A Corner of Pandiemonium

[classiclinds-deactivated2024103]

A person with an abusive nature will always register you standing up for yourself as an act of betrayal. Betray them.

[spacejelly710]

This is so important. As a good person, you may choose to stick around to prove to someone that you’re not a bad person. You have nothing to prove to a bad person. You cannot help everyone. You cannot fix everyone. It’s not your fault.

[orwellsunderpants]

^^^ THIS

Because an abusive person isn’t interested in the truth. They’re interested in finding sticks to beat you with. They’re interested in finding rationales that they can use to justify to themselves their right to abuse you.

You owe nothing to an abusive person.

Not one. single. thing.

[catchymemes]

[daddyblueberry]

Blueberry*

[trulydominate-deactivated201906]

Sir, how would you use a girl in desperate need, drunk and alone

I walk up to her and grab her by her arm. I notice the slight shake and head dip. You can’t focus your eyes on anything. You are dressed like a filthy little fuck toy. So I take my coat off. Smile and walk you to my car. This party isn’t a place for what you need. There aren’t the proper supplies here. I see all the other men who wanted to use you and your friends aren’t good enough for you as you walk out with me. The car stops. I get out and come to the door and open it. I pick you up and carry you through the doorway. I take you to the kitchen and sit you on the counter. Your filthy. I need you wiped off. I take a rag and wash your face. I remove my jacket that was keeping you warm. Time for the bedroom. Time for the proper supplies. First I give you an ibeprouphen(sp?) and a big bottle of water. I tuck you under the covers and put a bucket by the side of the bed. I check to see if I can charge your phone so when you wake up You aren’t without it. I lay out my smallest sweatpants and T-shirt so you can wear something else if you feel the clothes you are in have a layer of drunk mess on it. I sleep on the couch and rub my cock to all the other little sluts I know who consent to my dominance without being under the influence of alcohol. A real man takes care of a women in need. Your friends shouldn’t of let you leave with me. They don’t deserve you if they won’t always protect you. The way you were dressed doesn’t mean you are a slut.(But I do appreciate the view.) Even if you know I am a dominate and I know you are kinda interested in trying some bdsm for once, if you didn’t consent sober you don’t get the experience because we are not in a committed relationship. Protect. Real men protect.

[horny-little-harlot]

Nothing a woman gives is worth it unless she gives it out of her own free will.

[daddythedollmaster-deactivated2]

First C in CNC is the sexiest.

[hottmessmommy]

Sexiest thing I’ve ever read.

[bigbadwolf-ish-deactivated20250]

Nailed it.

[delightfulsubg-deactivated20210]

Always a reblog.

[stitchyprincess]

💯💯👏👏👏👏👏👏

[thealphawithin-deactivated20230]

His only stuffie.

[hissassylittleprincesss-deactiv]

Stuffies!!!

[everythingstarstuff]

[dancingmuppet]

[annabellehectorworldofweird]

[the-revolution-continues]

[thefoxof86-deactivated20220707]

What's your thought on aftercare after a punishment? Does it reverse the punishment Or help the sub

Well, you don’t want to beat them blue then just turn them loose! Ok, serious time. Aftercare is a necessity. After a scene, and yes, after a punishment. Part of the obligations of a Dom is not only to correct behavior that deviates from agreed upon rules and within their granted authority, it is also their responsibility to help return the submissive to an emotionally stable and reassured position after the punishment has been administered. Aftercare post-punishment in no way reverses the punishment’s effects. I am very hard pressed to even think up an example where it would come close unless the whole execution was very sloppy. Here’s how I approach punishment:

Confirm the behavior is within your granted authority to address. Your submissive’s consent has limits and there are likely things that will be out of your jurisdiction as her Dominant to police and judge. Things she does at work, for example. Or things she had to reasonably do out of necessity at the time with no alternative present. Alternatively the rule may have been unclear and punishment would likely not be warranted.Hear their side before punishment is exercised.

Identify the behavior(s) that warrant punishment to the submissive. Inform them of their infraction calmly and clearly. Never, ever punish blindly. They need and deserve to know what the punishment is about.

Utilize only as much force as reasonably necessary. That means any kind of force. Let the punishment fit the crime. Timeouts are you using your authority to order an unpleasant condition be tolerated by them for a determined amount of time. If you use spankings or kneeling on uncooked rice, ensure you do not punish to excess. Both could cause damage to your submissive if done recklessly.

Debrief after the punishment has been administered. This means aftercare. This means discussing how future occurrences of the infraction can be prevented. This means drying tears, butt rubs for spanked bottoms, hydration, etc. Do your best to return them to pre-punishment condition minus the unwanted behavior.

Be ready to answer questions. This is the point (15-30 minutes or more after the punishment) that a little might give a “what if” statement. A “what if” statement is not being snarky or bratty! It is the submissive mentally circling back around to confirm what you just laid out. Any submissive might use this time to facilitate a conversation with their Dominant regarding the experience. Be ready to listen patiently and answer their questions. This is the bonding time that respectful execution of a punishment and good aftercare unlocks.

