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Summer time songs to listen to ?

1. kelis - flashback 

2. beenie man - girls dem sugar

3. amerie - why don’t we fall in love

4. Beyoncé & Diddy - Summertime

5. Sean Paul - Like Glue

6. LL Cool J - Luv U Better

7. Jeremih & Ty Dolla $ign - Impatient

8. Partynextdoor - Break from toronto

9. Mystikal feat. Nivea - Danger

10. Spice Girls - Holler

11. Robin Thicke & Pharrell Williams - Wanna Love You Girl

12. Mike Will Made It & Rihanna - Nothing is Promised

13. Drake - Controlla

14. Nicki Minaj feat. Jeremih - Favorite

15. Jeremih - Oui

16. Toni Braxton - He Wasn’t Man Enough

17. Janet Jackson - Somebody to Call my lover

18. Mariah Carey - Honey

19. Paris Hilton - Nothing in this world

20. Angie Martinez & Lil Mo &Sacario - If I could go

21. Teedra Moses - Be Your Girl (Kaytranada Edition) 

22. Angie Martinez feat. Kelis - Take You Home

23. Rihanna - Sell Me Candy

24. Wayne Wonder - No Letting Go

25. Nelly - Flap Your Wings

26. Kelis & Pharrell Williams - Roller Rink

27. JS - Ice Cream

28. No Doubt feat. Lady Saw - Underneath it all

29. Xscape - What’s Up

30. T-Pain feat. Akon - Bartender 

31. Rihanna - Watch N Learn 

32. Latrelle - House Party

33. Beyoncé - What’s it gonna be (sam gallaitry remix) 

34. lsdxoxo - My Man (Intro)

35. Latrelle - Infatuated

36. Foxy Brown ft. Kelis - Candy

37. Cam'ron - Hey ma

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Can u give me tips for job interviews? Im usually nervous n worried n i really need a job thats 1 goal i want to achieve b4 2015 ends thx muva

1. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕Do ur research! know some information about the company u are applying for! Don’t walk in clueless and unprepared.

2. Dress the part! Dress appropriately. no t-shirts, no jeans. Dress professional. Act like u already HAVE the job. 

3. sit up straight! no slouching!!!!! posture conveys a lot of information about someone. slouching often gives off a lack of enthusiasm. 

4. speak loud and clear! no mumbling! when someone mumbles, it usually means that person lacks confidence and is unsure of themselves. it’s important to speak loud and clear so that ur employer can see that u are great at communicating effectively!!!!! 

5. be on time!!!!! it shows ur employer that u are dependable. 

6. practice!!!! write down some possible questions that ur employer might ask u! 

7. it’s okay to be nervous and worried! but don’t let ur nerves get the best of u!!!!!!! realize that u can do this and u are capable of doing ANYTHING that u want to do!!!!!!! breathe deeply. inhale and exhale slowly. 

8. make sure u get enough rest the night before ur interview!!!!! also please eat breakfast!!!!! both of these things are very important. 

9.  Good luck babe. i hope this helps! 

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💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💞💕💕💕💕💕 Note to self:

1. take better care of urself. not just physically but mentally.

2. eat better. ditch the fast food. 

3. no sleeping with electronic devices in bed. 

4. tell urself everyday that u are beautiful no matter how bad u are feeling.

5. stop fucking drinking coffee at work. 

6. stop comparing urself to others.

7. stop thinking that shit will just happen for u. u gotta make it happen. 

8. spend less time on the internet. unplug. become more in touch with reality and ur surroundings.

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emotional abuse is the hardest type of abuse to pinpoint tbh. it’s extremely difficult to know what to do when u are being emotionally abused and u don’t have the financial means to cut off ties with ur abuser. it’s even harder when others enable the abuse to continue. it’s hard not mentally repeating those same harmful things that ur abuser has told u. u feel helpless and small. a lot of people tell u ‘get out of that relationship. cut ties off with them’ but it’s not that easy. especially if they are a parent or a family member. u constantly question if there is something wrong with u. if u are making this up or overreacting. u don’t want to use the term emotional abuse because it sounds too ‘harsh’. u look for ways to justify their behavior. u tell urself that if u fix ur behavior, maybe the abuse will stop. maybe things will get better. u start to sympathize with the abuser and rationalize the abuse and it becomes normalized. u even defend the abuser when others try to call them out on their abuse. you’ve learned not to speak up or express ur thoughts and opinions because to ur abuser, they don’t matter. you’ve learned not to show emotion because if u show emotion or tears, ur overreacting, ur irrational, ur crazy, ur ‘too emotional’. u cope with the abuse in other ways. u shut down emotionally. u isolate urself from others. u are so criticized by ur abuser that u start to question whether u can do anything right at all. symptoms of depression and anxiety start to show. ur body is showing the signs of emotional abuse. u either eat too much or too little. for some, there are irregular bowel movements. u feel out of control because u are under constant control by ur abuser. u are constantly manipulated. there is something wrong with YOU. that’s the recurrent theme. u ask urself over and over ‘what do i need to do to stop being treated this way?’ if u are reading this right now and ur a victim of emotional abuse please listen to me when i tell u this……THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH U BABY. PLEASE SEEK HELP AS SOON AS U CAN. DON’T LET THIS DESTROY U. 

