Just spend one Frog Day in my Fag World

I'm over 18. Call me Payton or Bug or even the Frog Father, he/she/it/bug and they if we r friends. rampant and raging bisexual bigender bitch. I have a fun cocktail of disorders so i applogize if i freak out. i like music and shows. im making an album and a book you should ask me abt them. long-time followers/mutuals can ask for insta and discord. KoFi: https://ko-fi.com/bug104510

[transfagrified-in-the-void]

Hey, I updated some of the art on my Kofi if you would like to commission me! Examples under the cut!

Starts at 5 USD for art, 2 USD for writing!

[what-even-is-thiss]

Sometimes fiction doesn’t have a moral to the story. Sometimes fiction points at something and goes “Ever thought about THAT???” And you look at what it’s pointing at for a bit.

[funstyle]

[recommending something i sincerely love] ok so the thing about it is it kinda sucks

[crowttore]

Are you currently suffering from The Character?

[ozdical]

[fexalted]

[image description: tumblr tag in all-caps reading: "#yes. stage 4".]

[diabellica]

[draconym]

It's nuts how common it is to not allow children to be angry, even (especially) in households where adults are angry all the time. As a child I knew my own anger was unacceptable--not just expressing it outwardly but feeling it at all. So now as an adult my immediate reaction to my own anger is often to feel guilt instead of like. Noticing when someone is being rude or unfair or my boundaries are being violated or whatever. fucked up.

[highfunctioningdeadgirl]

Not only this, but a parent's emotion regulation (ER) capacity is a major factor in the physical development of the central nervous system, especially the frontal lobe and HPA axis. Not only does it cause the child to have their own issues with emotion regulation, it affects all three aspects of executive functioning (EF)

Now EF is SUPER fucking important for ER, but its also important for learning and memory, attention and impulse control, the development of long-term decision making in adolescence, and their social development. It literally changes the anatomy and physiology of your brain and your behavior and it spills over to every aspect of the child's life.

Growing up in houses like this cause a spillover effect in the child's social life and their ability to connect with peers properly, their ability to handle emotional stimuli, their ability to process information. It essentially creates a negative bias that puts the child at a HUGE risk of dealing with psychopathology for the rest of their life.

This is just one of the hundreds of studies I have saved that explains the effects of it, and this just covers general emotion regulation. However there are SO many more nuances when it comes to breaking down the different causes of poor ER in parents like ADHD/ASD, personality pathology, parent-child personality fit, parental trauma, etc. Its very interesting and VERY sad. I grew up in a house like this and I definitely mourn what I could've been if I didn't inherit my dad's never ending irritation lol.

It kills me that people treat children like mini-adults, when they literally need to be taught EVERYTHING. Even in moments where parents don't feel like they're actively teaching, every single thing they do infront of their child is going to teach the child something.

Also I'm totally not bashing parents with mental illness, because I literally work with parents who have their own challenges they work through while helping their child overcome their difficulties. However, I do have a professional degree in psychology, specifically child and adolescent development and caretaking so I'm not coming from a place of un-educated opinionation. I'm not saying poor emotional regulation makes someone a poor parent, but it does contribute to harmful parenting practices even when they aren't conscious!!!!

Self-awareness in parenting is one of the most important things a caretaker can do for their child, simply being able to stop and think "how is my reaction to this going to affect my child" can do fucking WONDERS for your baby's development :)

Parents’ emotional functioning represents a central mechanism in the caregiving environment’s influence on adolescent affective brain functi

[mindy-fit]

[blastingradio]

Now that is some vintage sports goth

[chanel-boots]

This ad is very ominous and threatening.

[raejin99]

[orchidvioletindigo]

Are you fucking kidding me

[ominous-signs]

Official ominous ad

[megamindsupremacy]

Beautiful dash pull

[shinyjolteon]

im gonna cry this person is so sweet to their fish

[draconym]

It's nuts how common it is to not allow children to be angry, even (especially) in households where adults are angry all the time. As a child I knew my own anger was unacceptable--not just expressing it outwardly but feeling it at all. So now as an adult my immediate reaction to my own anger is often to feel guilt instead of like. Noticing when someone is being rude or unfair or my boundaries are being violated or whatever. fucked up.

[highfunctioningdeadgirl]

Not only this, but a parent's emotion regulation (ER) capacity is a major factor in the physical development of the central nervous system, especially the frontal lobe and HPA axis. Not only does it cause the child to have their own issues with emotion regulation, it affects all three aspects of executive functioning (EF)

Now EF is SUPER fucking important for ER, but its also important for learning and memory, attention and impulse control, the development of long-term decision making in adolescence, and their social development. It literally changes the anatomy and physiology of your brain and your behavior and it spills over to every aspect of the child's life.

Growing up in houses like this cause a spillover effect in the child's social life and their ability to connect with peers properly, their ability to handle emotional stimuli, their ability to process information. It essentially creates a negative bias that puts the child at a HUGE risk of dealing with psychopathology for the rest of their life.

This is just one of the hundreds of studies I have saved that explains the effects of it, and this just covers general emotion regulation. However there are SO many more nuances when it comes to breaking down the different causes of poor ER in parents like ADHD/ASD, personality pathology, parent-child personality fit, parental trauma, etc. Its very interesting and VERY sad. I grew up in a house like this and I definitely mourn what I could've been if I didn't inherit my dad's never ending irritation lol.

It kills me that people treat children like mini-adults, when they literally need to be taught EVERYTHING. Even in moments where parents don't feel like they're actively teaching, every single thing they do infront of their child is going to teach the child something.

