Morsmordre

Dylan // 23 // from Ireland... Baby Irish Polytheist 🌞 Slytherin 🐍 Feel free to peruse at your leisure, if you've any questions ask away

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[milsae]

Self-care

[having-it-all]

Nina Petrova (Bulgaria)   “The jealousy of Harlequin”,  2018,   oil on canvas

[warrenbritt]

Dolly Parton let you know it's not a game outchea!

[riotneko]

[bellabellicoseatetrixiesstar-de]

Drew Barrymore photographed by Mario Sorrenti, 1996

[grantcary]

Nosferatu pops by for a visit

[sickromantics]

[thepoetryofascension]

miracles in february. wealth in february. love in february. comfort in february. laughter in february. bliss in february. success in february. friendship in february. beauty in february. joy in february. harmony in february. blessings in february. balance in february. soul in february.

[cannibalchicken]

[almostreading]

I’ve finally been getting back to shooting film again

[38947ndhjhwer2]

this was one of the most beautiful skies i’ve seen all year

[ketzalcoatl]

[konoko]

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[koraiseishin]

[writhe]

i have a hill to die on real quick

[writhe]

phrases like “you don’t owe anyone anything” and “relationships aren’t transactional” have the power to be used in ways that are very backwards and harmful

for example, no you don’t owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you don’t owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.

but, you can’t use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. “you don’t owe anyone anything” isn’t an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isn’t an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one

relationships aren’t transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures

but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isn’t healthy. one person can’t solely take and the other person can’t solely give- that’s dangerous, and you can’t put the bandaid of “this isn’t transactional” over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities

i’m tired of seeing these things being misconstrued and used as an excuse to hurt people, while framing it as a way of taking care of yourself

[decaflesbian]

i think abt this all the time!!!