[They/Pher/Mel, inphernal lifeterms] AA+AAA battery. pfp by @oathchestra on discord scythe + skateboard phighting multifictive and local Urbanshade Medical & Welfare Personnel. + host of @the-murder-of-crows-coll
the kins of robloxia dc info: https://www.tumblr.com/phighter14/788503819767201792/discord-name-the-kins-of-robloxia-sources
also. not a roleplay blog (for the most part). this is my main blog. i am indeed scythe. and skateboard. and reaper scythe. and an oziphrage. and more. what the fuck.
plural sideblog for da other headmates @the-murder-of-crows-coll & cohostās blog @pro-willo-grappling-hook
addendum: i like roleplaying and dont feel like making a separate blog so i may sometimes roleplay here LMAO
addendum 2: radqueers fuck off
heres all the things i coined and/or made a flag for and also my system's coining blog is @crow-coining
also. an announcement on my labels. (tl;dr iām a Scythe and Skateboard multifictive now, not referring to myself as fictionkin of them anymore.)
nonhuman plural culture is. weāre all our own species (everyone is nonhuman). but weāre all also an angel collectively. and we all hate this human body really bad. Like yeah, I donāGET OUT HOOK IM TYPING :( Sorry.
anyways. im an inphernal. five of us are inphernals. and we want our horns and our gears back. but also all of us want our wings back because weāre collectively angelkin. our ridiculous 7-9 pairs of wings. please universe? -scythe
I also miss home but thatās an exomemories thing. Oh anā also the oziphrages. -Grapplinā Hook
this is nonhuman plural culture! this is kinda real actually i miss so much about my old self,, and then also missing antlers i never had. collective kins are strange to me (said as collectively a deer)
also i miss home too. i wanna go back to space wa :c dunno what oziphrages are but they sound like they'd be really cool ~šØ
nonhuman plurality we (my median subsystem) already have multiple forms of alterhumanity (cat therian and winged humanoid kin) but deciding anyway to otherlink to yet another non-human creature (wolfwalkers) because another facet really wants to :p (it's chill being a wolf is cool as fuck :3)
this is nonhuman plural culture! being a wolf does seem really cool
hi we're the murder of crows. they/them collectively (both plural and singular). this is our coining blog. yeah. most of our info is at @the-murder-of-crows-coll so yeah.
dni: anti-endo, anti-willo, anti-alterhuman, radqueers and supporters, basic dni
hadddd the idea of something like xenogears in the inpherno but i don't really know what'd count as a xenogear. my first thought was gears that aren't parallel to an official roblox gear but like. who's dictating that in-universe
i also considered this but wasn't sure how i'd describe it.... this makes more sense i was in a moving car i don't think i was able to fully think straight
but yeah xenogear would more likely be things that arenāt physical objects than gears that arenāt roblox gears because iirc there can be inphernals with gears that arenāt from the roblox catalog we just donāt have any firmly established to be so for some fucking reason
hadddd the idea of something like xenogears in the inpherno but i don't really know what'd count as a xenogear. my first thought was gears that aren't parallel to an official roblox gear but like. who's dictating that in-universe
Of the intricacies and complications of soulbond relationships and the importance of personhood, equal treatment, and careful consideration.
One of my biggest concerns regarding the shift and massive growth within the soulbond community is that it feels like some people forget who/what soulbonds* are. This was one of my biggest gripes before but with so many people suddenly interested in soulbonding itās turned from an annoyance to concern very quickly. The mindset that a lot of soulbonders seem to have doesnāt truly acknowledge the reality of soulbonding, at least based on what is posted publicly. And even if in private people think differently, the impression given to people interested in soulbonding is potentially dangerous.
This multi-section, 2k word essay goes in depth about this issue and what I believe is the more appropriate way to approach soulbonding. This is not meant as any form of attack or to invalidate anyoneās spiritual practice. I simply hope that this can be enlightening for those curious about soulbonding or already soulbonders.
* Keep in mind when I talk about soulbonding from this point onwards Iām talking about it spiritually, and specifically the most common explanation behind it(a spiritual bond to someone from an outside universe). Some soulbonders have another explanation or donāt view it spiritually. Most of what I say likely wonāt apply to those cases, but some of it might still apply.
