uniquely abled”, it falls on the disabled to maintain abled people’s comfort; to make our disabilities small, to not advocate for equity and the bettering of our lives in a supposedly equal society.

Equality is not equity.

Differences must be acknowledged, understood, and worked around *by abled people* for any true progress to be made.

Most people think this is government related. I know abled people as individuals can’t change that there’s little to no wheel chair access in their bustling city, that the sidewalks are cracked and filled with lips. An abled person can’t make public schools treat autistic kids with humanity, or children with memory-relates disabilities able to always have notes for their exams. They can’t make the employers stop firing us, or the government give us our right to marriage when living under SSI.

What I’m asking for is Empathy. True empathy. The kind that informs your beliefs, and actions. Talk to disabled people. Get to know them. I promise you, you have a disabled person in your family or social circle. Really be inquisitive about their experiences, struggles, and frustrations.

Acknowledge your privilege. Your ease of access to the world. Really sit in it. Absorb it. Your empathy will only grow. And when enough abled people do even just this, the world for us becomes less hostile. It becomes more livable. We become no longer burdens, but cherished by our communities, our families and friends. And trust me, even though the world is not built for me, and I have to consistently jump through 10,000 hoops to achieve even the smallest of victories for an abled person, and my body hurts and breaks down, so I get in a chair on wheels, or get out my cane, or put on my noise cancelling headphones, and just come across obstacle after obstacle -

The majority of the pain comes from the stares. The glances. The questioning. The points when you see the patience leave the eyes of the one who you thought loved you unconditionally, and you remember your place in our collective culture. And fuck man. You recall how workable all the bureaucracy and hurdles felt, how manageable it was to push forward (it’s what you always do) … before you were reminded of where you sit on the totem poll, and how conditional worth is in our society.

Disabled people are worthy. We are valuable. But we need you to believe it, or nothing will ever change.