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Perjury. 50s

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

Perjury. She/her. 50s. RQ adjacent. Intense anti-c.

SFW transID blog, alternative to my main (perinjuryy). Cannot follow back. Primarily focused on transition here.

TransIDs I am currently transitioning for -> . . . transemotionless*, transtotalitarian*, transallosexual, transablebodied, nulladhd, trisparent, trissadist *currently emotionally numb and authoritarian, so partially to goal

Other TransIDs -> . . . transwoman, transdictator, transgeneral, transperisex, transsinglet, transunharmed, transallseeingeye, transforcedman, transgolddigger, transsexless

I am fine with people giving advice or recommendations. I am also fine with people giving motivation, including motivation that comes across as tough or cruel.

If you vaguepost me, I bite back worse than if you responded to me directly. So I would advise speaking to me directly if you have a problem.

[fuckfaceult-deactivated20260315]

dear narcissist in need of supply,

you are amazing, yes you. you are perfect, you are loved, you don't need to change for anyone. You're important and loved. i want to be your friend, everyone wants to be your friend, everyone wants to be you because you're so fucking awesome.

you deserve the spotlight, no matter what.

even if you are anti anything i am, anti radqueer, anti proship, or a "bad person" you are still amazing to someone, no matter what.

you are loved.

[darling-husband]

I despise the notion that it makes you "less radqueer" to not accept everything. Just because you do not support one thing does not mean you are less radqueer than someone who does. Radqueer is not a static thought process. It is understandable if certain things bother you, it is understandable if you cannot will yourself to support a group of people. You and your identity are both still valid. Anyone who is unsympathetic to your ideas is, objectively, an asshole. Regardless of if "radqueer" means "radically accepting" or not. It is a label, it is a construct, and you are fully allowed to have your own thoughts outside of it. Speak your mind, Radqueers!

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

The concept of radical inclusion is always seen as a line to be crossed. Usually, anything I support and beyond is radically inclusive, anything less is exclusive and you're a fake radqueer.

Inclusion is a spectrum. There is no objective measure for what makes someone radically inclusive. And nobody can be *always* inclusive in *all* circumstances unless they have an incoherent ideology which breaks itself apart (ex. radically inclusive of active Nazis, which ultimately excludes those who are commonly victimized by Nazis). Also, many seem to forget the paradox that gatekeeping the radqueer community to only those who meet the highest degree of inclusion they see possible is in itself active exclusion.

This perspective intimidates people out of expressing concern or questioning things. If they're not a perfect beacon of inclusion then they're a bad person and a fake radqueer. Both of those are incredibly important to avoid a community spiraling.

[permatired-stolas]

Learned the hard way that misandrists absolutely cannot put together that they're incredibly sexist or can hurt other people as a consequence of their misandry [Literally had a misandrist t-man who said "I didn't know she was trans, she wasn't out" when talking about him flipping out at an ex friend and that person's partner, while hilariously not hating trans men which I don't think he realizes can be. Telling™.]

Misandrists are always fucking bioessential. Misandrists can be transmeds.

Misandrists have no place in the queer community when no one will ever be safe in it; Cis queers, black queers, trans folk.

Its an unnecessary hatred that harms so much more, and a misandrist should automatically be distrusted with intersectional folk.

I tried really hard to not bring it up, cause I don't have many boundaries and I try to keep them as small as I can because I believe my work and my thoughts are shared by a lot of people and can be helpful to more

And I can understand to a certain extent that hating something about someone or a group that hurt you and others.

On the other hand.

Hate towards groups isn't fucking helpful. I've been seeing a lot of people put down what it means to possibly come out as a queer man, I see constantly the idea that any darker skinned boys are really "grown" and not of their own volition, i still very much see the demonization of disabled men, I still VERY much see the hatred of specifically muslim and jewish men. And it's all pretty fucking bad

To be a misandrist is to full stop discount and ignore several intersections between being a man and being opposed, I think this is because people don't know or want to understand that typical groups of power can intersect and fuse with groups that are oppressed

Like if you are a fellow viewer and you are trying to understand what I mean, let me make this a bit eaiser

Up until very recently, racial identities like irish and Italian were widely still treated badly even though in a white supremacist world, it makes no sense to be awful to other white people.

