I'm D and I'd like to talk to Jumin or Akiyoshj I guess? I just... I'm asexual and not open about it but I pass as straight to my parents in part because I play Otome games and other things. I just... it gets harder every year for me to have to pretend and lie. I have no need for relationships and what desire I have is satisfied by friendships and Otome games. I just, I'm tired of lie I guess? Any advice?
Akiyoshi would rush to meet you at the entrance, breathing heavily like he’d just ran a mile. Though it’s probably mostly true, in some form, as the OHC is rather spacious. When he finally reaches you, he smiles apologetically to you, “I’m so sorry about taking so long to get to you.”, after catching his breath, he holds his arm out for you, and gestures for you to come with him, upon doing so, he rests his hand on your upper back and guides you through the sofas towards a plush sofa nearest to a heater.
After settling down, he orders a drink of your choice and some snacks to go with it. “How can I help you today, D?” he asks, and after hearing you out, he considers what advice he could give you. “I think what you need to ask yourself is, essentially; what your parents are like, would they judge you? consider that prospect first, because… from my perspective… there’s a variety of ways to approach it… you can either, hint at it slowly, open up to them about things YOU want, without directly admitting that it’s to do with your sexual orientation.”
“When a situation arises, educate them on the different orientations, without actually saying that’s what you are. If they happen to bring up your hobbies (otome), say that it’s just that, a hobby, its okay to want a relationship in your own time, you are welcome to be happy as you are right now. I doubt they’ll think that you have to rush into relationships to be fair, that said: don’t press the issue if you choose to open up to them about it, when they say ‘’you just haven’t found the one yet’’, leave it for a bit and then go back to it.”
“On the other hand, you don’t have to tell anyone if you don’t want to, if that’s what you’re comfortable with, that is. For what it’s worth; I don’t think you’re lying to your parents, its more of a question on whether you’re ready to tell them just yet, if at all - and that’s fine too, it’s really only you and your partner that needs to know, really. Write down how you feel, cover the basics; you’re happy as you are, you can always adopt, it’s not like going to take away your chances of having a family in that respect.”
“You have nothing to feel guilty of, by not telling anyone. it’s what you need at the end of the day,” he says, and reaches forward to take a sip of his drink, and looks back to you with a smile, “for what it’s worth, I think you’re very brave to admit something about yourself, even if it seems minor to you, and it shows how much you respect your parents, to want to tell them… but like I said; if you don’t want to tell anyone, you don’t have to either… I hope I helped though, even a little bit.” he looks down to the folder that had been placed whilst he offered his advice.
He then looks up, back to you, and starts to say, “My ‘boss’ found some sites who specialise in LGBT+ support and thought that they might help you, if I didn’t, she found some from all over the world because we aren’t sure where you’re from… but we hope that they can help you better, if I haven’t been able to today..”. Akiyoshi pushes the site pages over towards you, and smiles softly, he waits by your side until you’re ready to leave. When you are, he walks you to the door and helps you with your coat, and smiles as you leave the OHC.
Resources: (x - UK), (x - UK) (x - Ireland), (x - UK there is email too), (x - USA), (x - USA), (x - USA), (x - USA).
