[llleighsmith]

lbr i’ll probably marry someone i met on tumblr ………

[decaflesbian]

Hi :) I'm reblogging this post of yours dating from 2015. I scheduled a reblog of it to post today, September 30th, 2023, because it is the day you marry me, someone you met on tumblr not long after making this post. I cant wait to become your wife later today when we go to the courthouse in san francisco. I cant wait to celebrate our love with all our friends and family afterwards in our town. I cant wait to dance with you and hold you close and read my vows to you, and make sure you know how much you mean to me, nearly 8 years later. I hope today, when we do all of these things, you feel like the most special and cherished woman on earth because you are my world and my whole heart. So. I guess what I want to say at the end of the day is....thanks for the follow ;)

[decaflesbian]

if anyone wants to follow the blog im gonna be more active on, message me and ill tell you my url & follow back :o) im trying to phase posting on this one out since it can be found by googling my name ! eek!

[decaflesbian]

worked a half day, dropped my bike off to get its flat fixed, about to prep some bread for the week, then pick up groceries and drop by the cider bar to grab a bottle to enjoy tonight :) then a $10 baseball game at giants stadium tomorrow with my love! having a fun start to the summer so far !

[decaflesbian]

yall wanna know something crazy..I was talking to my sister on the phone today (she's 2 years married) about my wedding later this year and she said that she and her spouse, like us, got married in their 7th year together. They got married in my sister's birth month. Leigh and I are getting married in what is both our birth month. AND my sister said she got married when she was turning 30. I turn 30 only a few days before we get married. Something was in the water in 2015 for us to both find the loves of our lives within months of each other and then to get married under the literal exact same circumstances!!!

[solisaureus]

came home drunk last night and got way too excited to see my cat

[decaflesbian]

Smiling so much thinking about my day yesterday with leigh :’) we had breakfast and drank tea and then drove to the ferry station and we were a little late so we RAN to the dock and watched the ferry pull away lol like everyone on board saw us rushing to get there and then just watch them float away slowly 😭 but we laughed about it so much and then came back for the next one that we did NOT miss! And we sat and watched the city pass the windows and watched as we sailed under the bridge and it was SO sunny out and the water was so gorgeous and blue. We walked all around the ferry building buying such fresh fruits and veggies and filled a bag with stuff to cook with later this week. We werent far from north beach where I wanted to go so we walked the 20 min it takes to get there and because its san francisco most of it was uphill lol we got so sweaty by the time we got to north beach and walked ourselves right into cafe trieste, which is the first coffee shop on the west coast to serve espresso based drinks (and has been around since the 1950s).

It was such a classic old school italian cafe inside with a little band of old men playing flutes and accordions and singing and we shared such a good dark roast traditional cappuccino with a cannoli :) we wandered a few streets over into a festival that was happening all around columbus park, with puppeteers and food stalls and more music, and sooo many people sitting out on blankets on the grass and dancing. I popped into pizelle di north beach for a slice of pizza that I ate while we just talked and laughed about silly things and walked through the city. Then we scored $10 tickets to a giants baseball game in a few weeks! Hopped back on the ferry (we had to run to catch it, again LOL) and took it home :) I cant wait to marry leigh and have even more days like this.

[decaflesbian]

Was so caught up in getting my medical records sent over to my new psychiatrist so she wouldnt re test me for my preexisting adhd diagnosis I forgot that they also wrote down my anxiety as SEVERE lmao im like, im just out here. worried. at all times.

[decaflesbian]

Ferry -> SF -> ferry building farmers market -> walk to north beach for italian coffee and a cannoli = beautiful day!

[arach-ne-deactivated20221122]

A mural of a forest in the South Bronx. New York City, USA. 1983.

Photographed by Thomas Hoepker

[straightpeoplereceipts]

stop gendering body hair

[straightpeoplereceipts]

stop gendering facial hair

[straightpeoplereceipts]

i mean yeah guys stop gendering hair in general but i hope its clear that this sentiment isnt just something we are all saying for casual progressive fun and that hair—body hair, facial hair, the hair on your head—is extremely politicized for marginalized people.

let trans women forego things like full body shaving without accusing them of being men

let women have professional lives that do not hinge on the removal of their body hair

acknowledge the racialization of facial hair on women

acknowledge how hair is politicized and gendered on men as well—and while its important, not only in senses of “let cis men have long hair if they like it” or “let trans men have long hair without misgendering them” but also: men of colour with long hair are targeted for this

american christianity has a long history of deeming men of colours long hair as too woman-like and therefore anti-christian, and.. in the case of residential schools, forcibly cutting native mens hair. native men have been historically sexualized over and over by american historians wrt this.

and this is true of white historians with other peoples as well. men of colour with long hair have been historically sexualized and demonized in turn by white people for presentation that was gendered in the eyes of white christianity.

the gendering of hair is the politicizing of it and genuinely tied up in violence... antisemitic violence, racial violence, sexual violence.. like... i hope we are all earnestly acknowledging the pain of this beyond the obvious when we read posts like this

[pieandhotdogs]

Is it wrong that I’m cool with “sex” being removed from the pride flag? They should bring back “magic” though.

Personally I think you’re wrong and an idiot but that’s just my opinion.

[pieandhotdogs]

Fyi this isn’t a dig at people who are asexual or sex-repulsed. Gay sex was literally a criminal act in the parts of the United States Texas until 2003. A healthy relationship to both sex and your body is a major component of the human experience, but especially LGBTQ+ people. Yes this includes people who have a healthy understanding of their boundaries with regards to sex. To try and divorce the fight for LGBTQ+ rights from sexuality is both dangerous and ahistorical.

[coughloop]

[decaflesbian]

We asked our landlord to change the lightbulb in the ceiling sconce (I tried but I couldnt get the cover off) but he’s been here for like 45 min

[decaflesbian]

Okay now im hearing him using a drill? WHAT is going on sir

[decaflesbian]

Its been over an hour???? 🆘

[decaflesbian]

Almost two hours my man I should have been eating spaghetti without a bra on by now

[decaflesbian]

We asked our landlord to change the lightbulb in the ceiling sconce (I tried but I couldnt get the cover off) but he’s been here for like 45 min

[decaflesbian]

Okay now im hearing him using a drill? WHAT is going on sir

[decaflesbian]

Its been over an hour???? 🆘

[mclennonyaoi]

ohhhh my god

[decaflesbian]

We asked our landlord to change the lightbulb in the ceiling sconce (I tried but I couldnt get the cover off) but he’s been here for like 45 min

[decaflesbian]

Okay now im hearing him using a drill? WHAT is going on sir

[decaflesbian]

Leigh and I both took off a random friday next month to go spend a weekend in a nearby hotel and go see the barbie movie @ the drive in after I was complaining about how when I was on my work retreat I got into my hotel room sooo late I didnt even get to enjoy it! I got in at midnight and immediately went to sleep before having to wake at 7 to leave right away and I was super looking forward to enjoying a night in a hotel by myself for the first time ever, it just didnt work out that way. So we’re gonna hang out in ours for a night and watch cable tv lol and swim in the pool and have a little random 3 day staycation just cause :)