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Daddy caught me by surprise this morning. He's usually so tired when he gets home from work, but he wanted to toy with his babygirl. Thank you for joining us.
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by cookiesnmilks
Daddy caught me by surprise this morning. He's usually so tired when he gets home from work, but he wanted to toy with his babygirl. Thank you for joining us.
Showing up for yourself begins with the small, everyday things we tend to overlook. Think about how you prepare when someone you care about or want to impress is coming over. You tidy up your space, take a shower, dress well, and put effort into how you present yourself. Why? Because you value that person and want them to see the best version of you. You care about how they perceive you.
Loving yourself works the same way. It means holding yourself in high regard, enough to show up for yourself even when no one else is watching. That might look like waking up, showering, and smelling good just for you. It’s cleaning your room because you deserve to live in a space that feels calm, clean, and beautiful. It’s cooking a meal that not only nourishes you but looks good on the plate, because you matter. It’s going to the gym and celebrating your progress because you love the strength you’re building. It’s not tolerating mistreatment because you wouldn’t want that for someone you love, and you should love yourself just as fiercely.
It also means nurturing your mind and being proud of your personal growth, the same way you admire others who are knowledgeable and confident in their fields. To show up for yourself fully, you first have to recognize your own worth. That starts with letting go of the need for external validation. Your opinion of yourself should be the one that matters most. When your foundation is built on self-respect and self-worth, you’ll naturally begin to show up as your best self, and the world will respond to that.
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Hey, it's me.
I … I am …sorry… -she said
Why? -I said
I… I don’t know. I just … -she said
You no longer may say “I am sorry” - I said
Wha..? I am sor… -she stopped
Mhmm that’s my good girl. -I said
Why? - she asked
You did not answer my question. - I said
O… I’m sor - she stopped
Umm… I was scared … - she confessed
I was anxious … - she confessed
I was unsure … - she confessed
I was anxious … - she confessed
Did you lash out? - I asked
Were you disrespectful? - I asked
Did you harm me? - I asked
… she paused …
No. None of those things. - she admitted
Then do not apologize. - I said
Ever. Never. For how you feel. -I said
You may not be sorry for feeling. You are human. Your fear, anxiety and confusion… are not an insult to others. - I said
“I am not sorry.” Say it. - I directed
Again. Say it. - I instructed
“I am not sorry.” - she whispered
Now get your pathetic ass into my lap.
- I instructed.
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Being sorry is appropriate for when you have wronged someone. Absolutely. But how often do you say “I’m sorry” as an offhand response to your emotional response to a situation? Feeling fear and anxiety and confusion do not insult others but they do hinder and harm you IF you don’t learn to navigate them. To ride the crazy train through to the next stop at the city center of Feeling Bettersville.
I’m sure this could have been written more better. But I’m not sorry. 😉
by lrevelations
After fucking her doggy style on the couch, it's her turn to ride him.
Giving Too Much, Too Fast
Someone once told me that there are three things you should never do until you feel like you'll absolutely die if you don't: have sex, get married, and make a baby. I always said that I fucked up two of those, but at least I got the third one right. Ignoring that this advice is deeply rooted in sexism, it's stuck with me. There are some things that are so big or irreversible that you should hesitate. You should move carefully and be very sure of every step.
I've been thinking about this as it relates to the beginning of a D/s relationship. As a submissive, there’s that rush of excitement when a potential Dominant takes control. It feels so good to get an order or obey an order—to suddenly feel that thread of connection and control. And you just want more and more and more.
But sometimes you crave the feeling of submission so much that you move too fast. Sometimes you agree to new rules that you’re not quite ready for. Sometimes you commit quickly to someone who hasn’t shown they are trustworthy. You give power that you later realize you shouldn't have given.
It takes time to build the kind of trust needed to commit to a person, especially when it comes to power exchange relationships. There’s no shortcut. You can’t trust someone when you haven’t seen how they respond to conflict or how they handle stress. And you especially can’t trust them to make decisions and set rules for you.
This is why I always tried to take D/s dating slowly. I tried to hold my boundaries firm and only give control when I was sure I was ready to give it. This slow, deliberate approach gave me time to build trust and also to see whether a Dominant would respect my boundaries.
Submissives can and should have boundaries, especially early in a relationship. And Dominants will bump up against them sometimes. That isn’t necessarily a problem. It’s not a bad sign for Dominants to want to take more control early on; they are just as eager as submissives. But they need to know how to respond to being told no.
Two tales of “no”: One Dominant wanted me to start keeping a daily journal for her…after our third date. I said I’d be happy to write about a specific topic or experience, but that I was not ready for a standing rule. She called it topping from the bottom and said I wasn’t a real submissive. Contrast that with the Dominant who told me on the first date that I could call him Sir, then backed off when I said I wasn’t ready for titles. Two different responses to my boundary, which told me a lot about their trustworthiness. And I never would have known if I’d said yes to both.
Then when Monsieur and I started dating, I practically ached to submit to him. I wanted to give him control over everything, right from the start. He felt like he could be my forever person. Still, we wanted to take it slow. So we started with a few small rules in place during dates. And then a few tasks here and there. Then he’d express a preference or propose a potential rule (e.g., making the bed every morning), and I’d have to think it through.
It was never a question of wanting to obey him. But I had to consider whether I was ready for it. I didn’t want to create an expectation if I wasn’t ready to be consistent with it. So I would wait until I felt very, very sure before giving him control over something. I didn’t exactly wait until I thought I’d die if I didn’t do it… But I took each step carefully. This helped us to lay a solid foundation. I needed to be able to trust his leadership, and he needed to be able to trust that I would follow.
It was so unlike all the times I'd been wheedled into handing over control. All those times made me feel weaker. Smaller. But when I waited until I felt truly ready to give a piece of control, it felt empowering. It was a gift I chose to give, rather than something that was stolen out from underneath me.
When you give your submission too early, it’s based on what you assume about a person, not what they have proven themselves to be. You assume they respect your boundaries, but those boundaries haven’t been tested. That’s a dangerous place to be.
Submissives are in the challenging position of wanting to give themselves to a Dominant but also needing to guard themselves against those who don’t have their best interests at heart. The only way I’ve found to do this is to only give my submission gradually, bit by bit, and only when I am sure I’m ready.
Sometimes taking it slow makes a big difference.
Comment (via whitewright):
“Excellent. One concept many dominants could stand to learn is that when you receive the submission of a powerful and strong submissive, the gift is so much more valuable. If you manipulate someone into submitting, what have you gained? Full and considered submission is a tremendous honor to receive.”
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