The Personhood of a Soulbond
Many soulbonders purposefully seek out making connections to people who in this world are fictional, only existing in some sort of fictional media such as books or television. There is nothing wrong with this, but Iāve seen many soulbonders over the years seemingly get stuck on the fictional character thing. For example, you can still find old posts where people talk about soulbonding to many different people until they have a soulbond of all their favorite characters. It was also commonplace for people to expect soulbonds to be permanent residents in their mindscapes from the onset, without any consideration of the soulbondās wants. I observed these issues primarily with soulbonders with āfictional characterā soulbonds, but itās not exclusive to them.
Soulbonds exist in another world where they have their own lives. They(usually) have their own bodies, families, general relationships, careers, aspirations, everything that we have. They are not something different from us. And how you interact with a soulbond wonāt be much different from interacting with any person in this world. Any respect given to someone youād meet in this world you should give your soulbond, and the same for any caution youād give a stranger.
Relationships with soulbonds build similarly to relationships to people in your own world, just complicated by having a spiritual connection. Itāll take time to learn about each other and build trust and true feelings, regardless of what those feelings are. A strong friendship, romance, familial bond, or any other relationship shouldnāt be expected right away. The nature of your relationship may also change whether that be in a positive or negative way. Regardless of your initial intentions and feelings your soulbond may have different ones. And like other relationships it requires some level of commitment, it canāt simply be thrown away if you change your mind or pushed aside and returned to later. Thatās a lesson I learned first hand and even two years later Iām still trying to mend the mistake I made.
You may seek out a soulbond with someone and have that person not be interested, or you may want them to be a permanent resident or daytripper and theyāll refuse. Not everyone wants to have a deep spiritual connection to someone who is from their perspective a complete stranger, and those willing to do that may still not want to ever leave their own world. Whatever choice they make must be respected, just as youād want your choice respected if the roles were reversed. If you really want a specific thing out of soulbonding, you need to either look for a specific world where that person would surely agree to your wants or keep searching more or less at random. If I had advice for how to do that Iād give some now, but sadly I lack that.
Motives, Intentions, and Morals
With the rise of popularity of soulbonding particularly among yumeshippers/selfshippers, I feel like another thing must be mentioned that people fail to acknowledge. Because soulbonds are real people like you and I, they have their own motivations and morals that may not align with yours. You need to consider that before you attempt soulbonding, not afterwards. This misalignment may be as minor as a small disagreement or as extreme as something that could cause serious harm to you or others. I donāt say that to fearmonger or as an attempt of gatekeeping the practice, but as a real warning. Iāve seen firsthand what the potential consequences are if caution isnāt taken.
Regardless of if someone is from this world or another one, they arenāt necessarily predictable and may act in ways you didnāt anticipate. You should never make the assumption that a soulbond shares your thoughts and opinions, even if it feels like common sense to you like basic morals such as āmurder is wrongā or ābe kind to othersā. You wouldnāt assume that a stranger you just met on the street is safe and has your best interests at heart. You can only truly make an extremely educated guess at best until you get to know them better. And if you had a deep bond with that strangerās soul that wouldnāt change if that person is safe or not.
As a general rule of thumb: if you wouldnāt feel comfortable or safe with someone in this world who was like that, you shouldnāt have a soulbond of that person whatsoever. Yes, the chance of being physically harmed in the traditional sense is gone but that doesnāt remove risk. This especially goes for if youāre at all interested in letting a soulbond enter your body in any capacity. Your standards should be the same, regardless of what you want to do. Even if youād just be a little uneasy around someone like the person youād like to soulbond, think long and hard about it first. If you still are intent on soulbonding to that person, stray further from the source material youāre using to make it safer and less likely to become dangerous or uncomfortable.
Iām not interested in another soulbond for the time being and have no plans of it anytime in the future either, but Iāll use myself as an example. Letās say that I wanted a āfictional characterā soulbond to someone from His Dark Materials/The Book of Dust(chosen for simplicity as itās the only fiction I talk about here), and that I had nobody specific in mind. What I should do is consider different characters and who they are objectively more so than my opinion of them.