Also I'm totally not bashing parents with mental illness, because I literally work with parents who have their own challenges they work through while helping their child overcome their difficulties. However, I do have a professional degree in psychology, specifically child and adolescent development and caretaking so I'm not coming from a place of un-educated opinionation. I'm not saying poor emotional regulation makes someone a poor parent, but it does contribute to harmful parenting practices even when they aren't conscious!!!!

Self-awareness in parenting is one of the most important things a caretaker can do for their child, simply being able to stop and think "how is my reaction to this going to affect my child" can do fucking WONDERS for your baby's development :)

Parents’ emotional functioning represents a central mechanism in the caregiving environment’s influence on adolescent affective brain functi

[mebis-silksong-corner]

Reminder

[lizbot]

yeah, it makes sense to me :)

[skopostheorie]

Once I "made" a custom emoji for my mum by crudely drawing a hijab on it and now whenever she wants me to buy a coffee for her I get a text like this

[cnmcn]

absolutley enchanted by cobepee

[luulapants]

If we wanted to engage in nuance (lol, lmao) on the "are audiobooks reading" debate, we really do need to bring literacy, and especially blind literacy, into the conversation.

Because, yes, listening to a story and reading a story use mostly the same parts of the brain. Yes, listening to the audiobook counts as "having read" a book. Yes, oral storytelling has a long, glorious tradition and many cultures maintained their histories through oral history or oral + art history, having never developed a true written language, and their oral stories and histories are just as valid and rich as written literature.

We still can't call listening in the absence of reading "literacy."

The term literacy needs to stay restricted to the written word, to the ability to access and engage with written texts, because we need to be able to talk about illiteracy. We need to be able to identify when a society is failing to teach children to read, and if we start saying that listening to stories is literacy, we lose the ability to describe those systemic failures.

Blind folks have been knee-deep in this debate for a long time. Schools struggle to provide resources to teach students Braille and enforcing the teaching of Braille to low-vision and blind children is a constant uphill battle. A school tried to argue that one girl didn't need to learn Braille because she could read 96-point font. Go check what that is. The new prevalence of audiobooks and TTS is a huge threat to Braille literacy because it provides institutions with another excuse to not provide Braille education or Braille texts.

That matters. Braille-literate blind and low-vision people have a 90% employment rate. For those who don't know Braille, it's 30%. Braille literacy is linked to higher academic success in all fields.

Moving outside the world of Braille, literacy of any kind matters. Being able to read text has a massive impact on a person's ability to access information, education, and employment. Being able to talk about the inability to read text matters, because that's how we're able to hold systems accountable.

So, yes, audiobooks should count as reading. But, no, they should not count as literacy.

[naamahdarling]

Finally, a good fucking take.

[bats-online]

Ideas in the 1890s: What if cocaine was a health drink

Ideas in the 1920s: We should make a new kind of plastic you can eat

Ideas in the 1960s: We should invent a new and more civil racism

Ideas in the 1980s: What if you could have sex with Hello World

Ideas in the 1990s: What if cars had TVs in them

Ideas in the 2000s: Is it gay to wash your hair?

Ideas in the 2010s: What if a refrigerator was made of goo

Ideas in the 2020s: What if there was a website where you could talk to Pepsi

[beezlebutch]

"Pride month is over"

WRONG! Your pride month is over! Me and all the other disabled queers are having pride month two: disability edition

[jehandant]

Reblogging this again bc people in the notes are asking a lot of "Am I included? Am I disabled if I have x?" and I just wanted to add the flag here to show people who the pride month is for.

This is the new flag, the old one was more vivid and in a z shape, but it's been made more neutral to be inclusive of people with seizures or sensory issues.

Each stripe represents a different aspect of disability:

Red: Physical disabilities

Yellow: Cognitive & intellectual disabilities

White: (And this is the key one I think) Invisible AND undiagnosed disabilities

Blue: Mental illnesses

Green: Sensory disabilities

If you're autistic or have ADHD? this is your pride month. If you have a mental illness, it's your pride month. If you're hard of hearing, this is your pride month. If you have an autoimmune disorder, this is your pride month. If you are not diagnosed with anything but you know something is up with you: THIS IS STILL YOUR PRIDE MONTH.

[aru]

Tumblr Code.

[geekishchic]

If I ever see any of you in public, the code is “I like your shoelaces”

that way we know we’re from tumblr without revealing anything

I’m just going to say this to strangers until i find a tumblr person

must keep reblogering!! Im going to be so suspicious if any one tells me this now!

Remember the answer is: I stole them from the president.

always reblog tumblr identification

[hobbinch]

This is an absolute tumblr relic. I feel like an archaeologist right now. This is incredible that this is on my dash.

[heritageposts]

date of origin: 2nd of july, 2012.

[blingblingboy-kinnie]

Bro what it’s the second of July 2020. Happy 8th anniversary of this classic tumblr post!!!!

[tumbalendar]

Happy Birthday Tumblr Code!

[modern-politics111]

[scotty-wolf-lover1968]

important and encouraging

[pcamtschatica]

Found a great (free) documentary on the Freedom House Ambulance Service here- https://www.wqed.org/freedomhouse/ (has captions too)!

[hoodiedeer]

I can’t believe this is the first time I’ve heard about this. like for years I’ve been thinking “imagine if the police were in charge of ambulances and firefighting, all the horrible problems that would cause, wouldn’t it be better if they were a separate thing, etc” as a way to better understand/explain the fundamental problems with the existence of police. that framing was part of what made me start to understand why my friends were saying “ACAB” and “abolish the police”. I had no idea it was literally once historically like that and not just a hypothetical tbh

[ardentdelirium]

Interview with one of the original members of Freedom House Ambulance

[scriptmedic]

This is cool as shit, and a part of my own career’s history that I didn’t even know about.