May All of the Dark Lost Inside You Find Light Again

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“bits to use in everyday conversations”

[imjunebitch]

u gotta get less misanthropic I'm not kidding

[imjunebitch]

especially now with all the bullshit going on in Kansas, in Texas, in Iran, with Israel and Palestine, this ICE shit, this Epstein shit, it is essential to remember that evil and violence is not the natural state of humanity. this is not what humanity is like. if it was, there would be no reason to be disgusted or fight against it. most people are good and decent, and are victims of this, and by reducing it to a "carte blanche humanity is fucked anyway" you are casting aside the good, decent, loving people with rich inner lives who these cowardly fucks think are disposable

[i-am-a-fish]

don't be mean to yourself that's you

[i-am-a-fish]

you live there

[afronerdism]

The conversation surrounding cultural appropriation has been so severely mutilated by white “allies” that the original intention behind that conversation has become almost unrecognizable in most social contexts.

[afronerdism]

To explain what I mean, the conversation around cultural appropriation was started by black and native people to discuss the frustrations we feel at being punished socially and financially for partaking in our cultural heritage while white people could take, I.e. appropriate, aspects of our culture that we are actively shamed for and be heralded as innovators. It was about the frustrations we feel when the same white people who shamed us would take our culture and wear it as if they were the ones who created it while still actively shaming us for doing the same.

The original push behind naming cultural appropriation and having these conversations were so that we as a society could evaluate why we were punished for our heritage while white People were not. It was supposed to be about seeking solutions. The idea was to create a society where we could celebrate our cultures with impunity. It was never about telling white people that they “weren’t allowed” to do certain things. We did ask that white People stop doing certain things because they weren’t doing them respectfully and were not invited to do them, but the primary reason we asked them to desist was to reclaim the things they had stolen and to reassign them culturally back where they belonged.

White “allies” saw these conversations happening and instead of trying to aplify our own voices or even try to learn about the complexities behind why we were saying what we were saying, they instead began screaming over us and creating a narrative that was hardly even the bones of what we originally set out to say. It was like they took the conversation we were trying to have, completely decontextualized it, and stripped it of all it’s nuance in order to gain social currency by seeming progressive.

So the conversation around cultural appropriation went from “This aspect of our heritage belongs to us and we find it egregious that we are shamed for it. What steps can we take to address the racism that’s creating this situation as well as rehome the things that have been stolen” to “you’re not allowed to do that because if you do that you’re racist, we don’t really understand why that’s racist but you’re not allowed to do that and if you do that you’re a klansman no exceptions. So you’re not allowed because because”

At the end of the day, did I like the fact that sally was wearing dreads? No. But my primary concern was not that sally was wearing dreads but rather that sally could wear dreads and I couldn’t. THAT was the intended focus of those conversations. It was about addressing the inequality. It was about us. Now the conversation is just about sally and were completely forgotten.

White People are always asking me what they can do to help. You want to know? Stop talking. Aplify our voices and shut the fuck up because you all have pretty much derailed this conversation and many more like it to the point that we no longer are trying to make steps to understand and dismantle the racism around cultural appropriation and instead are just using it as social shaming tactics.

[afronerdism]

TL;DR: read my post. Most things worth learning about can’t be summarized in the bullet points of a buzfeed article. Don’t come into academic circles and complain because everything hasn’t been conviently summarized for you. Stop pretending that things aren’t accessible to you because you refuse to do the intellectual labor that is learning.

[wastedpotentialsblog]

Many decisions in Destiny frustrate me but nothing, and i mean nothing, drives me more up the wall than the abandonment of the Infinite Forest. A planet sized simulation engine that can replicate reality so accurately it can literally kill you. Poof. Gone.

You could do LITERALLY anything with it and it'd make canonical sense.

Horde mode? "Yeah, we managed to isolate this pocket, and Mithrax and his splicers set the parameters, so go nuts. Also, he simulated some old friends. Say hi to Nokris and Quria for me!"

Rogue-lite? "Yeah, the egg heads in the tower want to know how INFINITE the INFINITE forest is. Sounds like the question answers itself, but whatever. They're paying ya. See how far you can get."

Extraction? " Yeah, this sections pretty unstable. Get in, steal and break what you can, and get out before whatever Mind is watching you brings the whole thing down."