Immediately I know that Marisa Coulter would be both someone Iād never get along with and also likely an extremely dangerous soulbond to have, mainly due to our completely opposing religious views and her history of abusive and violent behavior. If I had her as a soulbond thereās a good chance Iād end up hurt, even if just by being emotionally abused. On the other hand her narrative counterpart Lord Asriel is someone I could see myself getting along with much better as we share very similar views and interests, though he is very unlikely to care in any way about soulbonding due to his extreme ambitions. The most harm thatād probably come of that is being rejected, which would be a big disappointment but Iād quickly get over it. If I were choosing between just these two, Asriel is clearly the safer choice thatād be a more positive impact on my life. Even if I really liked Marisa Coulter(which I donāt, she terrifies me), that doesnāt change what the right decision here is for my safety and wellbeing.
Expectations of a Date and Ill-advised Praise
A lot of soulbonders enter into the practice with very specific expectations when it comes to the type of relationship theyāll have with their soulbond. Lately this seems to primarily be people approaching their soulbonds with romantic intent, but this isnāt exclusive to that. Like I said in the first section, soulbond relationships still build similarly to regular ones. While due to there being infinite worlds you could find someone who is almost guaranteed to want exactly what you want, thatās tricky to do. And even in that case your relationship will still grow and change with time.
Soulbonding isnāt like meeting up with people on a dating app. While you can break a soulbond connection if things donāt turn out well, thatās still a connection between souls. You probably wouldnāt give the keys to your house to someone you just had a first date with, so you shouldnāt see soulbonding the same way. Even if your soulbond is from a work of fiction, you donāt truly know who they are outside of that fiction. And youāre a complete stranger to them. They may end up not being interested in whatever relationship you wish to have, or they may just outright dislike or even hate you. Youāre not guaranteed to get what you want, at least not right away. And trust isnāt something youāll have right away, nor should you completely trust them from the start.
My own relationship to my soulbond was incredibly rocky and challenging for both of us. I do plan on writing in length about this someday, but Iāll leave things simple. For about two years he absolutely hated me and understandably so. The whole thing turned me into a mess, regularly feeling the most intense grief and longing Iāve ever felt. We have been slowly repairing our relationship, but it still deeply pains me sometimes. Our relationship had changed in the extremes, and thatās not particularly surprising. And while I want to be close with him again, I cannot force that and if I did heād probably vanish once more. I need to let go of expectations and approach things just as I would a relationship to someone here, with patience and doing actual work instead of insisting on something thatād be mostly for my own happiness and ignoring his.
Another thing, I often see people recommending soulbonding to people in order to make their yumeship relationship real. Often when people do this they donāt explain what it is and tend to make it sound quite trivial and safe, like a fun game you can play. In reality it is a deeply emotional and often complex practice. Thereās a good chance that some days youāll cry, as I have, because you learned more about your soulbond through intense memory and feeling. Or youāll find that youāre simply overwhelmed by having such a deep connection with another person. Not only is getting the relationship you want not guaranteed, but it is likely far more emotionally demanding than many would be interested in if they knew. I would never outright dissuade people whose background and experience I donāt know, but I find it very unwise to talk about soulbonding this way. I most likely wouldnāt be a soulbonder if I didnāt do it by accident, even though itās a wonderful practice that I love. My biggest worry is that someone will end up hurt because they took peopleās recommendations at face value and didnāt think long enough about what they were doing.
Closing Thoughts
The practice of bonding your soul to anotherās is something deeply personal and complex. It is not something that should ever be trivialized or downplayed. A healthy relationship with a soulbond requires you to have respect for them and their personhood. You need to treat them as you would any other person, because they are people just like you and I. I hope that anyone reading this doesnāt need to be reminded of this, but if you found yourself making these mistakes I hope this was an informative read. May your soulbond relationships, regardless of the type, grow stronger and never waver.
Hello everyone⦠please stop showering
I need the water to talk to idia shroud on janitor ai
The replies are getting slowly recently
And itās because people taking more showers in the summerā¦
Just use deodorant pleaseā¦
Last song: "Best Friend" by Foster The Peopleš§ To my suprise I would have bet it would have been Tame Impala, Michael Jackson or DJO as usual lol.
