adventures of a radqueer mom

62 kiddos and counting

[permamom]

Welcome! My name is Dandelion, a radqueer with transids, and this blog is mostly going to be dedicated to my adventures as a permamom! I'll probably talk about other things and identities as well but I want this to be focused more on myr various parental identities!

⋆ plural ⋆ transrace ⋆ transage ⋆ transabled ⋆ transharmed ⋆ transharmful ⋆ transuniverse ⋆

(I have too many identities to list here but they can be found in myr identity carrd)

⋆ sys name ⋆ The Clockwork Dandelions

⋆ age ⋆ chrono25+, abroage, tereage

⋆ prns ⋆ shi/it/xe/vi/kye/gore/void/rot/bug

⋆ 1stpp ⋆ me/I/we/us/wi/mus

⋆ other radq blog ⋆ @feastborne

⋆ prn.cc ⋆ general carrd ⋆

⋆ interactions from main blog - @mintkissgirl ⋆

#mama tells a story 🧸 (my posts)

#mama cries 🧸 (vent posts)

#mama shares a picture 🧸 (reblogs)

#mama answers your question 🧸 (asks!!)

#dinner time with mama 🧸 (recipes & food)

#mama plays a game 🧸 (ask games)

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#mama makes an adoption 🧸 (adoption posts)

#mama has a dark thought 🧸 (posts about my "darker" transids)

⋆ wi/mus 1st person pronouns ⋆

I/we = wi

me/us = mus

my/our = myr

myself/ourselves = myrself

My Lovely Kiddos <3

ʕ⁠っ⁠•⁠ᴥ⁠•⁠ʔ⁠っ @cherryblossomwinters, @littlelovedeaddove, 🎀💖🪷, 🫀🌀, 🦊🐾, 🥽, 🍷💌, 🏴‍☠️⛓️, 🐺🐾🌈, @roleofblue, @ethannnisalittlegayoopss, 🌠🌪️, 🐭🩷, 🪶🍰, 📿🌞, 🪽, 🩷🌌, 🎒𓆏, 👁️‍🗨️🍹, 🗡️🪽🩼, ❤️‍🩹, 🏅, 🧸🐻, @strawberry-foxboy, Camden, 🖌️🐙, ☕🐇, 💿, 🪭🎐🪶, ⭐🪶, 🎟️, ⚾, 👟, 🐊🦷, 🫧🌊, Percy📚, Willow🐦‍⬛, 🎐, 🐾🪶, 🍭🐶, 🎭✨, 📜, @transidlanza, ☀️🌙, ⚙📔, 🌈🎉, 🦠, 🌈⭐️, @snuffstalker, @vanilla-plush, 🦴🐺, izora, 👑☀️

ʕ⁠っ⁠•⁠ᴥ⁠•⁠ʔ⁠っ Little Buddy (frog that lives on my doorknob), Derpy (kpdh)

⋆ if my kiddo, let me get to know you ⋆

[permamom]

Mama!! Happy pride!!

Happy pride, cariño!!! I hope it's a beautiful one for everyone <3

[permamom]

Hello mama.. I've been receiving a lot of hate from antis. It made me go into an episode and emotionally shut down. My brain is not as strong as normal beings. I have type 1 bipolar and schizoaffective disorder so it hurts me a lot when they do that.. and replay in my head until I start to cry.. it's so hard to ignore when your brain is constantly on fighting mode like that..

How do I stop feeling so guilty for being transracial.. why does me changing myself make others so hostile..?

- Ranpo💌

I'm so sorry you're dealing with so much hate, cariño, but I promise it'll be okay. I wish I could tell you how to stop feeling guilty but I promise you, there's nothing wrong with it. You are who you are. No one can take that away from you. Take pride in yourself. Take pride in knowing who you are. You are an amazing individual and deserve to live as your true self <3

[milkymyway]

👆👆👆

[chatsvoid]

Beauty in the little things.

[radqueerizpunkx3]

what is consent?

you may have heard things like "pro-consentual abuse" or "pro-consentual contact" and you may think to yourself "what is consent?"

consent means, in its barest form, "To give assent, as to the proposal of another; agree: synonym: assent." but we all know here that consent is a lot more nuanced than just that.

so, what is consent?

consent is an unambiguous, affirmative, and conscious decision by each person to engage in mutually agreed-upon sexual (or otherwise) activity. it has been agreed apon in this community that beings can consent to things like abuse, cnc, or other things people typically do not associate with consent.