Boss rush? "A couple of the older guardians wanted to see how many gods they could kill in a certain time limit. Gluttons for punishment, if you ask me."

I miss it so fucking much man

[dailyquests]

Laugh out Loud. (OPTIONAL: Laugh your Ass Off, Even.)

[yakkety-yak-art]

Rouxls Kaard is hands down the funniest Deltarune character. Every time he shows up he’s always up to the new dumbest fucking thing you’ve ever heard of and is somehow consistently inventing new ways to lose at literally everything. Incredible.

[t-a-c]

he's great and he's absolutely vital to the RPG homage, where would we be without "incredibly minor villain who is increasingly disconnected from the overarching plot but is absolutely incapable of accepting a loss"

[prokopetz]

If the archetype is allowed to play out in full, somewhere in the middle of Chapter 7 he needs to randomly turn out to be absurdly competent at some incredibly specific, heretofore-unmentioned thing that just happens to be instrumental to the party's victory, but for the life of me I cannot imagine what that thing might be.

[florallychaotic]

Im gonna be so real can yall actually talk about ways we can support trans women in the UK instead of giving all the attention to fucking JKR. I already know that Harry Poter sucks, I wanna know how to actually HELP people. Something something you have to love the oppressed more than you hate the oppressor

[snowonthebeachmp3]

trans actual uk - trans led and run advocacy, education and empowerment organisation

fiveforfive - collective fund for trans women and girls and transfem causes

gendered intelligence - trans led advocacy org

mermaids - supports trans youth

akt - lgbtq youth homelessness charity

loving me - domestic abuse service for trans people in england

not a phase - for trans adults

[transgendad]

spectra - trans led advocacy, education, and other support, also focuses on sexual and mental wellbeing, London-based

trans creative uk - trans artists countering media negativity by raising trans voices, Manchester-based with national reach

trans unite - directory of support groups in the uk

trans kids deserve better - action network by and for trans+ youth

the outside project - LGBTIQ+ centre and shelter (their insta is more up to date)

[skorpionne]

trans safety network - 'a research collective exploring and analysing institutional and organised harm against trans people in the UK'

gender community lending library - provides free access to books about transgender history, lives, and culture

[woman-becomer]

imagine a goat with a hat

STOP-

what hat did you give the goat what is the instinctual hat you gave to this goat

[ozziedawn]

one of the key advantages of being trans is that if you become part of a trans community you can easily position yourself as the hot one everyone has a crush on because trans people fucking love trans people

[kushblazer666]

crt nostalgia is really funny to me because it makes total sense why everyone switched to lcd flat panel screens as soon as the tech came along

[kushblazer666]

cathode ray tube televisions are full of lead (because otherwise they would give you turbo cancer), they weigh One William pounds (because they are full of lead), it’s very hard to make them big (because they need to contain a vacuum to work), if you break the glass they Fucking Explode (because they contain a vacuum), and if you poke the wrong thing inside them (even when turned off) you will be electrocuted by hundreds of volts. clearly this is superior to the 50 inch 4k flatscreen i can pick up brand spankin new at best buy for a cool two hundo bucks because it makes me feel like christmas in 1998

[recovering-catholic]

[orchidvioletindigo]

[ID: A list of 11 points titled “Characteristics of Pseudoscience” that are as follows:

Is unfalsifiable (can’t be proven wrong): Makes vague or unobservable claims

Relies heavily on anecdotes, personal experiences and testimonials

Cherry picks confirming evidence while ignoring/minimizing disconfirming evidence

Uses technobabble: Words that sound scientific but don’t make sense

Lacks plausible mechanism: No way to explain it based on existing knowledge

Is unchanging: Doesn’t self-correct or progress

Makes extraordinary/exaggerated claims with insufficient evidence

Professes certainty: Talks of “proof” with great confidence

Commits logical fallacies: Arguments contain errors in reasoning

Lacks peer review: Goes directly to the public, avoiding scientific scrutiny

Claims there’s a conspiracy to suppress their ideas

A logo in the corner shows a smiling cartoon brain lifting a weight and says "Thinking Is Power." /End ID.]

[scientia-rex]

Me: Exercise does not cause weight loss. This is a fact that has been demonstrated so robustly in research that even doctors, who hate and fear evidence, are grudgingly starting to admit this.

Someone reading that post: Cool, but have you considered that exercise leads to weight loss?

