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“If you give children a vocabulary that’s large enough and complex enough to express their emotions and their ideas, you give them access to complex feelings and emotions in themselves. So that if you talk to a teenager and all they can say about how they feel is BAD, and they haven’t got, you know, a larger vocabulary for lonely, abused, insecure, frightened…I mean there’s this huge panoply which…I remember when my daughter was just telling me that she just felt bad, I bought her a thesaurus. I said, “Look up, is it sort of over lonely, or is it insecure…and look up under lonely, you’ll find two hundred words for lonely. Which one?” But what that does is that it makes you feel that there’s this huge complexity of emotions and there are words for all of them. If you want children to feel less frustrated and less disenfranchised and less unable to even feel comfortable with their own emotions, you’ll have to give them a vocabulary that’s as complicated as their inner lives. And one of the things we see in children is this incredibly reduced capacity for reporting their inner lives to the exterior world. One of the things is just teaching them poems, just teaching them to memorize poems in school, they don’t have to interpret them, if they just internalize the language of the poem, the complexity of the emotion in the poems…” -Jorie Graham, in a conversation

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perks of emotional impermanence: you can go crying on your way to a place and arrive there smiling like nothing ever happenned

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coping mechanisms per symptom

note: i am not a doctor, these are just tips i’ve learned from my own experience and from others.

anger

meditation

exercise

punching a pillow, punching bag, etc

screaming

throwing things (safely)

ripping up paper/ripping a book

stomping

vent

depression

vent

talk to a friend/therapist

exercise

go outside

journal/write

sing/make music

cry

anxiety

breathing exercises

anxiety blankets

distract yourself

journal

listen to music

go to a quiet room

curl up into a ball

cry

intrusive thoughts

write out thoughts

distract yourself

breathing exercises

meditation

picking/pulling

put glue on yourself, let it dry, and pick at that instead

wear gloves/a hat

play with slime

distract your hands

feel free to add onto this post!!

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someone: *upsets me*

me: *is obviously distressed*

someone: i'm sorry did i upset you?

me: what????? No Never You Could Never Upset Me I Am Big And Strong Nothing Hurts Me Do Not Worry I Am Tough As Nails™

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sometimes our episodes don’t have a trigger. they just happen and that’s okay-it’s not your fault. and you can get through it <3

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“When you are your own best friend, you don’t endlessly seek out relationships, friendships, and validation from the wrong sources because you realize that the only approval and validation you need is your own.”

— Mandy Hale, The Single Woman (via amargedom)

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do u ever feel like ur not even friends with ur friends

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Stay so busy that you don’t have time to be sad

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I tried it!! Doesn't work!!!!

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Active ways to cultivate positive body image:

(Because oh my god, it’s so hard, and everyone’s all like stop feeling so bad about yourself and it’s like how???)

Be naked. A lot. Sleep naked. Have sex naked. Eat cereal naked. (Or naked and wrapped in a sheet. Favorite thing.)

Follow beautiful, confident, (un-photoshopped) body-positive babes on the Internet. Unfollow anything that makes you feel insecure. Exposure is key. You’re not going to get it if you don’t seek it out, because the media sucks and wants us to feel like shit about ourselves so they can take our money. (Some hashtags to follow: #effyourbeautystandards #bootyrevolution #blackisbeautiful #transisbeautiful #wheelchairlife #fatkini #fatshion)

Lingerie. Next best thing to being naked.

Self care, babe. Different for everyone. (Me? Showers, books, shaving my legs, nature walks, dark lipstick, good playlists, clean rooms, candles, sexy time.)

Get ready in your underwear. Boobs = happiness.

Self portraits. Be pro-selfie. Take a million selfies. Take sexy selfies. Take no makeup selfies. Take bad angle silly selfies. Take artsy tripod selfies. Take everything-is-on-point selfies. You’re gorgeous; document your gorgeousness. You don’t even need to post them.

Stop with the self deprecationnnnn. Pleeeeaseeee. It’s hard to control your thoughts love, I know, but you can control what you say. NEVER insult yourself out loud. Dare I say compliment yourself out loud? (And if you can, do your best to try to body-positive-ify your thoughts too.)

Sex (including solo sexy time), wine, and chocolate. In that order.

Share the body love. Compliment your girlfriends. Cultivate a nonjudgemental, supportive, lift-each-other-up “we’re so cute” friend group. Everyone’s insecure. Compliment your besties. And strangers, too. Be that person that makes everyone feel good about themselves when they’re around.

Good luck gorgeous. It’s a battle. We gotta unlearn all this societal bullshit.