"but where does consent stop and nonconsentually abuse begin?"

consent stops and nonconsentually abuse begins when a being can not safeword during cnc scenes, can not say no to certain abuse, or generally stops liking the dynamic and the other being doesnt stop.

when a being stops consenting, no matter if its mid scene or you think its ridiculous, stop. stop the scene, or the dynamic, and ask them "why did you stop consenting." while its not their duty to tell you why, it can help you further understand or help the previous dynamic being again with minor changes.

if you believe you are being nonconsentually abused, and the being your being nonconsentually abused by has not stopped despite you saying your not consenting anymore? leave them. if its online, block them. if its in real life, find resources in your area and use them.

you do not need to stay with them. even if you agreed to the abuse at first then realized you didnt like it later. while yes communicating with the other being may help in the future, you do not owe it to them.

"but moon," you may ask "what about two beings who both like nonconsentual abuse?"

two beings can like nonconsentual abuse and be in a relationship with each other. that is their business and, as long as they both agreed to the nonconsentual abuse in the beginning of the relationship, they have every right to stay with each other.

"but moon," you might ask again "what about beings that typically cant consent?"

"what does pro-consentual contact mean?"

there will be beings that you believe cant consent while others do believe they can consent. it's not your job to call them out, doxx, harass, or otherwise witch hunt the person for their beliefs.

pro-consentual contact (or p-cc as often referred to) can mean many things among many different beings. mostly it means the being believes that certain beings (animals, dead beings, minors, etc etc) can in fact consent, and that paraphiles should be able to interact with those beings as long as consent is given by both parties.

"what about pro-consentual abuse?"

pro-consentual abuse refers to the belief that a being can consent to abuse before it happens. this is mostly used by trans/cis/tris harmed and/or harmfuls in their dynamtics together.

this has been a post by moon.

good morning, good evening, and good night.

[permamom]

hello um i am not one of ur kids but ur blog is very nice and makes me feel a little bit more comforted as a regressor in an unsafe home and no carer ... so thank you :-)

That's okay, cariño. You don't have to be one of my kiddos to be safe and warm here. You deserve somewhere safe to relax for awhile and I hope you're able to find a safe home soon. You're always welcome here and feel free to join the family whenever you'd like!

You are loved <3

[permamom]

as a crocheter i prefer wearables/anything you can put other things it over amigurumi.. >_< especially something with a repeating pattern! because i. personally. really uhm dont like things changing every row and its really confusing. ^^

so if amigurumis are a little hard, try making small wearables like... uhm...... chokers or beanies ^-^

— 🌟🪶 (🔪)

Oooooo thank you! I'm still trying to figure out how to crochet straight tho. I keep counting wrong (ew dyscalculia) so it winds up crooked and I have to start over. I actually haven't crocheted in a hot minute cuz I got frustrated, took a break, then my computer completely stopped working and I've been trying to fix that. So it's been... Yeah, I need to get back into it haha <3

[permamom]

Hello mama :D

Uhh I'm not the same alter that talked to you the first few times sooo pls don't mind ''-_-

We recently started writing poems and tried our paws at animation!!

How have you been doing mama??

-👑☀

That's okay, cariño! I don't mind at all! I hope y'all have been doing well?

I've been doing okay. Been keeping up with my Spanish learning and trying to figure out my upcoming move <3

[permamom]

your blog is quite warm . i am someone with an extensive amount of trauma regarding my ( null )mother , so i hope you are not opposed to an adult potentially joining your flock of adoptees , or at the least hanging around . this is the one time i have felt even the slightest bit of embarrassment when submitting an ask .

i hope your day has gone well .

Of course, cariño! I'm glad to be a warm presence in your life and I'd be more than happy for you to join my little flock <3

[permamom]

Just g♡t ♡ff w♡rk, I feel sleepy but happy. Its very safe and c♡mfy there :3

I'm glad, cariño, and I hope you sleep well tonight <3

[permamom]

hii mama! i gots a in reel life mama :)) -mimi 🌷

Yay! I'm so happy for you, cariño! <3

[permamom]

Do u want to be moots? I hope ur having a good day mama

Sure! I'd love to, cariño! I'll follow from my main blog in just a second <3

[permamom]

I g♡t transferred t♡ a (h♡pefully) safer w♡rk place!! Its further away th♡ so ill need t♡ take a bus ;(

I'm sorry about the longer commute, cariño, but I'm so happy you're safer <3

[permamom]

is it ok if like.... i see us (the collective) as more of a garnet from steven univrse situation.. mm like we're seperate but also one.. we all think that thats the case bcuz most of the time we dont know whos fronting and all but we're still seperate in identites?

That's perfectly okay!!! That actually sounds a lot like how my system works, actually! We consider myrself blurian (link) and somewhere between median and multiple! You can absolutely see yourself as a gem fusion and I think it's honestly beautiful, cariño <3

[permamom]

MAMA I GET T♡KEEP MY J♡B!!!!

Yay!!! I'm so happy for you cariño!!! <3

[permamom]

reply to this pls :> 你好妈妈 (hi mama)

Honey... I don't think that makes you a predator. I also don't think that ghosting you is the same as grooming you...