i believe in you

Ive been diagnosed with some shit but thats not completely me. This is a safe place. I do not promote ED’s or self harm. Inbox is always open🖤

[gentlemanhoneyfarmer]

[iamquietlydrowning]

i’m destroyed, i fucking hate you 

[angelictrauma]

im hot

H ard to love O bnoxious T errible

[onceuponasuicide]

Me: *arguing with fp*

BPD: "okay so look, you see that cup of water?"

Me: ....stop it

BPD: just listen for a second. no phone=no argument 😀

[onceuponasuicide]

I wanted you to look at me the way you look at her, yet she wasn’t yours...I was.

am i enough for you?

[onceuponasuicide]

I may not be her, but I know I have more love to give than her.

would that be enough?

[eunoe-deactivated20200524]

[lewky]

[suckmyassbitchh]

[suckmyassbitchh]

[onceuponasuicide]

Daily Reminder

I haven’t been any kinds of active on here but do remember that healing is ABSOLUTELY possible. You are not who you think you are. You ARE worthy. You ARE loved.

[unwakeable]

Anywhere / @pastelgaze instagram

[sandersstudies]

If you and your partner practice frequent, non-sexual consent, your relationship will be healthier and easier.

“Are you comfortable with me ranting about my day for a few minutes?”

“Oh, this is your poetry? Would it be okay if I read it?”

“Do you mind if I use your phone for a few minutes?”

“Wow, your meal looks awesome. Could I try some?”

It will save a lot of grief, especially in a developing relationship. Eventually, with consistent “yes’s” and “no’s” you can figure out more permanent boundaries and guidelines.

“I need to ask before ranting about my day or taking their food, but my partner is okay with me using their phone whenever. However, my partner does not like me reading their poetry unless they offer first.”

[sandersstudies]

And this goes for friendships too! Even just stuff like “do you mind if I leave this door open?” 

[doomhamster]

…I never fully realized it before but this is a big part of why my relationship with my husband is so conflict-free. Both because him doing this all the time made it easy to trust him, back when we were a new item, and because it helped ME break out of the toxic idea that you should never ask about a partner’s preferences because if you Really Loved Them you should be able to intuit what they want, all the time, about anything. 

[tygermama]

my one son is autistic so I ask ‘hug or no hug?’ I always knock and wait to be acknowledged before opening my sons’ bedroom doors (not just because I respect their privacy but because they’re teenagers and I don’t want to walk in on any personal activities) I don’t go into their rooms without asking I don’t touch their phones without asking (I’ll pick one up to take to them if I find it in another room but I won’t go through it) yesterday, my younger son walked into my room, stopped, said sorry and walked out to the hall and knocked on my door ‘because if I have to knock on his door, he has to knock on mine’ because their trust is important and I want them to know I respect their privacy

[sophygurl]

Consent is not just for sex. Consent is not just for sex. Consent is not just for sex.

[enscenic]

bam

[hypnophibian]

Yes. Just because they were OK with a thing last time, doesn’t mean there is blanket consent to do the thing whenever. This concept seems impossible for vanilla people :(

[magicalgirlpropaganda]

The whole self love thing is good and all but some people can’t fathom being loved. They can’t imagine there being anything good about them. So they can’t simply just stop doing unhealthy things, there’s a process.

[sandersstudies]

Before self love you have to invoke self tolerance and self neutrality.

[sandersstudies]

If you can’t say “I love my body!” say “my body gets me from place to place.”

If you can’t say “I’m beautiful,” begin by shutting down the “I’m ugly” thoughts and saying “I’m a person.”

If you can’t say “I’m valuable” begun by shutting down the “I’m worthless” thoughts and say “all people deserve basic respect, and I’m a person.”

If you can’t say “I’m important,” or “I’m kind” say “I am the one who waters my plant every week” or “I am the one who tips the kind barista down the street” or “I am the one who makes sure my dog does not eat plastic” or “I am the one who leaves long comments on people’s fan fictions.”

[closetedguyy]

I’ve genuinely never seen a way to bridge the gap, especially body-wise. There’s loads about self-confidence and loving your body EVERYWHERE, but no one really explains how to get there. It’s great to have the former, but I’m glad this info is out there.

[samxcamargo]

If you’re scrolling through tumblr trying to distract yourself from something you don’t want to think about or you’re looking for a sign that everything will be okay, this is it. So, breathe. Relax into this moment. You’re alive & that’s all that matters.

[lightheartedsuggestion]

shoutout to those who are trying to get better.

keep it up. i’m proud of you.

[thegoodvybe]