Me: I am going to eat you

[scientia-rex]

lololol "does too"

does it? not for women after childbirth

does it? not if you want to see an effect size of greater than 1 kilo (2.2lbs)

does it? not if you'd like to see a maintained loss greater than 3.3% of your body weight

does it? not for people with type 2 diabetes

does it? not for people exercising for their non-alcoholic fatty liver disease

Interactive computer-based reminders to diet and exercise are useless.

I mean, I literally went to Cochrane Reviews, one of the best-respected sources for massive meta-analyses, and I just input the keywords "weight loss" and "exercise," and I'm tooling through the results. Every one of the damn things shows that we do not have high-quality research indicating that exercise leads to weight loss. So no. I'm right, and you need to adjust your worldview--ask yourself, if not for weight loss, then why? Re-read those sources: exercise improved muscle density, insulin sensitivity, and cholesterol. It's good for your blood vessels, it's good for your strength, it's good for your brain.

But it won't make you thin. Maybe two pounds, maybe five, but that's about it. If you're looking at short-term, like a year, sure, you can lose weight--but the effort will almost always result in your body going "oh shit, we're living in a famine" and you will regain it, and now, with your body at a new set-point, losing it will be harder. Regaining will be easier. Welcome to the life-destroying yo-yo.

[scientia-rex]

#then what the fuck are we supposed to do?

Exercise and eat lots of fruits and vegetables and whole grains because those things will keep you healthier longer, regardless of how much you weigh, and pick up your pick-axe in the ongoing horribly slow and frustrating fight of chipping away at the idea that being fat is a bad thing that means you’re a bad person. I recommend the book Fat Talk for a good place to start.

[elfwreck]

Regular exercise helps your general health. Builds muscle. Reduces your heart rate. Keeps your body generally fit and flexible. Often, reduces stress because it gives you time to focus on something other than whatever was stressing you.

Eating good veggies helps digestion, your skin health, emotional balance, and has plenty of other benefits.

Exercise and eating green leafy vegetables have very minimal effects on weight. The biggest effects are on people who gained weight because of a debilitating condition - exercise and diet can help them get back to the shape that's their body's natural condition with their normal metabolism. Usually not quite to where they were before - bodies try very hard to hold on to mass after illness or injuries - but bodies also want to find their normal equilibrium.

Exercise will not turn a fat person into a skinny person. It has plenty of health benefits; "being skinny" is not a health benefit.

Repeat: "Being skinny" is not an indicator of health.

And occasionally I share this one around again:

A few years ago I was getting a pap smear. The doctor—whom I had just met that morning—had me in those cold metal stirrups and was rooting a

[miggylol]

Spin the wheel. That's who's trying to kill you.

Spin the wheel again. That’s who’s trying to protect you.

(If you have zero idea about the name you got, spin until you see someone you recognize.)

Are you safe?

Absolutely not. I'm dead. 100% dead.

I might stay alive, but it'll be a really close thing.

I'll take some hits, for certain, but I should be okay in the end.

A few attacks might get through, but nothing concerning.

The attacker might be able to get in one lucky hit. If that.

I am the opposite of worried. I'm 100% safe.

…Look. I've tried picturing this. But I honestly don't know how to answer.

Voting ended onAug 18, 2025

(Six months ago, I did a version of this poll with about five hundred options on the spinner wheel. For this one, I more than doubled it.)

[nosimpincurly]

You’re not depressed. You just need $250,000 in your bank account.

[catherinebunnington]

Reblog to materialize $250,000 in prev's bank account

[marzipanandminutiae]

scars in fiction: I got this trying to save my lover from an assassin- but tragically, I was too late. now I carry the mark of my failure with me always, and I can never forget~

scars in real life: so I was trying to open macaroni sauce with a paring knife

[tied-up-teacup]

Tell me how you got your scars in the tags

[ghostboyravenight-deactivated20]

I’m just saying if Daniel Radcliffe, the literal protagonist of the Harry Potter franchise since the age of ten years old, was able to disavow JK Rowling and move on from the HP universe then actually what the fuck is anyone else’s excuse. There is no one else on the planet who can say their entire childhood was HP more than that guy and he still cared about trans people more than the average tumblr user who says “we’re protesting by making all her characters queer and trans!!” like you can do better. You should do better.