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The more I think about it the more I regret certain parts about our wedding. I wish I had been more selective and careful in choosing my bridesmaids. I wish I had chosen only those people who I knew, for sure, were 100% invested.

icreateblackimages

The Nutcracker dance you’ve NEVER seen before!

ayemuhhfucka

fuckin amazing 👏🏾🔥

birdungehrl

this is the kind of art I want to see in the world

pthalocy

watch it without sound and you still know when every note falls. That’s some Damn Fine choreography!

azriona

OMG, the smile on the guy in the middle. LOVE.

Oh, goody. I fucked up New Years. Again.

sunflwrwitch

Boycott “Split.”

This is a horror movie that’s not out yet but just seeing the trailer really pissed me off. The trailer basically described a movie about this mentally ill man that kidnaps these girls and its heavily implied he’s going to kill them. The man is said to have a ‘personality disorder’ (It’s not actually a personality disorder it’s been reclassified as Dissociative Identity Disorder) and that alone already gives people the impression mentally ill people are dangerous. However, they go on to say that the man has 23 different personalities, which the woman diagnosing him claims that she’s “never seen a case like this” when in reality there are people recorded to have many more identities than this, and someone treating DID would know this. Overall, the movie really portrays the symptoms wrong and it’s another movie that demonizes mentally ill people. Please save your money and see another movie.

alittleporfle

Normally I wouldn’t reblog stuff like this here, but please don’t see this movie. Dissociative Identity Disorder is so misunderstood to where it’s constantly played off to be faked/made up, so “rare” you would never meet anyone with it (it’s actually about as common, if not more, than schizophrenia or autism, but misdiagnosis and stigma even in the medical field is rampant), or in the case of this movie, portraying those with DID like dangerous killers.

I’m appalled that it’s almost 2017 and we have a movie like this coming out when DID gets so little recognition that this is just really dangerous misinformation to spread, for not just mentally ill folk, but those with DID specifically.

Dissociative Identity Disorder is not a personality disorder (and referring to it as multiple personalities is incorrect), but a Dissociative disorder that develops in childhood when repeated trauma causes a child to be unable to integrate a singular sense of self. New alters form in response to a stressful/traumatic situation. Titling the movie “Split” is even more horrific because it’s using a term specifically used to refer to when an individual with DID undergoes enough trauma/stress to have to split a new alter to survive as a horror movie title portraying alters as dangerous.

If you’re interested in learning more accurate information, I usually recommend this site because it is wonderful: http://did-research.org/

There’s also a page here that debunks some myths: http://did-research.org/did/myths.html

At this point I don't even want to bother trying to have kids. I'll just live vicariously through my sister and nephew/niece.

monosrojo

epiphanies

Can I have a reproductive system that makes sense and works properly?

accras

“This video of this adorable little girl encouraging her Dad while he tries to do her hair, is just what we needed to brighten up our day.” [X]

startrekrenegades

[Dad: How’m I doing on your hair? Child: Good! Dad: Let’s see, do I need more grease? Child: Yes. You need more grease on there. Dad: More grease? And then what? Child: And then you gonna need to brush it, and then you put a band on there. Dad: A band on it? Child: Yeah! Dad: Aww.. Child: You’re getting it through! You’re almost done! You’re doing a good job! Dad: Aww, thank you, sweetheart, so much! Daddy’s trying, doing the best I can. Thank you so much. Child: You’re welcome! Dad: I’m almost done! Child: You been doing great! Dad: Aw baby, thank you so much, you’re so encouraging to Dad. Thank you. Child: You’re welcome. Dad: I really appreciate you so much. You’re so awesome. Daddy getting your ponytails ready for school.]

gardnerhill

Interrupting all the political ugliness to make you melt with cute.

sangrexderramada

Me as a father

black-to-the-bones-deactivated2

this is so pure

valerie1972

Kids that age are parrots of tone and phrasing. So the whole bit with “You’re getting it through! You’re almost done! You’re doing a good job!” means that there is at least one adult, if not more, in her life that regularly talks to her that way.

