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Two years?! I’m in!

I've seen a bunch of "fandom etiquette" posts on my dash today and I'm going to say something that is maybe going to be unpopular but;

The absolutely pervasive mentality that unwanted criticism or critique shouldn't be given and should be ignored is why fans of color don't stay in fan spaces.

And I am not going to mince words here:

A lot of you are racist. A lot of your fan works are racist.

That might have been difficult to hear. And if it was, you should probably reflect on why that was.

"Fandom etiquette" has created a space where fans of color either bite our tongues and eventually leave or say something, get dogged on, and then eventually leave.

So much of "fandom etiquette" seems to be about insulating creatives from Feeling Bad and hostility to any kind of negative feedback is a pretty big contributor to why bigotry festers in these spaces.

iridescentoracle

#imo the potluck analogy applies- it would be rude to critique someone's icing technique at a potluck bc it wasn't as good as at the bakery #but if they had decorated their cupcakes w hate symbols it wouldn't be rude to tell them that's gross and gtfo #in fact it would be inappropriate to NOT say anything in that situation #or to complain that another guest who did point it out was 'ruining everyone's potluck' #and pointing out racism in fan works is 100% the second thing not the first! (via destructions-daughter)

swamp-spirit

There's also a tendency to conflate anyone who critiques general trends with bad faith randos. Like, there is fandom behavior that is 100% racist and should be talked about, but there are also trends of racist/sexist/ableist preferences.

If I say "I am uncomfortable with fandom's tendency to write trans men as feminine and submissive" I do not mean "I think every person who writes feminine submissive trans men should be chased with pitchforks". I don't even mean "any cis-person who writes feminine or submissive trans men should be chased with pitchforks". I mean "I would like writers to seriously think about why this is so common, why they write that, and if it fairly and genuinely engages with what it means to be a trans man, or if they just think it's hot when submissive people have vaginas and didn't want to write omegaverse of m/f".

Similarly, when people say "fandom is systemically less interested in black characters, less willing to give flat black characters rich fanon than flat white characters, and less interested in black characters in ships", the response is not to explain why you, personally, just happen to like popular white guy in that fanon. Your job is to look at yourself and ask if you tend to "just happen to be more interested" in the popular white guy across fandoms, be honest, and start unpacking that. Sometimes it's easier to love the flat character who's already getting 10,000 fics with headcanons and art and meta.

If somebody says "I wish there were more gluten free options at the potluck. I hate always showing up and not finding anything I can eat*", they are not asking you to throw your cake in the trash and weep. They do not want to hear your long speech about how actually this is your grandmother's recipe, and you've tried it with rice flour actually, but it just didn't work. You think about what you can do, and you listen to how they feel.

*The metaphor here not being that you can't read fic that isn't "good rep". The metaphor here is that it can be isolating to be in spaces where nobody is trying to make sure people like you are welcome.

theluckywizard

Ugly OC Asks

Let's get messy 🔥

Questions compiled with @monocytogenes. Reblog with your OCs tagged and enjoy the crunch!

(I'm not numbering these so people have to copy the questions into the ask box.)

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What is your OC petty about?

When's the last time your OC hurt someone emotionally? What did they do?

What's an unsavory detail about your OC or opinion they have (to a modern Tumblr audience)?

What's an unsavory detail about your OC or opinion they have (to their peer group)?

What does your OC's love interest dislike about them?

Is your OC ever wrong? Big ways? Small ways? About what?

What does your OC lie about?

In what way(s) is your OC bad at life?

What's the fatal flaw in your OC's relationship(s)? What could destroy those relationships?

What fills your OC with envy? Alternatively who does your OC envy and why?

What physical trait(s) is your OC insecure about?

What personality trait(s) or habit(s) is your OC insecure about?

What's a moment your OC is ashamed to remember?

What's your OC's biggest fuck up?

What unconscious biases or expectations does your OC have regarding other genders, races or sexualities?