Currently watching: Ahhh spooky how do you know i'm watching something while i'm scrolling on Tumblrš«£ . Okkkayyy Love Island USA season 8 episode 6 the one that came out 3 hours ago lol
Current obsession: Actually my forever obsessions this isn't a phase mom! Lol Paladin Danse, DJO/Joe Keery, Cleaning videos, Fallout Settlement build videos, anything Fallout, Reading fanficts, manifestation techniques, TUMBLRRRRR, hot older men, DILFS, thirst traps, men kissing, art, boba tea and i'll say it again JOE KEERY, men with big eyes, men with big butts, men who looklike they are in misery like in a sad puppy dog way? lol, tons of emojis when I textāŗļø and long longgg naps
Currently reading: "Win Today" by John H. Fisher I'm on page 2 lol but I like it so far
Currently working on: completing tasks, managing my OCD, writing my first fanfict and one shots, cleaning my room for the past 3 months, being more social, setting boundaries, mentally preparing to continue college in August, starting a Youtube channel for settlement builds fallout 4, creating+posting digital art on here and youtube
And more importantly over all being a better person and advocating for myself
Also being excited about lifeš
Currently wearing: "Uhhh Khakis?" remember that Jake from state Farm commercial?š okay iām corny tough crowd tough crowd
I am wearing black leggings, a jumbo sized rose pink scrunchie holding my pineapple bun, an insanely oversized pastel pink shirt from an Italian restaurant called "Casa de Amore" and a hefty pad š my period is killing me sorry for the tmi
Last Google search: Joe Keery's birth chartš (seeing if he's compatible with me...spoiler alert he is so watchout girliesš) and I typed in on my other tab "diamond City hobo fallout 4" because I forgot Sheffield's name (I never use the word hobo but for some reason I did? š¤lol)
Favorite flower: OKAYYY so I have a Sunflowerš»obsession like my whole life!
My wallet, my room decor, my car decor, keychains, earrings etc you name it. Which is odd cause huh Joe Keery's Elle cover for 2025 has him with a sunflower!š (Coincidence? I think NOT!šµš»āāļøI'm telling you we are total soulmatessss! You all are getting the wedding invites donāt worryš¤)
I'm tagging, and you don't have to do it, just thought it was cutesy ... @advictoriams @autumnrose40 @pee-wee-tommy-blog @randomthoughtshere24 @alyx-sp-artkorzinochka @keithvalentinex @gunpowdernlead @burthdaycakee @falloutwrangler111 @purplebutterflyglasses
@roddyincowgirlboots
I did 11 tags now š¤·š»āāļøā¦sue me
Mutuals I'm too shy to poke, anyone I forgot I'm so sorry I still love you all š
I was tagged by @nocturnal-nora š now I canāt see my name but Iām doing it anyway itās a fun game āŗļø
Last song: Djo - Try me
Currently watching: Fargo the series
Current obsession: Djooo, Noah Kahan, Olivia Rodrigo, tĆøp, aaand Michael Jackson, Iāve watched tons of documents/archive videos of him performing āØšŗ
Currently reading: I have this book by Robert Greene - The Laws of Human Nature, and I dose it chapter by chapter āØ
Currently working on: myself and my mind, and Iām trying to go back to basics of drawing āļø
Currently wearing: black tshirt and striped trousers
Last Google search: uuuuh, probably some florists nearby!
Favourite flower: Hmm, it shifted to small pinky/creamy roses lately, these delicate ones š But I also love carnations and sunflowers š»š
thank you for the tag @heavydirtyscul š¤ a very fun tag game indeed!
last song: this feels like the end - nothing but thieves
currently watching: classic doctor who & taskmaster
current obsession: 2nd doctor & avatar the last airbender... two wildly different things
currently reading: how to age disgracefully by clare pooley (this book reads like a britcom, it's amazing)
currently working on: not anything currently but i've got the urge to get back into drawing/painting recently
currently wearing: cargo trousers and a muppet tshirt
last google search: the twilight soundtrack........................