Everything about this video makes me happy.

riverssecrets

This is good parenting

My niece and nephew are giving me serious baby fever. Ugh.

IM SO FUCKING TIRED OF ALL THE GOD DAMN PREGNANCY ANNOUNCEMENTS ON FACEBOOK. STOP REMINDING ME THAT I'M BROKEN/DEFECTIVE.

https://www.gofundme.com/safe-space-for-lgbtq-foster-youth

#LGBTQIA+#foster youth #mental health #creative therapy #advocacy #education

Oh, joy. Look at all the people having babies on my Facebook newsfeed. I’m over here all like, “Does my uterus even work correctly?”

thingsisaidweredumb

I really don’t get this thing with social media where we let employers dictate our lives and take away autonomy outside of the workplace. They pay us for the time we are there. They do not pay us to keep our facebooks squeaky clean of things we wouldn’t do at work.

And instead of collective public outrage at their insistence that we should behave outside of work the way we are expected to behave at work because they pay us to behave that way at work…… we roll over and let them do it. I can’t tell you how many friends of mine ask me if I think something would be appropriate on their facebook page. 25 year olds afraid to post a photo of them at a bar with a glass of beer because their employers or grad school admission boards would punish them for it? as if a 25 year old having a glass of beer is scandalous and wrong?

Things like a friend questioning a parody beatboxing video on her instagram or friends not wanting to have a sparkler with the word “fuck” on their instagrams. Again, 25 year olds. A 25 year old person censoring “fuck” from their personal instagram because they aren’t allowed to say it at work as if that should have any bearing on their saying it not at work.

This is unethical. Employers should not have the right to dictate how we behave outside of work. We need to collectively present outrage and demand that our personal lives be personal lives. Or else when you get employed, they don’t own your time while you’re at work…. they own your life. This is unchecked capitalism and it’s really not okay. If this is our lives, what the fuck is freedom and personal choice? Who has agency? It’s not okay.

catherinethesoso

alton brown: alright, chefs. you have thirty minutes to prepare… chicken. as i’m sure you already know, chicken is typically prepared with chicken, and has a nice flavor of chicken

some chef, inevitably: i look in my basket and i realize i forgot the chicken

archive48

“Doctors who spent years studying the human body”

Do you mean doctors who spent years learning about abled white cis men’s bodies

arlovskayas-deactivated20150823

do you know anything about the world besides what you read on tumblr

fempunkandkittens

Okay but this is true?? Shut up with your bullshit, the medical industry for a very very long time has used the able bodied white cis male as their standard and that has very real healthcare consequences for a lot of people.

Do you know why most women don’t know when they’re having heart attacks? Why heart attacks kill more women than men? Because symptoms of a heart attack are different for women and the ones that doctors usually recognize and publicize are the symptoms experienced by men. Do you know why it’s so difficult for Black and Brown people to get diagnosed if they have skin cancer? Because doctors have been taught to recognize it on white people. People of size are constantly told that their problems are entirely because of their weight and doctors don’t even bother to look beyond that to be sure that’s the case. So those people have medical conditions go undiagnosed properly for years, and die in the process. Fuck, even just the fact that people think it’s okay to charge women more for healthcare because “they have extra parts” (?????) is indicative of the way the male body has been considered the standard for fucking ever. And the healthcare needs of disabled people or trans people? Forget about it.

