I found myself this past week being a part of the Silent Protest at the University of the Witwatersrand, a good cause that raises awareness of the silence most victims go through and gives encouragement about the realities sexual violence. I have to admit it was very hard getting taped and going the whole day in silence, it was emotionally draining and frustrating. as part of the march there are guest speakers and one one the speakers got talking about how we should not make sex some sort of secret as it is around us and we should express our sexual prowess and not feel embarrassed by it. This got me thinking that at the very thought of sex I get very uncomfortable but this is my reality. I realize that my reality even though I would like to have a society that TALKS and expresses their needs in terms of how they are to had, or want to give out sex I know that because society mold us in such a way that even in our closed bedroom doors we don't feel comfortable to explore ways of pleasuring others and ourselves. I am aware that we may read on this subject and hear about it bu my worry is when will YOU go out and tell your partner “You ain’t hitting it right,I prefer...”