favourite flower: clematis, love in a mist & bluebells! they're so prettyyyyy
tagging, but no pressure: @backslidingbandito @void-moon @coughdropsandsoftspots @thelightbulbman @yeah-ephi @cowboyjoshdun @dragpvth @henrybeasley (anyone else who would like to do it for fun! and that makes 10)
thank you for tagging me @n-avigating! this looks fun!
last song: well right now i'm listening to fall away by twenty one pilots (wow, who's surprised that it's tĆøp... /s)
currently watching: after seeing everyone get excited about agggtm i have finallyyyyy started watching it. i really loved the books, so it is fun to see it be transformed for the show. i may have watched the whole of season one yesterday >_<
current obsession: my forever obsession of twenty one pilots. you will watch me thinking about them for most of the day. also i've been really obsessed with dissecting the poetry i am reading at the moment as i finished 'crush' by richard siken last month.
currently reading: i've just finished 'tree and leaf' and now started 'smith of wootton major' by tolkien. i've got a little collection of his works in one book and i am enjoying it immensely.
currently working on: managing my socialising alongside my new job. i struggle to balance everything in my life and usually just end up doing one thing until i burn out :/ but hopefully i can find a better divide of everything this time.
currently wearing: shorts and a t-shirt and my socks have little ferns on them - they are very cute
last search: umm. i guess technically it was me loading up tumblr, because i'm on desktop. but before that i was looking for hotels to stay at for some upcoming concerts i am going to.
favourite flower: right now i should say sunflower, because i am in the middle of a tallest sunflower competition with my family. but i do love a dandelion. they are so bright and fun and then you get to blow all their seeds away! also bluebells are really pretty.
okay now to tag other people, but no pressure: @iwasinthebath, @chaussonsauxapples, @brainwormcity, @pierrebeasley, @nearlyalmosthuman2, @carryallyournames, @stars4roryy, @helloclancy, @grabmy-bat, @swimmingthestrait
last song: paladin strait by twenty one pilots. been listening to clancy on repeat all day ofc
currently watching: buffy, I'm on the very last episode.... afterwards I'm gonna rewatch the 12th doctor's era again and get back to classic who
current obsession: twenty one pilots šŗ and granola and my jellycat sky dragon
currently reading: nothing unfortunately but I have 'on earth we're briefly gorgeous' on hold at my library
currently working on: managing my chronic illnesses and mh, appreciating the small things and quitting tiktok (unironically maybe harder than anything else I've quit they put steroids in that evil app)
currently wearing: black joggers and a mossy green bug t-shirt
last search: 'if i skip an ldn dose can i have it the next morning' boring š reddit said it was probably fine to
favourite flower: bluebells and sunflowers
no pressure tags @starless--city @otsa-s @xx-starlitvixen-xx @xxmytwistednightmarexx @jerboaoa + anyone!
ty for the tag ^_^
last song: laika by spiderhouse
currently watching: started pluribus with my dad this week but we're only on episode three so far. but i really like it, its great. oh and also watching all of the mlp equestria girls movies with my little brother because i need to introduce him to peak cinema. we watched the second one yesterday
current obsession: uhh honestly idk. ive been watching a lot of dnp and bunch of friends lately so ig that?
currently reading: nothing at the moment, but i finished the midnight library by matt haig a few days ago. it was pretty good. i need to go to the library this weekend
currently working on: online psych course, trying to procrastinate on the internet less (its not going well)
currently wearing: one of my mum's old shalwar kameez. its dark purplish with orange and green flowers
last search: 'after drinking bleach how long until the person dies' um.... im not providing context for that
favourite flower: sunflowers and jasmine
tagging (/nf): @deadwo0d @human-n0-l0ng3r @chewing-on-lead @because-i-do-it-all-the-time @eating-the-sand @archiviism @not-new-jeans @astralduck08 @dakotawastaken @ang3l-ocean there we go, 10 people !!