What skill does your OC need to work on improving?

What uncharitable takes would your OC have about you if they met you?

What's the longest grudge your OC has ever held? Against whom and why?

In what way is your OC worse than you?

Have there been any horrible consequences to well-intentioned choices your OC made? How did they cope with that?

Who hates your OC? Why?

What do your OC and their LI fight about?

dashcon-two

VirtualDash Schedule for 2026! 2.0

Hi everyone! If you saw a previous version of this post, please reblog this one instead! We forgot to add some information before, so this is your up-to-date VirtualDash post :)

We are so excited to share with y'all a *locked in* version of the schedule, beautifully visualized by our social media team on our instagram!

Don't have your VirtualDash ticket yet? Get it here!

A VirtualDash ticket gets you access to livestreams of all the IRL panel rooms, a Virtual-exclusive track of panel programming, the VODs of all these streams, lets you try out our all-new Virtual Ballpit, gets you a vote in the democratic execution, invites you into the attendee server for an immersive convention experience, and much more! Also, 10% of our Virtual ticket sales goes towards the Rainbow Railroad charity <3

↓ View all of our Virtual-exclusive programming below the cut ↓

ohnoitstbskyen

A more complete schedule with all the information you need!

creatingblackcharacters

Last thing I promise. It's also telling that people keep saying that we're making Argentina out to be "uniquely racist" by talking about it.

Friends, Tumblr, Countryfolk- y'all simply have not been around enough vocally Black and Indigenous people on this app because we call out the racism and white supremacy of the entire planet every other day 😭 I assure you discussing Argentina is not a unique situation. You are not being "uniquely targeted". We brought up Latin America, got fought by Latin America. We brought up Europe, got fought by Europe. We bring up the United States, we get fought by the United States.

And every time, without fail, it goes the same way. ESPECIALLY if you're Black, oh my God the antiblack playbook is a script by now. But if you don't think we've been talking about this shit for over a literal century, let alone on Tumblr, you are not around to see the battles occurring! But they are happening! Often! This idea that we just, don't show up for nothing is wild.

houndmother

many of you just. genuinely don’t believe that people can grow and change.

houndmother

this is about the death penalty and its also about call out posts about people who have already apologized for things they did a long time ago and it’s also about using ‘toxic’ or ‘abuser’ as if its an immutable class of person, and its also about any other circumstance with permanent consequences or wherein you assume someone is still the same person they were.

mayadile

Very important announcement! (Last post) PLEASE READ!!

So I got an email back from some nice people who have been helping me. They worked with me and my mom to make sure we could get through our goal so we are close to getting out of the streets! (along with you guys help too thank you!)

I was informed we just need $530 that way we can get the full help that we need so me and my mom can finally get everything we need to be stable 😭 I was so happy to read the email this morning!! I'm so close I'm serious this time!! I'm so close to getting a normal life again!! So I need everyone's help one last time!! I just need $530 and I'll finally get the help I should've gotten since shelters in my area were unresponsive and ghosted me which was frustrating. I can get a car ride, finally get a damn truck, I can get clothes, I can go grocery shopping, get my medication all of it!! No more homelessness, no more heatstrokes, no more hospital visits, nomore sleeping in the rain and floor, no more anxiety being in the dark at night.

SO PLEASE HELP ME GET TO MY GOAL!!

PAYPAL

CashApp: $BattyHatty

Gofundme

mayadile

I JUST NEED $300 LEFT!!!! WE ARE ALMOST THERE!!!!! WE ARE ALMOST THERE!!!! PLEASE!!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

churrotowns

since it’s pride month, throwback to this beautiful cover and this wholesome interaction between two icons

mayadile

Very important announcement! (Last post) PLEASE READ!!

So I got an email back from some nice people who have been helping me. They worked with me and my mom to make sure we could get through our goal so we are close to getting out of the streets! (along with you guys help too thank you!)

