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LITERALLY ME when im defending myself against a narc and then they turn it around and call your reaction to THEIR ABUSE, Toxic. 😭 my therapist described this as “reactive abuse.” When the narcissist pushes YOU to the extent of blowing up, then They use your reaction as “proof” that you’re the problem, when you never would’ve acted that way, if they had not emotionally/physically/ or Verbally abused you.

Never argue with an emotional immature bitch if it makes you slide out of character. They will use it against you.

Just don’t engage. Let them argue with the wall.

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“You don’t deserve someone who comes back, you deserve someone who never leaves.”

— Unknown

This is SO TRUE expecially when the CN was a caregiver/“mother”/sibling there is SO much reprogramming to be done. every negative voice I hear in my head is from mother or sibling. I used to speak to people the exact same way that family would speak to me until I was told that I sounded verbally abusive, and I would say well I speak to people the way that my family speaks to me…? I was so confused because I’m not inherently an abusive person and I was never the way that I wanted to come across so I got some help, and that’s when my Therapist said, “sweetheart. You have been abused and neglected physically and emotionally since birth. No one deserves to be spoken to this way by a parent or a sibling.” As she is actively reading my text messages between these people

The sad part is no matter how much I bring it up to talk to them about it. They will never see it as abuse because of as my therapist said, “they JUSTIFIED” treating you that way for XYZ reason.

When abusers JUSTIFY their actions towards you, that’s when it becomes very dangerous to the survivors”