"In a more serious vein, what if sexual orientation could also be read as less fixed, less determined, more negotiated and fluid? What if we actually stopped and recognized the multiple ways in which men and women, boys and girls, exceed and fall short of the definitions that give those categories heft and longevity? And why should we do all this? Because despite all reasonable predictions, we live in a world that still controls girls and girl sexualities within a rigid system of blocks, taboos, and prohibitions. And we still expect boys to punish each other into "normal" forms of masculinity and then compete and agitate for female attention in ways that make women into killjoys, moral arbiters, and passive bystanders at the prom, still waiting to be asked to dance. And this early training is very misleading in the sense that, once the early courtship between men and women is complete, very often it is the woman who becomes the active partner in the relationship, bullying her male partner into marriage, childrearing, domestic responsibility, and more. Her presumed passivity has to morph quickly and definitely into a multitasking, frantic form of controlling authority. His presumed activity has to transform just as completely into a quiescent, submissive mode that makes him the sous-chef to her ratatouille. In fact, gendered adulthood nowadays often represents a total reversal of the gender roles that have been drummed into children, and this is true across ethnic groups and classes. In fact, it is well known that as an industrial economy has given way to a service economy, and especially in the economic downturn of the early twenty-first century, women have done better economically than men, so much so that in many households, women are the main wage earners. (…)"
Halberstam, J. Jack: Gaga Feminism. Sex, Gender and the End of Normal. Beacon Press, Boston Massachusets, 2012, S.9
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