Self-Care & Helpful Tips for INFJ “The Counselor”
Always need to have a cause
Having to focus too much on sensory/concrete details
An overload of sensory stimulation or noise
Distress within a close relationship
Having their values violated
Not enough alone time. Too much extraverting.
Working with closed-minded people
Lack of appreciation or understanding
Unfamiliar environments with overwhelming amounts of details
Not having a clear direction
Not being able to use their intuition or envision the future
Having to focus too much on the present
How to help an INFJ experiencing stress
Reduce sensory stimulation; music, interruptions, TV, etc,..
Let them express their thoughts and feelings.
Understand that they may be irrational. Don’t judge them.
Don’t give advice. This will only stress them out further.
Let them take a break from some of their responsibilities
Encourage them to spend some time in nature, walking or reading a book.
Take a walk with them if they want company.
Encourage their less serious side, and let them relieve emotional tension by letting them cry through a sappy movie or novel of some sort.
Be forgiving if they’ve been overly harsh or critical while under stress. Chances are, they will feel very guilty about it.
Try to figure out the meaning behind the situation
Internalizing their feelings
Overthink every little action they make
What INFJ should do after a Bad Day
A good long laugh with a friend they can be silly with and possibly some time outdoors/in nature
What INFJ is like when Angry
If slightly angered, retreats and ices out the opposing party. If deeply angered (this is rare), will use every one of the other person’s weaknesses against them until they have completely psychologically undermined them.
What INFJ should do Instead (when upset)
Communicate openly with the person they are angry with in order to find a solution, rather than letting it reach a breaking point.
Keeping in touch with the Physical world
What INFJ are Hard on themselves for
Being good enough/Perfectionism
Just because the world is cold sometimes, doesn’t mean there aren’t trustworthy people out there. Manipulating isn’t always the best way to keep people in your life.
What INFJ should Never Forget
You are a pillar of strength and hope for many people. You help many of us understand what we want out of life, and give us the courage to go for it.
