Friendly reminder to check your breasts while you’re just sitting there scrolling the internet, then reblog so your followers do the same. Two people I know were just diagnosed within the same week.
these are the things that need spread. not fucking ribbons and the words “breast cancer awareness.” we know it exists. just knowing it exists isn’t going to help much.
One of the most hotly-contended points of division between the adult autistic community and the neurotypical parents of autistic children: explained.
The difficulty is that when people hear the word “abuse,” they think of pain and violence.
ABA has a big history of those things, too. Its founder, O. Ivar Lovaas, used electric shocks to stop children from engaging in their obsessive, repetitive behaviours. He systematically trained them with equal combinations of love and pain to behave more like non-autistic children.
He thought he was saving them, turning a raw bundle of nerve endings into something resembling a human being.
“One way to look at the job of helping autistic kids is you have to construct a person. You have the raw materials but you have to build the person.”
-Lovaas
Whenever ABA comes up, so does Lovaas.
Autists point out that he used these same techniques to pioneer gay conversion therapy, which, like ABA, has also been proven to be deeply harmful to the human psyche. They also point out that while fewer ABA therapists use things like electric shock, it is still used and considered important by several institutions.
“But ABA has changed,” people argue. “My ABA therapist never uses punishment. It’s all positive and reward-based.”
That is very true for many people. Most ABA therapists don’t set out to hurt children. And yet, despite making ABA therapy fun and positive, the underlying goals of ABA have not changed.
And it is these goals that, like gay conversion therapy, do long-term damage to the human psyche.
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She isn’t happier. She’s just accepted that her feelings don’t matter and the fastest way to escape the situation is by complying.
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learning to tolerate discomfort is what ABA is all about.
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The parents say the ABA really helped their daughter.
Did it really help the child, though? Or the parents?
The grocery store isn’t any less noisy or bright or overwhelming. And the child obviously still finds it difficult to go in. Instead, she has learned to keep her feelings to herself, to try and focus on pleasing her family, and bottle up her stress inside until she can’t take it any more.
That’s a healthy thing to teach a child, right?
With time she may become excellent at this. She may be able to go to the store, put items in the cart, and go home without a meltdown.
But the meltdown WILL come.
It will come over something minor, some silly thing that seems like nothing and pushes her over the edge where she was already teetering. And they will wonder where it came from. They’ll talk about how unpredictable her meltdowns can be.
It isn’t unpredictable to us.
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I know that ear defenders are not part of standard ABA protocols. Instead of teaching them to understand their sensory needs and self-advocate for having their needs met, they are taught to ignore them.
I know that ABA demands the child’s attention but refuses to give attention back when the child demands it.
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I know that ABA considers vital emotional regulation tools to be problems that must be extinguished.
I know that neurotypical pre-schoolers are not usually expected to learn for 40 hours a week.
I know that neurotypical children are encouraged to express their emotions, not smother them.
You know after I finished undergrad ABA therapy was one of the things that was recommended as a career before applying to a psych grad program. So that I could get experience working in a therapy field. This makes me glad that I did not apply and did research instead
it’s after midnight and half of my friends haven’t messaged back so idk if they’re okay or what but for the love of everything don’t fucking call this gun violence. new zealand doesn’t have gun violence. this is a terrorist attack by a racist man who wanted to become a famous shooter.
if you’re islamophobic, fuck you. if you’ve called us terrorists before, fuck you. if you made fun of a woman wearing a hijab, fuck you. if youve made fun of someones Islamic name, fuck you. islamophobia is so prominent today and im so sick of it.
Let me tell you, I hate pedophiles as much as the next guy but calling Gunn a pedophile or a pedophile apologist is just so wrong. I will admit that the stuff he said was fucked but he KNOWS he fucked up and he had apologized SINCERELY.
You can have your opinion and you can say that you dissagree with Disney for getting Gunn back, but calling him a pedo is just wrong.
I really hope she didn’t just out that woman’s daughter on social media. Granted the daughter is probably openly LGBT and the mother is just of those people that like to ignore/hate on the LGBT members of their family, but it really looks like she just outed the womans daughter to make a point.
I was about to say….. I’m worried about her daughter because if she was still in the closet this would be a awful way for her mother to find out. Plus if her mother is a super conservative Christian she could even get disowned by her family. People need to be careful about saying shit like this.
Yeah that's true. At the time I was thinking about the whole social media thing. Like I already came out to most of my family (not everyone), but I'm not out to anyone at my church or most of my friends. And if this happened to me than not only would my mom know that I'm bi, but anyone from my church who was following her, and everyone that knew who she was could easily find out who I was and my sexuality; which would honestly freak me out immensely.
Heck, now that it's trending any stranger can just do a quick google search of her and find out who her daughter is and her sexuality. Something like that would be my own personal nightmare.
I really hope she didn't just out that woman's daughter on social media. Granted the daughter is probably openly LGBT and the mother is just of those people that like to ignore/hate on the LGBT members of their family, but it really looks like she just outed the womans daughter to make a point.
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