OP is 1000% right. The medical industry has used the able cis white male body as their standard of care for CENTURIES and that has real consequences for the rest of us today. It’s getting better but it’s not where it should be. So fuck off with your snarky commentary, you’re wrong. The healthcare industry is not equipped to handle the needs of people with disabilities, women, PoC, trans people, people of size, etc. and that’s in large part due to the fact that the established body of medical knowledge was created by studying able, cis, white male bodies almost exclusively.

words-writ-in-starlight

Hey there folks, speaking as a trained EMT and a pre-med student, I can confirm that the above person is approximately 7000% accurate. In my EMT training, I would repeatedly ask ‘’but what if my patent is a woman” or “what is my patient is a person of color” and at first all I got was shock. Then I got confused bumbling. I got some answers–basic symptoms of a heart attack in women, how to recognize cyanosis in someone of color, the basics of how to work with an autistic patient or someone who for whatever reason can’t communicate well with you. In fact, EMTs and other EMS workers are getting a lot better at learning the differences between the health care for a person of color or someone disabled. We were even told that we would need to ask our patients for their biological sex (I know, I’m really sorry, I know that there are people who find this intensely uncomfortable or even harmful, but there are real medical reasons for this and most decent EMTs will use whatever pronouns you ask them to). But most if not all of the answers we were given about women were directly related to gynecological issues. The guys teaching me? They were good guys. Nice. Funny. Smart. Devoted to caring for patients. Impassioned about protecting people, especially women and teenaged girls, from assault. Largely not sexist toward me or their coworkers. Hell, they were even smart enough to say “listen, boys, the women in this class have a higher pain tolerance than you, they just do, and as a rule if a women says their pain is a 5 on a scale of 1-10, assume it’s somewhere around an 8” when a kid laughed during the gyno unit. But they just didn’t know what to say when I asked “so if you’re supposed to palpate the patient’s chest, what do you do if your patient’s a triple-D” or when I asked “so if your patient gets menstrual migraines, how do you know if this headache is a stroke or not.” They had never been taught. This is a real problem, one that many medical professionals work hard to remedy once they start practicing. But this is not bullshit. At all. The standard patient is a cis white guy with no disabilities or chronic illnesses. It’s a huge fucking problem and I’m going to need you to step down with your bullshit, there, friend.

smallercomfort

This is an issue with mental health too, where people of color (black and Hispanic people especially) are less likely to be taken seriously with mental issues, and where community outreach for these groups is very very different from the kinds of programs that might be effective for white people.

Autism is rarely diagnosed in women because the symptoms doctors look for are all specific to men. Doctors used to blame depression and other mental illnesses in women on a misbehaving uterus, and it’s still a struggle for women to get their symptoms taken seriously enough to merit proper treatment.

Mental health for LGBT people has a long history of being an oppressive shitshow, given how long it took the medical community to stop pathologizing sexuality and gender identity. (Conversion therapy is still legal!)

jackironsides

As well as autism rarely being diagnosed in women, it’s also harder for a person of colour to be diagnosed, as it’s perceived as being a middle-class+ white man’s disease.

And! We didn’t know how large the clitoris was until THE NINETIES because no-one thought it was worth investigating. Thanks to a female researcher in Melbourne, Australia, we know that it’s roughly a wishbone shape, and has two ‘legs’ that extend down under the labia majora.

(I am proud of my memory as I read this in a book five years ago, but here’s a link. The researcher’s name is Helen O’Connell.)

thegirlwhocutthemoonintwo-deact

Yes yes yes

x-h3kk3ning-x

Person: This systematic oppression is such bullshit Anti-SJW: um excuse u tumblr isn’t god so how do u believ evrything u read here, checkmate :) Person: *pulls out a hundred sources and receipts about how sociology is kind of a science with evidence* Other people: *join in with the receipts* Anti-SJW: *sweats nervously from such a cosmic drag* Random shit: Tumblr is so mean :(

legalizememes

litterbot

Scientists discover most relaxing tune ever

Sound therapists and Manchester band Marconi Union compiled the song. Scientists played it to 40 women and found it to be more effective at helping them relax than songs by Enya, Mozart and Coldplay. Weightless works by using specific rhythms, tones, frequencies and intervals to relax the listener. A continuous rhythm of 60 BPM causes the brainwaves and heart rate to synchronise with the rhythm: a process known as ‘entrainment’. Low underlying bass tones relax the listener and a low whooshing sound with a trance-like quality takes the listener into an even deeper state of calm.