we've got something about resistance play in mind today. a lot of tnemm has been playing with resistance as a kink concept, in lots of different ways. cnc, rape-kinks, princesses, hounds, and so on. the idea that it's hot when you don't get a choice in the matter, and someone physically or psychologically forces you to obey. it's an incredibly common kink across the board
like all play this sort of play requires negotiation. there's lots of factors to consider. it's used victim/aggressor here, but any dynamic titles could be used here, like princess/maid, hound/handler, submissive/dominance, and so on.
how much force does the victim want used
how much force can the victim withstand
how much resistance does the victim want to use
what kind of resistance does the victim want to use? fighting back? verbal abuse? emotional pleading?
does the victim want to lose and give in or want to stay defiant throughout that loss
how comfortable is the aggressor with using force
what force is the aggressor actually capable of using
how much resistance can the aggressor take before flinching
what tactics does the aggressor want to use? physical force? verbal degredation? blackmail?
does the aggressor want the victim to secretly enjoy it, or want them to hate it completely
what are the risks inherent in the force that's to be used and how can they be mitigated
what happens when/if the victim cries and begs for it to stop
how do you initiate a resistance scene
how does a resistance scene end
there's a lot to it, which means if you're not careful, and any uncertainty in any of these questions will lead to moments of uncertainty and unexpected escalations that might leave everyone feeling hurt when it's all said and done. you might be able to get away with not talking it out if your expectations line up well, but if they don't someone can get actually hurt
as much as it feels like a betrayal of the non-consent part of the play, you have to be able to communicate up front the specific ways you want consent to be forced and consent to that ahead of playing with resistance play
so the advice is same as it ever was: communicate and talk it out.
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