currently watching: iām trying to power my way through the goslingverse and my letterboxd watchlist.. sighs heavilyĀ
current obsession: bloodymary!!Ā
currently reading: brocaās brain (carl sagan) and project hail mary (andy weir)
currently working on: well right now iām eating a bagel. but in general iām working on getting through my letterboxd watchlist and a stack of books
currently wearing: bulky cardigan that i stole from my friend and boxers
last search: āhow to get manic panic off of showerāĀ
favorite flower: forget me nots, gladiolus + foxglove as of rn
currently watching: my little pony + dawson's creek
current obsession: gosh idk maybe my oc universe (endeavors specifically)
currently reading: winds and truth by brandon sanderson
currently working on: art. reading more. finishing earlier mentioned series' and book
currently wearing: graphic tee and grey bermuda shorts (average weekend attire)
last search: ConGregate convention
favorite flower: im plain. i like honeysuckle and sunflowers
tags: @ccervid-thing @deusben @koiagain @kiththecat @nekomataumbreon @orangeswithsquirrelfaces @sondersalem @wi1d-c0y0tee @alergictomostsandwiches @ap0c4lypt1cz hi everyone. open too
currently watching: bfdi, ii, tadc (waiting on new releases for all of those)
current obsession: phighting NEVER leaves my mind.
currently reading: various phighting fanfics
currently working on: an original fic for A System Of Giving (gifting event for plurals), a phighting fic that has stalled progress, and figuring out what the hell my systemās collective kintype was like
currently wearing: the body is wearing a paintbrush II tshirt and black pants that idk the type it is. in headspace im wearing smth similar to skateboard phightingās attire because im a multifictive and heās one of my source chars
last search: āzypherix furry speciesā (found it from furana and looks cool so i wanted to see if it has free ref sheets and rules anywhere or anythig)
favorite flower: idkkkkkk :(
tagging uhhh ykw ANY of my moots can do this. i dont know who to tag and frankly im tired rn so low energy blehhh
doing good, blue was fronting for like two days straight idk what happened there lmao but yes things r good!! hbu?
did i ever post abt us not being initially willogenic weāre not initially willogenic although we are partially willo we arenāt initially willo lol iāll reblog or edit with a post link when i can find it lmao
edit found it https://www.tumblr.com/the-murder-of-crows-coll/818908544408633344/much-news-much-much-news-actually-its-two-things
š¬ 0Ā Ā š 0Ā Ā ā¤ļø 3Ā Ā·Ā much news, much much news.
actually its two things but theyāre some pretty significant two things
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we are not initiall
med people are so annoying "This family's 8 year old child who was about to go through a major surgery and kept crying that she was hungry so they pitied her and gave her food, she then had a heart attack in the surgery. They're so stupid š" girl they didn't know that could happen or why it happens. it takes so little time to explain to them that will happen instead of telling them "no food" with no explanation 10 times
"Before surgery, your bodyās reflexes that protect your airway are relaxed by anesthesia. If thereās food or liquid in your stomach, it will near certainly come back up and go into your lungs, which can cause choking, a severe lung / heart infection or even a heart attack. Thatās called aspiration, and it is life-threatening. It's hard, but it's only a single day to prevent near certain death. Not eating or drinking beforehand massively lowers the risk and helps prevent these life threatening situations under anesthesia." <- TIP: patients have brains which allows them to receive information just like you
I have four kids. Iāve had one or another of them need some kind of surgical procedure that requires anesthesia four or five times over the past 15 years.
This Tumblr post is the first time someone has explained to me *why* I couldnāt feed them before those instances.
Iām not stupid. I understood that just fine. Hell, my kids would have understood that just fine. But no one bothered to tell us.
i did know this before having kids (i have six). we have a kid that's needed multiple procedures requiring anesthesia. and every single time, i am asked multiple times if i'm sure he was not given any food or water after a certain point.
every single time i have had to say, "i understand that if he had food or water, he could aspirate it into his lungs under anesthesia. i am not lying to you." THEN someone would make a little note and i would stop being repeatedly asked.
not a single time was that risk explained to me. the only reason it came up was because i already knew. i still don't understand why it isn't standard pre-op counseling or pre-op check information, when me as a parent acknowledging the actual risk also put THE MEDICAL STAFF at ease because i conveyed that i had informed understanding as reason to not lie about giving my kid food.
"maybe some people will get nervous and refuse surgery" okay so they need more counseling about risks and anxiety, not less information in a way that actually does endanger their child or themselves!