I was informed we just need $530 that way we can get the full help that we need so me and my mom can finally get everything we need to be stable 😭 I was so happy to read the email this morning!! I'm so close I'm serious this time!! I'm so close to getting a normal life again!! So I need everyone's help one last time!! I just need $530 and I'll finally get the help I should've gotten since shelters in my area were unresponsive and ghosted me which was frustrating. I can get a car ride, finally get a damn truck, I can get clothes, I can go grocery shopping, get my medication all of it!! No more homelessness, no more heatstrokes, no more hospital visits, nomore sleeping in the rain and floor, no more anxiety being in the dark at night.

SO PLEASE HELP ME GET TO MY GOAL!!

PAYPAL

CashApp: $BattyHatty

Gofundme

mayadile

I JUST NEED $300 LEFT!!!! WE ARE ALMOST THERE!!!!! WE ARE ALMOST THERE!!!! PLEASE!!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

mayadile

Very important announcement! (Last post) PLEASE READ!!

So I got an email back from some nice people who have been helping me. They worked with me and my mom to make sure we could get through our goal so we are close to getting out of the streets! (along with you guys help too thank you!)

I was informed we just need $530 that way we can get the full help that we need so me and my mom can finally get everything we need to be stable 😭 I was so happy to read the email this morning!! I'm so close I'm serious this time!! I'm so close to getting a normal life again!! So I need everyone's help one last time!! I just need $530 and I'll finally get the help I should've gotten since shelters in my area were unresponsive and ghosted me which was frustrating. I can get a car ride, finally get a damn truck, I can get clothes, I can go grocery shopping, get my medication all of it!! No more homelessness, no more heatstrokes, no more hospital visits, nomore sleeping in the rain and floor, no more anxiety being in the dark at night.

SO PLEASE HELP ME GET TO MY GOAL!!

PAYPAL

CashApp: $BattyHatty

Gofundme

mayadile

TODAY'S UPDATE

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Thanks everyone for boosting and helping share my post!!

I successfully got 6 days at a hotel to stay out of the intense weather!

Though, I don't have any food for the remaining time 💔 I've been so worked up on things I forget to eat. When I'm too focus on something I give up any other necessities until I complete it. Which means eating, sleeping and showering. I was so focused on us getting a roof over our heads I didn't eat for two days.

So if it's okay to ask for help to get food for the week? Ive been sleeping a lot from lack of energy 😔 I'm anemic.

PAYPAL

Gofundme

CashApp: $BattyHatty

mayadile

Nothing yet. I just want to see if me and my mom could doordash groceries that could last us a week or something. I'm very weak right now and my stomach has been growling it hurts 😭

mayadile

Hey guys things got really serious here and I'm freaking out because we had to get rid of some of our belongings since we couldn't drag them around, plus we don't have a Lyft. It's hot and my asthma is acting up.

I never imagined I’d be in this position, but I’m reaching out because my mom, our three… Benji Y needs your support for Help Us Find Safety

I had to make another gofundme, nothing we are doing is helping and relatives won't help us and let us stay stranded outside. It's hot and there are no hotels that are cheap this weekend. Again we don't have any open shelters. The rest is in the link.

I'm sorry again but I'm in need of a lot of help and this time it's dire. Mostly for my mental health. I've spiraled so hard this morning I want it to stop.

So please help me, I've been crying for hours.

mayadile

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Don't forget to donate to my gofundme me to support me! 🌈Help a homeless disabled trans man this pride month 🌈

To help me with stability

To have food

To take care of my physical health/mental health/ get medication

To feed and care for my dogs and mom

To get my testosterone as a trans man

To have hygiene/cleaning products

To have backup just in case I need to go to the hospital.

Recover clothing and belongings.

To reach out goal to get a vehicle to finally have transportation.

To have safety in a hotel for the time being.