That's because 1, white supremacy isn't logical, and 2, the general umbrella of [racism] was more important than the more specific idea of [white supremacy]

So yes

A [Misogynistic] idea is wide spread, but the more important idea even to those in power is [sexism] generally

They want to hurt everyone and divide as much as possible, isolating groups and people until they do horrible things. But it does not help anyone to be hateful, you have to understand what and who you hate, so you can stop them or at least stop someone else from being like that in the future

There's disabled, queer, black, brown, and men of all religions who suffer greatly and need help. It will not kill you to see them as people and help them as you would anyone else

It will not kill you to be kind to another

No matter the things others do

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

I think I am somehow making progress with my NullADHD transition. I am still having a hard time with my hyperactive symptoms, but I have managed to brute force through a lot of my attention issues, which was my primary goal. I don't really know how I accomplished it, and it seems like nobody else in my system can do the same thing.

Transablebodied, though... I am struggling very badly. Especially with my wrist at the moment. And yesterday I had a bad symptoms day and couldn't get out of bed after quite a good streak of going without. Horrible.

[yourpuppetneighbor]

🌈how it feels when i go to look in the radqueer tags, and there has not been one million new posts since i had last checked them (2 minutes ago):

[localgerman]

hey i just wanted to say your transnpd tips post is really based in stereotypes and is not representative of the cisnpd community

-a cisnpd being

My tips were based off Symptoms shown and listed on medical websites aswell as things ive seen in people npds, stereotypes are based in truth sometimes. Every person with npd is different, hence why i used symptoms and stuff ive seen myself as the base point. No offense to anyone though!

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

Different cisNPD being, I agree with anon, and off the gate saying "stereotypes are based in truth sometimes" in response to someone criticizing you for perpetuating stereotypes for an incredibly demonized disorder is inadvisable.

Anyways, most of the tips provided 1) perpetuate negative stereotypes, and saying these stereotypes are based in truth showcases an extremely negative view of pwNPD, 2) read like descriptions of pwNPD you'd read off of a "narc abuse" blog, and 3) seem to be based strictly on the most exaggerated and poorly interpreted versions of NPD-typical behaviors.

I showed the tips post to my comrades with NPD and they were concerned you were a narc abuse believer or created the post with the intention of showcasing hatred for pwNPD.

Also, the tips post advocates for nonconsensual harm. This goes against common respect and also implies an inherent tie between NPD and abuse.

I would recommend avoiding this approach to any tip posts in the future.

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

People who wish to be apart of the transID community and advocate for transIDs should seek to improve on their ability to oppose bigotry, especially within areas they frequently speak on. You cannot be meaningfully pro-trace if you are unwilling to undo racist viewpoints and actions, you cannot be meaningfully pro-transabled if you are unwilling to undo ableist viewpoints and actions, and so on.

Contrary to popular belief, identifying as being a part of the transID community or as a radqueer does not make you immune to being bigoted. Nor does it give you an excuse to be. You don't have to be perfect, nobody is (and you should run from anyone who claims to be), but you should still be interested in progress. Too many people use the radqueer label as an excuse to be a piece of shit without consequences.

[vampysceneslvt]

how to properly SHUT UP a narcissist

1. give them cash venmo

2. tell them they're the smartest person you know on earth

3. tell them they're the best leader, and if they were a ruler of the world, everything would be better

4. Tell them they're so pretty that they must have been blessed by Aphrodite

5. Give them the attention they deserve

[woofqueer]

ex absuers and ex offenderas who ar trying to recovcer andb improvew themselcves i hope ouyre weell and i love yu

[yourpuppetneighbor]

🌈knowledge dysphoria

🌈a type of atypical/divergent dysphoria, caused by having too much or too little knowledge of a topic than you feel as if you should !

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

Transablebodied feeling for today is physically pushing myself farther than most cisablebodied people are willing to and still feeling as though I am not doing enough.

[rqconfess]

other rq dating problem: everyone has dated in the community and everyone's ex is everywhere wtf you can't date a rq without their 7 evil exes

this made me giggle

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

I guess this person blocked me on this blog so I ended up being able to see his post but not being able to respond directly. And, although block evading(?) is considered a bad thing, I actually find it worse to intentionally misrepresent what someone said to you to dismiss someone's experiences with marginalization. Shit-talking someone in this way and then blocking them for correcting your bigotry is something I don't feel the need to respect, so I won't. But I doubt OP will see this post as a result of the block. I spent a lot of time on it anyways, and it could potentially be of interest to other people, so here's the preserved form of the original reply:

You cut off the actual demands I made in that post. That was simply the origin motivating my statement, which would be true and important regardless of whether or not I had seen a lot of that form of content.

