Thatâs so great for you! Itâs always inspiring when you hear about a fellow babyâs success. It makes you aspire to be just as badass. How do you keep your game so fresh? What are your favorite ways to tease, flirt, charm, or seduce men (aka keep them hooked)? If a baby wanted to up her own game, what kind of pointers would you share with her?
Itâs very important to have game when youâre in sex work or trying to be a trophy wife/SGF, hell in the dating world period. Men canât walk over you or use you and youâll never be in need for money when you have game. My personal advice on upgrading your game is this (this will be a very long post):
Confidence and high healthy self-esteem - this shit here is number fucking ONE! I canât stress this enough. You have to look and act confident and teach people how to treat you. Let them know you will not tolerate disrespect and games. Take care about your appearance, never talk down about yourself in front of others, and donât be afraid to cut somebody off if they donât treat you right.Â
Be honest, but nice - Donât be afraid to say how you feel, better yet donât be afraid to say ânoâ, especially if something makes you uncomfortable. Men arenât afraid to ask for what they want (sex) so donât be afraid to ask for what you want. I tell every man I entertain that I like to be taken cared of and that is what Iâm accustomed to throughout my whole life and they can take it or leave it. If they leave it, they can have a nice life with the next chick. Donât be afraid to call him out on anything either. Always try to keep things positive when youâre around him. Donât reveal that anything is bothering you unless he asks.
Donât chase a man and donât come back if he ghosts you - If he goes 2+ weeks without talking to you, move on with your life. I donât care how much you liked him or how nice, cute, rich, sexy, generous, etc he is, move the fuck on with your life. Way too many men out there to worry about just one who was probably juggling several other women anyway. The man needs to be the one to initiate at least 80% of the conversations you have, he needs to be the one that sets up dates and meeting you, he needs to be the one to first express commitment.Â
Donât make yourself too available to him - Donât answer every call and donât always respond right away to texts. Even when Iâm at home doing absolutely nothing, I wonât answer the phone. I will call back about an hour or two later and act like Iâm just now checking my phone or I was busy. Sometimes wait a day to call him back. Keep phone calls less than an hour depending on whatever youâre talking about. Answer texts between 10-45 minutes after you see it. Donât talk to them every day, at least every 2 days is fine (it gives you more things to talk about). Be the first to end the conversation most of the time, make an excuse that you have to go or youâre driving.Â
Have your own life and identity outside of the relationship - Where a lot of people, especially women, go wrong in relationships is when they are co-dependent with their partner and âcanât liveâ without them. Donât ever lose yourself in a relationship and still pursue your goals and dreams. Have your own circle of friends and hobbies. Donât bring along your boyfriend to everywhere you go. You donât have to spend every waking moment with them. Women appear a lot more valuable to a man when it appears that she does not have to be with him.
Be mysterious - Donât reveal everything about yourself so soon. Reveal information about yourself and your life little by little every time you talk. Have deeper conversations periodically, never on dates though. Donât wear your emotions on your sleeve (have a poker face) and be a good listener. Be interested and engaging when theyâre speaking in detail about their personal life or interest, get them to talk about themselves more because we all know men love to talk about themselves. Donât give them access to your social media until youâre committed to them. Donât go into too many details of your past relationships if youâre asked about them.
Have sex appeal - Dress to impress every time you see them. Walk like a VS model and act like youâre Elizabeth Taylor. Try to always talk softly and smile. Make subtle and periodic body contact (touching of shoulder or arm) when youâre next to him. Give him pet names like âbabyâ.
Leave him wondering how you feel about him - Now this can be tied into âbeing mysteriousâ as well. I never openly express so soon how much I like the guy, even if I actually do. I let the guy express how much he likes me and Iâll respond in a playfully arrogant like âYou better đâ or âIâm glad to hear thatâ. Iâll drop occasional hints how I feel about him like âIâm so glad to be here with you right nowâ or âIâm having a great timeâ.Â
Donât be intimate so soon - That includes sex, kissing, rubbing, and hugging. I NEVER kiss on the first date, I donât care how much money the guy spent or what we did. Youâre lucky if you get a friendly hug from me at the end of the first date. Depending on how I feel, Iâll kiss by the 4th or 5th date. If a man discusses any intimacy, instead of saying no, I say âmaybe laterâ, âin the future when I see how far this relationship goesâ, or âweâll seeâ. They wonât see this as rejection. The man will see it as a challenge to get me to do what he wants to do, which heâll be willing to do just about anything to get it. It shows that he has to work for and earn affection from you, he canât get it just because he asks.Â
Be yourself - And donât be ashamed of it. Donât think you have to change who you are or what you like to keep somebody. You might be the creative, artsy type or the âboss chickâ type, just own up to it.Â
Compliment him - Since men like to tell women what they think we like to hear, why not tell them what they want to hear to stroke their egos. Donât overdo it though, when you see him say that you like his outfit or heâs so attentive. Compliment him physically and emotionally/mentally. Donât ass kiss either because itâll be obvious.Â
Make subtle reminders that youâre desired by other men - Never let that man think heâs comfortable and he has no competition. I have no problem making occasional reminders about how much Iâm approached by all sorts of men. In the back of his mind heâll always wonder if heâll ever lose you to another man so heâll continue to act right to keep you around. This is different from jealousy, when he controls what you do or wear, thatâs not cute and you should leave asap. A man thatâs afraid to lose you will not do anything to lose you.
