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they/them non-binary, ace, queer, tired (username and blog title courtesy of Ovid: bear through and endure: one day this pain will be useful to you)

[resqectable]

“I’m exhausted from trying to be stronger than I feel.”

— Unknown

[prokopetz]

Level 1: Asylums are scary because there's crazy people there.

Level 2: We shouldn't treat mental health facilities as objects of horror because it stigmatises mental illness.

Level 3: Asylums are scary because there's psychiatrists there.

[randomreasonstolive]

Reason to Live #14000

Find one quiet joy and guard it. Maybe it’s the way morning light spills through a window, or the warmth of a mug between cold hands, or the laugh you haven’t heard yet but will.

Live for the tiny things— the ones that don’t demand anything from you, the ones that remind you the world isn’t all teeth.

A single small joy is enough to anchor a day. A few of them can anchor a life.

And if they can’t find one yet, tell them this: The world hasn’t shown you your joy today. Hold on until it does.

  – Guest Submission

(Please don't add negative comments to these posts.) 

[spellinwaiting]

not many people know this but when talking about your multiple pronoun-using friend you build up a combo meter for every subsequent unique pronoun you use

[spaghettihell]

Reblog to hug prev

Please

[necrxsaint]

reblog this to remind the person you reblogged it from that theyre loved

[corpoinsurrecto]

i need a hug and six months of sleep

[mysticalcats]

it's really gross how you can be self aware enough to know what's going on in your head but you can't actually stop it from happening. i need to grab it like a pigeon that got stuck in a house and throw it out the window. be free

[gnocchioli]

Imagine all the things I could do if I just did them.

[hailraykin-deactivated20230814]

Reblog to give mutuals a break from whatever they're been going through

[shamebats]

"it's just stress" oh thank god, it's just the silent killer that slowly kills you, perfectly harmless, no need to worry

[genderkoolaid]

Workplace Experiences of Nonbinary Employees

The majority of nonbinary adults in the workforce are under age 35 (87%), and half (51%) are people of color. About three-quarters (74%) of nonbinary people in the workforce are making less than $50,000 a year. Our analysis indicates that employment discrimination against nonbinary employees is persistent and widespread. At some point in their lives, about six in 10 nonbinary employees (59%) reported experiencing discrimination or harassment at work (including being fired, not hired, not promoted, or verbally, physically, or sexually harassed) because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Many nonbinary employees reported recent experiences of discrimination and harassment. Within the past year, 16% of nonbinary employees reported that they had been fired, not hired, or not promoted because of their sexual orientation or gender identity, and 20% reported experiencing harassment at work. One in four (26%) nonbinary employees reported experiencing adverse treatment because of their LGBTQ status at their current job. Many nonbinary employees also reported engaging in actions to avoid discrimination and harassment, including hiding their nonbinary identity and changing their appearance or behaviors. Nearly half (45%) of nonbinary employees were not out to their current supervisor, and 17% were not out to any of their co-workers. Two-thirds (67%) of nonbinary employees reported downplaying their LGBTQ status at work by doing one or more of the following: changing their speech, mannerisms, appearance, or how they dress at work; avoiding work social events; or not talking about their outside activities at work. Nearly six in 10 (58%) nonbinary employees have looked for another job because of how they were treated based on their sexual orientation or gender identity at work, and half (50%) reported leaving a job because of such treatment.

[ruhrohrexia]

i wont worry about it i say to myself with the always worried disorder

[proudnb]

There will be times when people around you will express bigotry towards nonbinary people. As a nonbinary person yourself, it can be easy to feel ashamed for not standing up to it enough, in the right way, or at all when it happens.

Remember that it's their fault, not yours. Even though it might help in the long run, you don't have a responsibility to correct them.

Your responsibility is to survive. Surviving means picking your battles, not taking on all of them.

[storm-of-feathers]

yeah yeah rainbow capitalism is bad and whatever but like. when I was a child, being pro gay was not the popular or lucrative choice. I'm happy that times have changed.

[storm-of-feathers]

I miss rainbow capitalism. I do. I miss when it felt like public opinion was still pro gay. I understand it was always an empty gesture, but it mattered in a sense of knowing how socially acceptable being queer is. If that makes sense.

[windwardstar]

gentle reminder that if you're nonbinary and someone doesn't respect your identity now, nothing you do will actually make them respect it. you don't need to change anything about yourself you don't want to. name, pronouns, hormones, surgeries, clothes, hair, the way you speak or act or present yourself to the world. if they respected your identity, they'd respect it regardless of what you do or don't do or want or don't want to do. they will always find some reason why they don't have to respect you. the goal post can always move. don't waste your time trying to meet it. just do what's gonna make you happy.

[ghostcaterwaul]

Reblog to gain creative energy and to give more creative energy to the person you reblogged this from.