(This is my personal dni/byf, please don’t try to argue with me. Template by @forestsxcieti [and ik i cant stop ppl from using my terms, i just want ppl to know that i don’t support them if they are/support these])
BYF
> ☆ please don’t use periods round me/srs
> ☆ i use caps a lot
> ☆ bad memory
> ☆ need tone tags
> ☆ I need drugs tagged
> ☆ i may spam post
DNI
> ☆ basic dni : link to https://listography.com/dni
i wont be using this blog to post genders anymore, only to get genders for my own use/for my friends so yeah idrc how you interact with this blog anymore !! i’ll post genders if i feel like it which i don’t lmfao tbh
a neutral gender related to lovecore and being a loveless aro !! one who is this gender may or may not also be cupioromantic and/or romance-favorable !! for izzie !!
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COLOUR MEANINGS ;; pink and red stripes represent common colours seen in lovecore imagery, and the colours of the middle stripes and heart were picked from the loveless aro flag by @aro-punkwave !!
a gender related to being an eldritch and being a shark. this gender is otherworldy, mysterious and horrifying yet still sharklike, and can connect to the ocean or sea as well.
when you're a girl but not really a girl and you're actually just some weird silly critter thing. you can identify as crittfemgender whether you're feminine/woman aligned or not. you just gotta be comfortable with the label ^__^
gender and flag coined by me! inspired by girlthing and weirdgirlgender
Hey y'all this post includes a bit of discourse which I try to avoid but as I get more followers I would like to include this! So scroll if those sorts of topics make you uncomfy!
Also CW for: grooming, abliesm, trauma, injuries, abuse, bodily fluids, pedophilia, suibaiting, sa mentions
Hi, so I just. Need to address a couple things really quick!
(Scroll to the bottom for the discussion of transx/transid "identities" ,, in quotes bc they aren't valid)
1- sending death threats or doxxing someone is NEVER okay EVER. It puts people in danger and is downright illegal. Idc what your beliefs are in this instance, it's basic law and safety.
I've been told to kms over being a Dissociative system aka formed by trauma. Not funny!
2- capitalism is corrupt and always will be. No exceptions. (I could go on and on all day.)
Few more things for now; it's fucking weird and messed up to:
-disclude a-spec identities from LGBTQIAP+
-tell a minority group that they aren't allowed to say how they feel about something affecting them.
-suibaiting anyone, ever. No. Exceptions.
-proship kids x adults,, dude that's pedophilia.
-assume that all cluster b folks are violent or bad (including the term narcissistic abuse)
-say you can become a system for fun/by intentionally willing it into existence
-using disorders as an excuse to be a shit person [Ex: "oh he has autism he doesn't know better.']
Or
-taking the ignorant stance of "radinclus" (we all know you are supporting identities that aren't in good faith. Things that harm people and/or put them in danger aren't good faith.)
Now for the transid/transx shit.
Trace, transage, transabled, transspecies, transheight, transweight, are. Very odd to me. (The exception being transspecies, however I think this would be the wrong term and something like otherkin/therian/etc would fit you better!)
These terms are wrong and inherently abliest and dangerous. Most of the people using these terms feel like trolls, however after having met some before, I'm suddenly extremely aware of the fact that they aren't all trolls. Which is disappointing to say the very least!
I would first like to say that I can't speak in depth on trace(formerly transracial, however that has a double meaning, also means adoption into a family that is not your bio race)
or include my own opinion, as I am white. I can say that it's messed up, from the fact that I've seen 100s of POC say it's racist and wrong.
Moving onto the others! Transage is a crappy term! I think if you age regress, then you're age regressing not transage and you aren't actually that age. I think role-playing another age doesn't make you that age. I also think that most instances I've seen of people using it is an excuse to be a shitty person. It isn't a trans identity.