So I can rest and be stressed free to recover from my chronic asthmatic/bronchitis attacks.

hexjulia

sometimes your distress does indicate you should stop and respect your limitations. at other times it's more of a baby aquatic mammal being introduced to water for the first time thing. Too bad the difference is so hard to tell.

doubleca5t

The other day my wife told me about this influencer who said she needed to go on ozempic so she could go from 130 lbs down to 115 and I really cannot stress the degree to which we have so COMPLETELY lost the plot with this glp1 shit. Like not only are people are going on this shit for purely cosmetic purposes, the cosmetic purposes are delusional. This is the kind of mindset that gives people eating disorders but now because you can get a prescription instead of having to starve yourself or enduce vomiting a big swath of the general public seems eager to go along with it. Body Positivity did not go fucking far enough because I am being so real when I say that fatphobia is more of a public health crisis than obesity has ever been

doubleca5t

People making a choice feminism argument for Ariana Grande looking skeletal have me feeling like this

artistformerlyknownasbutttrumpet

i was training a young person at work, and she referred to sexual assault as "SA" out loud, and i immediately was like, "no, it's sexual assault, call it what it is," bc idgaf if the algorithm overlords have taught y'all that you should fear direct language, how tf do any of you expect to ever address real issues with any amount of seriousness if you can't even say the words? imagine an advocate looking a sexual assault survivor in the eyes and asking "did he grape you?" it's absolutely fucking absurd, but these young interns and new hires are coming into an environment where we deal with survivors of all different kinds of abuse, and they're coming with the mindset that the words are as bad as the actions, and that makes them shitty at the job and look juvenile af

i HATE self-censorship for a lot of reasons, but being in crisis work makes it even more frustrating. who are you censoring for? like i am being so fr, WHO are you censoring for? have you even thought it through? people who have been raped know that they have been raped. if someone attempts suicide or is grieving someone who did, saying "sewer slide" isn't going to protect them from any of the feelings. a murder victim's family isn't going to feel better bc you said "unalived" instead of murdered. if anything, it's just extremely invalidating and othering. it's saying "what happened to you is so bad that i won't even say the word," which is NOT trauma-informed care. you are not protecting survivors/victims when you self-censor. the ONLY things you protect when you self-censor are the puritanical ideologies that are being encouraged by rich fascists who want your money and obedience

say the fucking words, guys. just say the goddamn words before i go insane!!!

mayadile

Well I didn't make it and I'm outside. 😞-UPDATE-

We didn't have enough time so we couldn't keep our room. It's blazing hot right now and I'm overstimulated from the heat. I'm trying my best to stay cool but I'm very heat sensitive. I got some water at least, I'm at a park. I'm sweating through my clothes and it's hard to breathe, I'll see later if I could sit somewhere that's cool. Dragging our suitcases gave me an asthma attack 😭 that and we will have a thunderstorm tomorrow....great.

Alright, I just need ---> $500 <----, that would do me good. For food and water and next time I can get a hotel room.

Paypal

Gofundme

CashApp: $BattyHatty

mayadile

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It's heavy rain and thundering right now. I'm under a overhead but it's so humid and hot even with the rain 😔

wigglybunfish

in which murderbot is a very normal terracotta soldier and ART the dragon spirit of a chinese junk who dwells in the ship's keel. they meet in the ming dynasty perhaps, when ppl are sailing places extra willy-nilly.

*Nüwa is the mother goddess in chinese mythology, known for creating humanity from yellow clay and repairing the sky.

thank you @mutualrapport for hosting the event! original prompt below.

[drawn for the prompt: an AU of ART and MB's first meeting and conversation - e.g. another look at their first meeting from a fantasy, historical, or (non-canon) sci-fi lens! Any perspective is fine. The only constraint is that it cannot be set in the canon universe. Any visibly non-canon AU- fantasy, human, historical, etc. - anything goes!]

#op I want u 2 know this is so cool I genuinely wobbled irl for a second #ohhhhhhh my god

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