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society feeds everyone this false idea that a romantic relationship determines attractiveness or how adequate someone is. in the media, being single is often the punchline. it’s often a “hahahhaaha u haven’t found someone that wants to be with u. hahhaaha ur ugly” type of narrative. it’s not only old and tired but completely inaccurate. being single does not equal unattractive. being single does not equal inadequate. there’s nothing wrong with seeking companionship and a romantic relationship. we all want some sort of companionship. it’s human nature. but u have to realize that a relationship will not fix all of ur issues or any demons and past traumas that u have dealt with. u have to rely on urself for validation and for love. u have to love urself so much that u don’t need anyone else to make u feel good enough. don’t let anybody clown u for being single. being single is not something to be ashamed about. 

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I need your help to further not give a shit about other people. With the start of this new year in school I can already smell the drama that's about to come my way and the people that are gonna be talking about me. How do you live peacefully while people try to tear you down?

this is so hard for me to do and i still struggle with this but honestly i would say it’s all about knowing who u are and not letting other people who don’t even know u define who u are. and u also have to realize that u can’t please everyone and be liked by everyone!!!!! like no matter what u do, there will always be some one talking negatively about u. like??? people who try to tear u down are only doing so because they are miserable with themselves and they want to project that misery on to u!!!!!! don’t let them win. 

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how to make genuine friends?

1. get out of the house! u won’t make any friends if ur in the house all the time. go out!!!!!! it’s one of the easiest way to interact with others! 

2. be brave and start a convo with someone. don’t always wait for people to approach u first and start talking. sometimes u gotta be the one to make the first move. it can be scary but go for it. 

3. plan something with that person. chill with them and get to know them a little better. exchange numbers and make sure that both of ya’ll are making equal amounts of effort to stay in touch. a tru friend is going to put in the same amount of effort as u do! if u find urself having to text or call them all the time and they never hit u up, they ain’t ur friend ma. 

4. also! watch how they speak of others! if u just met them like 5 min ago and they already spilling some tea about the next bitch then u definitely don’t need them as a friend. they not only messy but really mean too.my rule of thumb is….if they talking shit about their other friends, then they are probably doing the same to u. so like be super cautious about that. friendship requires trust and if u can’t trust them, they ain’t a real friend. 

5. a tru friendship is really rare and it doesn’t happen over night. give the friendship time to grow. don’t rush it. and if things aren’t going as planned and they stop showing interest in u or vice versa, why do u need them as a friend anyway? 

6. also! if they make fun of u about stuff that ur really sensitive about and u find urself having to laugh it off and play like it doesn’t hurt ur feelings, that ain’t ur real friend. friends have roasting sessions all the time but like don’t be friends with someone that is going over board with the roasting and just making u feel like shit all the time. and a tru friend will crop u out of a photo if u want to be cropped out and will not post a photo of u if u hate it!!!!!!! 

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If you don't mind me asking do you have any tips on dealing with depression and loneliness? 😔

1. realize that what u are experiencing is a mental illness. a lot of people dismiss depression as simply ‘feeling blue’. it’s a mental illness. and it’s very real. 

2. realize that the feelings of hopelessness and despair u are feeling are only temporary feelings. they will eventually go away. ur circumstances will improve. don’t make a permanent decision based on temporary feelings. 

3. please consider treatment. this is an illness. please (if u are able to), seek treatment. treatment comes in two forms. therapy and medicine. some people use a combination of the two. some people only use one of the two. talk to ur doctor to determine what form of treatment is best for u. 

4. if u are using medicine as a form of treatment, please remember to take ur daily dosage. the consequences can be bad if u don’t. i remember i was on zoloft and i stopped taking them randomly and like a week later i was very suicidal and i had a nervous breakdown. if u no longer have a desire to take ur medication, please talk to ur doctor so u can get off ur medication SAFELY. 

5. if u are using therapy as a form of treatment, try ur best to be as honest and vulnerable with ur therapist as u possibly can. they are there to help u. they want to help u get better. a therapist will not only engage with u but will give u coping mechanisms u can use. 

