Long term monogamous relationship. I have never been into anal and actually turned off by it for me, but I get it that my husband likes it. Well last night we ordered a strap on kit and after a couple glasses of wine even a butt plug for me. I would like to hear from "normal couples" that have gone through this with first time experiences, any suggestions or comments. I aim to please but this is all new to me. Thanks in advance :-)
Well, Tumblr really let me down on your question! I never got a notification that I had received a ask/message.
I had a desire to be pegged by my wife. I thought the ideal of a cock she could wear, like a feeldoe, was worth giving it a try so I ordered one. When it finally came we made a few attempts at making it “work” but it just wouldn’t. Either the strap-on wouldn’t stay in her or it was painful and wouldn’t go in me.
The desire didn’t quite go away but since we weren't making any progress we abandoned it (for like 5 years)
Things didn’t really go in our favor until I learned to explore myself and practice inserting smaller toys and working my way up to small diameter dildos over a period of time. Ironically, some of the cheapest dildos we ever bought were “right”, in shape (curve) and size that made penetrating comfortable.
The right lube also goes a long way for anal! I *LOVE* Doc Johnsons Anal Lube.
I got to the point where I could easily take a 1″ diameter toy without warming up. At that point penetration was no longer an issue and it paved the way for moving on to pegging and some GREAT love making sessions.
Things are going to awkward to start out when you’re both getting the hang of it, it’s new. Think of when you were teens and didn’t know anything about sex (hand jobs, blow jobs, full on sex, etc). The difference between then and now is that you both shouldn’t be afraid to communicate. If it hurts him in any way he has to speak up and let you know. Communication is key.
It will take practice to get where he wants to go but if you’re both up for the challenge it can be the most explosive sex you’ve ever had!
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