Perhaps, and above all, watch your words! Far greater damage may be accidentally dealt with a slip of the tongue than with the harshest belt. Many a submissive will feel the emotional sting of punishment the moment you say “why are you not taking good care of my most precious possession?” Punishments are a cornerstone of D/s. They help keep the relationship stable, the leash tight and the couple’s world in order. IF done with respect.

[itsshinycollectordestinyworld]

Why is this glorious and insightful response not flying around like a sabre-tooth guppie on crack? It’s fukken brilliant.

Share the wisdom, people - don’t be shy!

[instructor144]

☝️☝️

[madamefrivole]

a must-read…

[wing-ed-creature-deactivated201]

look, i am a sub but if you think i won’t go full mom on you when you are sick or sad then you are wrong.

[executiveoutcomes-deactivated20]

*posts any picture*

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[catchymemes]

[the-revolution-continues]

Credit: Liesl Manone.

[maevegreen]

I just spammed my FB page with these…not sorry.

[somewhereinthedetails217]

VOTE

[blackpowwer-blog]

REBLOG: go to your blog and click the egg to see what hatches

[jinglepancakebells]

I got Sonic the Hedgehog.

Sonic the fucking Hedgehog.

Maybe I cracked the egg too fast.

[crystalmikii-deactivated0417201]

I got Rogue Titan gettin’ krunk. I was not disappointed.

[shirtnapkin]

OH MY GOD I GOD EREN IN TITAN FORM TWERKING

[prince-bat]

aHHHHH THIS IS WHAT I GOT IM sO HAPPY

[koneko----chan]

AWWWWWW I GOT MADOKA YAY

[sfangaming-deactivated20171125]

[furry-paradise-deactivated20161]

I got some fat ugly fucker.

[funnyfurry14]

Well I got JOHN CENAAAA TA TANA TAAAAA

[furryboy1222]

see what i get

[fnafp18]

I got nothing

[fresh702]

Let’s see

[pleasurewhore-deactivated201802]

Don’t go easy on me

When I don’t do the thing I say I will, when I sass at the wrong time, or when I do something only halfheartedly, please don’t go easy on me.

It’s easy to punish me when disobedience is blatant. When I break a rule knowingly and willingly, when I push too hard, or act petulantly, the path is clear. But what about when the waters are muddied? What about the grey area? What about the times when I ‘bend’ the rules, hiding behind pedantry and the letter of the law?

Those times are an opportunity to show me that you’re watching. They are a chance to create stability. To build a structure around me that will support me when I feel too weak to support myself.

There is no kindness in ‘letting it slide’, in a ‘first warning’, or a three strike policy. Submissives thrive on structure, on consistency, and on knowing what to expect. There is love to be found in the bondage of rules, and affection echoes every time you make it clear that the rules do not bend, I do.

[amysubmits]

This is why we do strict D/s when it comes to rules. If I were to get given excuses or “second chances” without a really unique circumstance, I would read that as him not caring to enforce the rules. In the cases where something truly unique has come up (usually this is if he has slacked on something that he thinks has caused me to slack as well) then he tells me that is why he isn’t punishing me. If I don’t get a consequence he makes sure I know that it’s because he doesn’t think I am at fault, and why. It’s never just me breaking rules without consequences for no clear reason. If that happened, I would be a mess because I would feel neglected. 

[sirskia]

All of the above.

[domesticallysubmitted]

THIS. This is why my nose is in the corner for seemingly small things. When he’s lax, I deflate. I need the Dominant.

[ddhoh-deactivated20210530]

Agreed, this is how it should be. Strict with even seemingly minor things not being let pass.

[experiment597]

[A] mental patient in a psychotic state drew this just before he took his own life. There is so much fear in this drawing…

[kingsophiesworld]

we’ve been forgiving men for centuries and what good has that done anyone? - what no one likes to consider, is that sometimes the concept of forgiveness is weaponised to avoid holding men accountable. They demand forgiveness without earning it, without learning or changing. Often without even acknowledging where they’ve gone wrong. They expect forgiveness whilst excusing their actions “everyone makes mistakes, you should forgive”. In this context, forgiveness is a scapegoat and protects the status quo, normalising bad behaviour as forgivable. I’m not anti-forgiveness but I’ve often been on the receiving end of men using forgiveness as a tool to avoid accountability. https://www.instagram.com/p/Bn_tytilKaw/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=deunmebref8k

[onelittlekingdom]

Three Types of Rules For Littles

Here are three types of rules for Caregivers who are struggling to develop lists for their new little:

1. Rules That Establish Dominance:

These are the fun rules, and the ones that reinforce who is boss. Asking for permission to cum and letting Daddy pick out your panties each day are good examples.

2. Rules That Guide Health:

These help with physical and mental health. Eating breakfast each day, a required walk, journal writing, and required self play (good for burning calories and raising endorphins) are good examples.

3. Rules That Help With Goals:

These help make her that very best version of herself that she wants to be. Keeping her room tidy, working toward healthy eating habits, putting away money in the bank each week, and required time for studying are good examples.

**Rules may overlap into multiple areas. Required self play can help with mental health, weight loss, stress relief, sleeping habits, as well as establishing dominance. Looking at other’s rules can help you come up with your own, but by and large, rules should be tailored to serve specific littles and their unique needs. Happy rule making. 

JD🌹