6. if u cannot afford a therapist, there are several other options. u can try a training clinic, which offers clients a sliding scale. u can also try attending a support group. most of the time support groups are free and if they do charge, they are much more affordable than individual therapy. support groups are great because u might can relate to others who are also suffer from depression. it’s a safe space and a great way to vent ur feelings. u can also read self help books! my mom is like the queen of reading self help books! 

7. here is a list of coping thoughts that i received when i went to the mental hospital in june. these may be helpful to u also. 

“mistakes happen. nobody’s perfect.”

“I can take all the time I need right now to let go and relax.”

“It’s okay to feel sad/anxious/afraid sometimes.”

“This situation sucks, but it’s only temporary.”

“I’ve survived other situations like this before, and i’ll survive this one too.”

“This situation won’t last forever.”

“my thoughts don’t control my life. i do.”

“this is an opportunity for me to learn how to cope with my fears.”

This is what a therapist said when i went to group therapy with the other patients and this stuck with me. i wrote it down when i took notes. ‘Based on ur perception of reality, act in a way that reflects what’s important to u. whatever it takes that makes life enjoyable and meaningful. if you don’t, others will make choices for u and ur life will go in a direction u don’t want it to go. do what makes ur life what u want it to look like. Take action. Accept reality as it is. no excuses. no lies. see urself and ur environment clearly. U can survive any thought or feeling. Don’t run from them. it’s okay to have these feelings. Just Don’t camp out in those feelings. Like the kid in walmart yelling and screaming and throwing tantrums. let ur feelings persist.’

8. to combat feelings of loneliness, learn to spend time with urself and enjoy it. moments of solitude can be satisfying if u love urself and u enjoy ur own company. write down a list of ur favorite hobbies and do them. by urself. make a list of qualities that u love about urself and dwell on the list that u wrote. keep it around u to remind urself of the great qualities that u have. also use this time to nurture healthy relationships and interactions that u do have. there is nothing wrong with seeking interaction with others will u feel lonely. solitude is great but it’s also great to spend time in the company of those that love us. 

9. also, please remember, never sweep any abuse or trauma that u have endured under the rug. the sooner u acknowledge it, the sooner u can heal and recover. if u have dealt with any trauma and abuse, please talk with a professional about this. trauma and abuse should NEVER EVER be taken lightly. 

10. if u ever feel suicidal, please remember that u are loved and u are not alone. i hope u heal and recover soon baby.

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any tips on getting a flat tummy?

1. first what u need to realize is that u can’t spot lose. u cannot pick a spot on ur body and say ‘i want to lose weight here and no where else’. it’s impossible. so in order to achieve a flat tummy, there will be other places u must lose weight in also.

2. if ur able to, eat clean as possible. i used to be an asshole and be like ‘eat clean. the ingredients u cannot pronounce are making u feel bad blah blah blah’ but then i realized that not everyone is able to eat clean or financially able to for that matter. if u want a flat tummy, try ur best to avoid soda, whole milk, fried foods, candy,cheese etc. eating clean and nutrition is about 80% of what u need to do in order to get a flatter mid section. this is the toughest part for me because i love junk food and I’m a sucker for sweets!!!!!! when i ate clean last year and stopped eating out, my stomach went away so quick lmao. my mom noticed it immediately. please remember to drink lots of water, it will not only help ur immune system but it will also combat bloating! 

3. exercise! only if ur physically able to!!!!! u don’t need a gym membership for exercise. there are plenty of exercise dvds out there that will whip u into shape. sis! i did insanity and i almost died lmaoooooo that shit was not a game. for exercise, cardio is really important. it will help u burn calories! but don’t just do cardio! cardio is great but u must also incorporate strength exercises into ur routine. find exercises that challenge u! the harder the work out is, the better the results will be. jillian’s 30 day shred is also an excellent workout dvd u can try. that bihhhhh don’t play!!!! she don’t want u to take any breaks either. i remember when i first did it and i was dripping with sweat within the first like 10 min. it was crazy. 

4. mentally decide that u want to do this. look at fitness blogs for inspiration. set specific goals and dates u want to achieve them. realize that this will not work if u are not eating the proper foods. u can’t out exercise a bad diet. i’ve tried and u really can’t. i promise u. if u have a binge day and u slip up and eat something ur not supposed to then u can get back on track the next day. don’t beat urself up for it. just do better. 

below is the complete list of foods to avoid for a flat tummy. 

http://bisrepetitaplacent.tumblr.com/post/35056557930/health-heaven-11-foods-to-avoid-for-a-flat

this is the link to a list of healthy foods u can incorporate into ur diet. http://takeyourmarkgo.tumblr.com/post/73153197113

here is a link to the 21 day no junk food challenge!

http://just-do-fit-ness.tumblr.com/post/9540538212/the-21-day-no-junk-food-challenge

jillian’s 30 day shred 

http://www.amazon.com/Jillian-Michaels-30-Day-Shred/dp/B00127RAJY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1439324552&sr=8-1&keywords=30+day+shred

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Do you have any back to school tips/advice?

