anyone who finds the bellarke fandom toxic…i don’t know i’m just so confused as to how they come to that conclusion. being in the bellarke fam I would know if they were toxic and you know what? they have been ANYTHING but toxic for me
i mean it was because of some of my good bellarke friends that i posted my first selfie on tumblr. maybe that’s not big to you but it is to me. i was freaking terrified. TERRIFIED. i’m the opposite of someone who likes to dress up and all that and so i thought i should be ashamed for wanting to put up a selfie for bellarke fam selfie night. but you know what? this fam gave me the courage to put up one dumb picture and since then i’ve uploaded five or six more, each with a little less fear, a little more belief in myself
and when people started reblogging and commenting and replying? you have no idEA how much that meant to me. you have to understand, i’d NEVER thought of myself as pretty. i didn’t find myself revolting, per se, but putting myself in a category with people who were pretty was unfathomable to me. it actually boggled my mind when people would call me pretty like it was obvious
and then i put up a selfie i found to be really crap and people start commenting things like “goddess” and “you’re so beautiful what the heck” and “your smile could light a city” and you know what? i actually cried. it’s one thing to have people call you pretty in real life, they’re used to your face, they’re your friends, they have to. but these internet strangers saw a picture of my face and they liked it. they thought i was beautiful. it was on that day that for the first time ever i looked at my picture and i thought, “maybe i’m pretty. maybe i’m beautiful.” I saw myself in a completely new light, a better one than i’d had for basically my whole life. the BELLARKE FAM did that for me
and this treatment i got? the endless love on selfies? EVERYONE gets that same love. we all literally go through tags and dashes for hours on end so we can make sure no one was left out or not seen. we comment sweet things and find the courage to put something up ourselves to share because we TRUST and LOVE each other that much
then there’s chatting. you would not believe how nice the bellarke fam is okay. you can talk to ANYONE, be it a blog with five followers or five thousand, and they will talk to you. they will treat you well and remember your name and rant with you and be your friend and they won’t expect anything in return. they’ll just do it because they’re kind and sweet and friendly. whatever you need, bellarke fam’s there, be it advice, comfort, ranting, help, etc. if you’re nervous about talking to people and interacting with ‘bigger blogs,’ they’ve got your back. (i know this from personal experience)
i mean we literally watch movies and other tv shows together, because we love each other more than bellarke. we bring people in who feel awkward or shy or intrusive or nervous (aka me) and we stick together because we’re a FAMILY
so no, i cannot understand the idea of a toxic bellarke fam. if you disagree, i won’t fight you because your opinion is yours, but i know my bellarke fam’s got my back and my heart. (do however feel free to privately talk to me and discuss if you wish, i’m up for polite debate)
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