Transabled. God. Why. I fully know there is a disorder called BIID but transabled isnt the disorder. The disorder is BIID. "Transabled" ppl are mocking actually disabled and mentally ill and hurting people. BIID is not transabled should have NEVER been associated. BIID is a disorder. "Transabled" is a mockery. There is genuine support and therapy, and that is why that should be the step taken. Not claiming to be "transabled" and coining terms like trans-trauma or trans-autistic or trans-POTS.
This is HARMFUL. There is a validity to feeling like you want your *current* issues you actually have to be worse so you could get help or be "bad enough," however that is not the same as entirely just... wanting a disorder. Wanting your current disorder/trauma/condition to be WORSE is a symptom, not a new thing.
Trans-grooming and trans-trauma are terms I've ACTUALLY seen. They both mean (respectively) Wanting or feeling like you should have been/should be groomed/traumatized.
This is so incredibly HORRIFIC on so many levels.
I have been repeatedly groomed/preyed on by over 15 people, there is NOTHING good that you get from these. I would not wish this on anyone. Grooming is horrific manipulation, mental controlling to a degree, gaslighting, trauma. It's not some fun identity.
Transtrauma is awful. There are zero instances where identifying as this is valid/healthy in anyway. Again, wanting to have worse trauma is a symptom, not trans trauma and if you're confusing those two that doesn't make transtrauma valid! It means you're a bit confused.
I would like to add in here(probably a few times), though, that healthy people do not fake/want disorders. If you feel like you're ANY of these identities I truly suggest you seek help for your own safety as well as everyone else's.
You aren't ever just "meant to have been traumatized" that's not how it works. I do not think, in this instance, whatever divine being, angel, power, or lack thereof, you believe in impacts or changes this. If you were to be traumatized at a point in your past, you WOULD'VE been. It doesn't just, randomly not occur to cause you "trauma dysphoria."
Transabled in a physical sense also disgusts me. Again, not BIID, these are not the same thing. Wanting to aquire a disability isn't an aesthetic. Illnesses and disorders aren't an aesthetic. I am physically disabled and use a mobility aid and I wish, I wish so fucking badly, that I could just be healthy AND normal. /srs
Does not wanting to be sick suddenly make me "Transcissick?" I'm "transcured?" (/satire.)
Again wanting to have a disorder or faking disorders is not something a healthy person does, this is important to be added.
Regardless, these actions/terms are STILL HURTING people.
A recurring theme I've also noticed is that all of the disorders/trauma/illnesses people want are "trendy" or "controversial" or super extreme(not saying these aren't all horrific, by extreme I simply mean the cases tend to be more fatal/altering). Something that will make people ask questions and shower you with attention. (Healthy/stable people don't constantly use attention seeking behaviors.)
You never see things like:
Trans-STD, Trans-IBS, Trans-Anxiety, Trans-Concussion, or Trans-Nocturnal Enuresis(this one can actually TIE IN with trauma, but people using these terms only seem to want the popular symptoms, right?)
Strange, huh? Only choosing the popular things. Yall dont want to be trans-ibs? Shitting all the time because of your weird bowels and stress and emotion issues?
Transheight and transweight make no sense at all.
If u identify as transabled you're abliest.
That's all for right now. Have a good morning/day/afternoon/night.
Be sure to (if you're able/if it applies:)
Drink
Eat something
Clean yourself a little
Do something you enjoy <3!
i love your art! just curious tho, what's wrong with nontraumagenic systems? i just figured that would mean we don't know everything about systems just yet ^^; but please correct me if im wrong! /gen
non traumagenic systems basically say that you can be a system or have alters without having a trauma that would cause it, which is just completely untrue. DID & OSDD are very serious disorders and can only be caused by very severe trauma at a young age, you can’t just like develop one out of nowhere. “endogenic” which is what a lot of non traumagenic systems call themselves literally means “comes from inside”, saying their system originates just from having one and not from trauma, when that is genuinely just Not how it works. people claiming to be non traumagenic systems is also really harmful to actual people with DID or OSDD so i want nothing to do with people who agree with or support non traumagenic systems. i hope that this is informative , i myself am not a system so if i left out anything or misspoke , any systems please feel free to correct me or add on
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