1. Don’t let any of these niggas distract u from ur work!

2. grades are not a measure of how smart or intelligent u are. read this. write this down. tattoo this on ur left ass cheek sis. 

3. when u feel urself getting overwhelmed while ur studying, take a study break! go outside for some fresh air. make a lil smoothie or something. but don’t forget to actually come back to ur work. lmao. 

4. always study in the same place at around the same time so ur brain will already know wussup when u crack open the books.

5. never study or do homework in bed. u will wake up wiping drool awf ur text books! only use ur bed for sleeping. that was the WORST habit i had last semester. 

6. as soon as ur teacher hands u the syllabus, write every single thing down in ur planner so u will never miss an important date. do it on the first day of class.

7. get a study buddy!!!!! schedule study dates (and yes actually study) so u will be forced to show up and study. knowing that someone else is depending on u will make u more likely to show up and do what ur supposed to. 

8. if ur in college, take advantage of every thing ur campus has to offer. if ur campus has labs and tutoring, please use these resources!!!! u are literally paying for them (with tuition) so u might as well use them! 

9. always have the contact info of at least ONE person in each one of ur classes! this will be useful for u when u find urself unsure of a due date or if u miss a day of class! 

10. keep in contact with ur teachers!!!! don’t hesitate to ask them questions! remember, they are there to help u lol. make ur face memorable so they might be more leninent when it comes to ur final grade. email them. go see them during their office hours! don’t be scared!!!!!! if u feel urself getting overwhelmed with a class, ask them for help before it’s too late.

11. if u happen to fail a class, do not. i repeat. DO NOT. DOOOOOO NOT beat urself up over it. a grade is not a reflection of who u are as a person. dust urself off and try again baby. 

have a great school year!!!!!!! :-)  

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i’m so tired of seeing ‘she’s a mother! she shouldn’t be dressing like that or posting those type of pictures! what will her child think?’ like honestly? women are so multifaceted and we don’t stop being sexual beings after we have kids like?! ya’ll are soooo dense!!!! we don’t stop being sexy after having a child!!!!! moms are baddies!!!!! 

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if i'm not feeling like you want me just as much as I want you, we can't work out bruh. Lol i'm not chasing you. idc how many feelings I have for you or who you are. i'm too cute, i have a nice ass, great taste in music, etc. if you don't want to fuck with me, someone else will.

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summer goals:

1. get an ombre weave.

2. get a job so I can buy cute shit.

3. go see Beyoncé at essence festival for the second time. 

4. get my belly button pierced. 

5. buy cute clothes and shoes and just look cute as fuck. 

6. buy a bag of lollipops so I can keep something in my mouth at all times.

7. get my body in tip top shape so I can shit on hoes harder than usual.

8. find a girl crew to chill with and do hoe shit with <3

9. get awffff the fucking internet. 

10. stawp eating junk food.

11. get over my myspace boyfriend.  

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Post 10 facts about yourself, then send this to your 10 favorite followers.

1. small things (like my iTunes library not being organized) give me anxiety.

2. i don’t trust anyone. most ppl ain’t shit. 

3. i literally have no life outside of work/school. 

4. the nail salon is my sanctuary. 

5. i say ‘ima get my shit together’ to myself at least 5 times a day. 

6. trina’s verse on ‘nann nigga’ is like scripture to me. 

7. usher was my first celebrity crush. 

8. i used to put deodorant under my titties everyday to avoid potential titty sweat. 

9. i went to a predominately yt christian private school from 4th grade to 10th grade. 

10. latrelle’s song 'house party’ makes me so happy. no matter what mood i’m in, if i play that song i instantly feel rly good. 

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i am. 

I am the purple pasty lil kim wore at the 1999 mtv video music awards. 

i am nelly’s band aid. 

i am the pink velour tracksuit jennifer lopez wore in the “i’m real” remix music video.

i am ashanti’s sideburns.

i am Mariah Carey’s whistle notes.

i am the bellychain aaliyah wore in the “Are You That Somebody” music video.

i am Andre 3000’s mole. 

i am the versace dress Beyoncé wore in the “crazy in love” music video. 

i am. 

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from like 9 pm til like 3 a.m. i am….

plottin on my come up

crying about school

crying over the fact that i’m not rich yet

in my feelings 

reflecting on the day and what i could have done better

contemplating on life and death

thinking about the shit i need to do tomorrow

on the computer trying to avoid my feelings

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survival tips

stay hydrated

stay cute

stay lowkey

stay in ur lane