It was not my algorithm, and that's an assumption on your end. I encountered these things through normal radqueer tags and scrolling through profiles of people who I wanted to read the recent posts of - each instance was divorced from algorithm and solely the result of raw frequency.

You are quite literally denying the experiences of a marginalized person recounting her experiences related to her marginalization. I am intersex, I see a lot of intersexism in the community. I will talk about that. Of course, you want to deny how real that is, and then make up a reason why to discredit me.

"You don't have to be comfortable with everything" I'm sorry for being uncomfortable with intersexism. I'm just some whiny motherfucker who needs to sit down and shut up so the perisex people can have fun.

The entire first post is so weird because you both want to deny the prevalence of intersexism I have observed AND defend it. So, classic bigot moment. And I feel comfortable saying that now, because you denied my attempts at offering you alternatives and holding off on any labels your way.

The second post is great at entirely avoiding what I'm criticizing to paint me as some identity tyrant. Okay, can you personally call yourself your AGAB if you want to? Whatever. I still have my qualms with it, but I guess that's a lesser issue. That's not what I'm complaining about, though. You know that's what I'm not complaining about. I'm not criticizing you for using the word AMAB, I'm criticizing you for conflating AGAB with appearance and sexual characteristics.

No, it's not like telling trans elders they can't identify as transsexual. What the fuck? I guess that's on the basis of you thinking this is a matter of identity. It's not, this is about the misusage of AGAB. And AGAB has a very bloody history that perisex trans people can't really reclaim, so it's not like the word transsexual. And misusing AGAB has so many consequences, both socially and medically. Someone calling themselves transsexual, at worst, makes someone uncomfortable.

Now actually address the main point of the criticism, not side nitpicks you can use to make yourself look like a victim of my evil anti-self-expression ways. Being radqueer does not mean you are no longer bigoted. Being radqueer involves having your bigotry pointed out and being willing to fix it. If you are stuck in your prejudices - unchanging and stubborn - that is definitional bigotry.

So here's the main point: What does something like transAMABbust mean? What are you trying to describe with this label? More directly - what is an "AMAB bust?" I genuinely cannot comprehend a potential extended definition of this that does not hit on transphobic and/or intersexist marks. And, further, why can't it just be redefined using a word that actually expresses what I know you mean?

[nyaandoll]

transpaleskin

𓏵 a transid where someone is transitioning to have paler skin / desires having paler skin

( ｡˘ ᴗ ˘｡) ♡︎ coined by me !

[rjtbot]

Day 19: Growth

TransAMABbust

Just straightened the lines. Original on the far right for comparison.

Taglist: @2timequeer, @datakeep, @escortedescape, @fagcvnt-bah, @jestingjellyjamboree, @loverboyvergil, @perma-pup, @permamanipulover, @radically-katrielle, @nullqueer, @truebluemagiicc, @vocalux, @werdothestrange

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

I feel something like "transflatchest" or "nullbreasts/nullbust" or anything more descriptive would be a more appropriate name as there is no such thing as an AMAB (or AFAB) bust.

[pig-anon]

Actually there is

Cis men have a chance of getting gynecomastia which is the forming of breast tissue on cis men

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

... ?

That is exactly why there is not.

AMAB and AFAB refer to events. You cannot have certain parts of your body be labelled AMAB or AFAB because they have nothing to do with physical characteristics.

It's evident from the symbology used both here and on the transAFABbust flags that OP is referring to physically flat chests, not the chests of people who happened to have been AMAB.

Using "AMAB chest" to mean "flat chest" echoes transphobic and intersexist ideals (not saying OP is transphobic or intersexist) because it implies that everyone is pericis, or should be pericis - a person who was AMAB should have a flat chest because that's what's "correct."

To reiterate, AMAB and AFAB are events, and you cannot meaningfully apply that event to what someone's chest looks like unless you deny the existence of trans and intersex people.

[perinjuryy-cleaned]

Radqueers stop bringing AMAB/AFAB/AGAB shit into the community. I am so serious. I have seen it like three times today. Stop. It is transphobic and intersexist. You do not know what those words mean. So stop.