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Radeviance explained:
Radeviance is a political ideology for liberation of marginalized groups.
Pronoun bullshit under readmore:
Pronoun forms
I use modified forms of second and third person pronouns (do not confuse with personal gendered pronouns) because I think english language sucks. I might be somewhat inconsistent.
Thou (thou/thee/thy/thine/thyself) and xou (xou/xee/xy/xine/xyself) are singular second preson pronouns. Thou is definite (I'm talking about thee specifically. Yes, thee), and xou is indefinite (TFW xou have no GF). I am inconsistent with verb forms, because I'm not sure whether I want to borrow the original rules for thou or it's too hard. I consistently use thou art (= you are).
You (you/your/yours/yourselves) and zou (zou/zour/zours/zourselves) are plural second person pronouns. Similarly to thou/xou, you is definite (you guys, yes, you) and zou is indefinite (zou all can't be serious about not liking pineapple on pizza). Standard grammar, no notes here.
They, xey, ey and zey function similarly.
They (they/them/their/theirs/themself) and xey (xey/xem/xeir/xeirs/xemself) are exclusively singular, they is definite (they told me they like coffee), xey is indefinite (if someone's out of water, xey can ask for a refill). I am undecided whether I want to use plural verb forms for they, but I am trying to be consistent with using singular verbs for xey.
Ey (ey/em/eir/eirs/eirselves) and zey (zey/zem/zeir/zeirs/zeirselves) are plural, ey is definite (my classmates told me ey're going to see a movie), zey is indefinite (zey say being an artist doesn't pay much). No grammar notes. Yes, I know about Elverson pronouns, but not so many people actually use em for me not to do my little language experiment. I could have used yey. Do xou want me to use yey? Yeah, I figured.
A tiny pronoun FAQ:
Q: The way you talk is annoying.
A: Yay!
Q: Could you translate what you say? It's hard for me to comprehend what you say like this.
A: Yes, I can translate posts and drop the thing entirely in DMs or when talking to particular people, on request. Don't be rude about it and we'll be fine.
Have you read Myyce's Failure States and Trans Futures? (myyce substack com/p/failure-states-and-trans-futures) The commentary from it can probably bridge that gap you feel from your model to Shizen's model, it's currently one of my favourite pieces of modern trans literature.
Sometimes "You can do it! Even through tears! And pain! It gets better! It! Gets! Better!" is nothing but a trigger due to being a lie xou've been fed instead of any actual help at all the worst moments of xy life, and "It's okay. You can kill yourself if you want to and I won't hold it against you. It's your own life" is what xou actually need to hear to feel better. Unfortunately, the public consensus is that the former is the most wholesome thing ever, and the latter is illegal and xou can't say that.
Honestly my first draft of this post said “my neighbor’s son” and then I was like wait a second that’s functionally the same as saying “my cousin’s sister.” That’s still my cousin and that’s still my neighbor.
A few days ago someone remarked on me saying "10 year old people" in a post. We really do rarely use words for children that imply personhood or non familial social relations. There's always a ghost of a parent standing between the child and what you want to say.
letting children have unrestricted access to the internet very easily leads to many many bad things and I think the idea of letting kids to absolutely whatever they want is dangerous. kids deserve things like access to good information and healthy connections but not like this. The internet is not a good place for children and i know from experience
I was raped by a medical professional in real life at the age of 11 and I didn't know what was happening because nobody told me what sex was. Tried to talk about it to my grandma and she laughed in my face and later called me sexually addicted and threatened to tell my other relatives that I had been masturbating.
I was still repeatedly taken to that person for the next several years. I developed a pathological fear of sexual arousal and an aversion to looking at or touching my genitals, including for hygiene purposes.
I only started piecing things together and getting my health out of the gutter at 18-19 yo, when I was finally allowed to use the internet and met other CSA survivors.
Y'all aren't interested in preventing sexual assault of children, y'all are interested in making sure relatives and adults they approve of have the monopoly on it. That's what barring children and teens from unsupervised anonymous socialization results in.
Xou did not think xy parents know nothing. Xou'rt saying that as a part of the adultist protocol of demeaning xy teenage self in order to claim xy superiority as an adult. What did actually happen was that xou realized that xy parents are a flawed source of information, which ey never bothered to explain to xee, and started to express reasonable doubt in eir competence, which ey never provided any evidence of. And those both things happened because ey didn't respect xee as an individual worthy of meaningfull communication with.
A curious little linguistic trick people especially often use when describing interactions with kids is that zey refuse to use an active voice when it comes to child doing something. It is "being asked for an iPad" the same way it is raining, and it's almost like no one in particular is doing it, and xou'rt almost not having a conflict with anyone at all.
Drug arrives years after pandemic’s peak, but could still offer protection to vulnerable populations.
An antiviral pill has, for the first time, been shown to prevent COVID-19 in people exposed to the SARS-CoV-2 virus at home, according to trial results published today in the New England Journal of Medicine1.
The drug could be a lifeline for those who still face real danger from the virus, such as care-home residents or transplant recipients on immune-suppressing medication.
#(thousand-yard sex-disinterested aroace stare) cool opinion. love seeing this same sentiment 10000 times a day on this website
im also aroace. being disinterested in sex and romance is still sexual perversion in the eyes of the state. get more perverted in whichever direction fills you with the most joy!!!!!!
Also can we maybe accept that not everything is for/about everyone. "I don't wanna be perverted cos im sex repulsed" hey cool so i wasnt fucking talking to/about you is also a way this could be taken
So, I keep getting this post on my dash with more and more additions, and I have thoughts about it that I'm gonna write out.
First things to get out of the way, I have a lot of non normative aspects in my sexuality myself, and I support a fully accepting, anti medicalist look at these things.
But to get to the point, I feel like there's merit to finding "get more perverted" a hostile statement from the point of view of aspec identities. "Actually perversion isn't defined as sexual" is the same type of argument as "actually "pussy" comes from "pusillanimous"". In the sense that, regardless of whether it is true originally, people still use that word differently and there are implications to it.
There are people, lots of people, in the queer community, who do say similar sentences to mean it as "you personally need to be engaging in sex acts I view as sufficiently transformative". Because opposition to the sex negative environment of the general society created a view that sex is inherently good and can be used as a measure of how progressive you are.* And people who don't want sex/don't want currently trendy queer types of sex are lumped together with conservatives. So, if the op didn't mean it that way, it's just a coincidence.
What I think is the problem here is the idea that one needs to personally change to adjust to larger social changes. Nobody needs to personally get more perverted** (in any sense of that word) in order to push back against sex negativity. Because there are lots of perverts around you could be making connections with and supporting already. Say something supportive to a cg/l player who's getting harassed. Boost commission info of a feral furry artist. Have a serious conversation with your friend who always reblogs callouts. That sort of stuff. "Unapologetically welcoming perverts in your community" would be a better way to put things.
Once more, for emphasis: I'm aware that the op did not mean it as "personally go out and have sex". I'm aware that you can get labeled a pervert over anything. I'm just here to validate the tag author's reaction and to bring more nuance.
* there's also an opinion in the general society that correct types of sex are healing you spiritually, so all these people needed to do was to swap types of sex, but that's a bigger topic.
** "but we're not talking to you!" doesn't work as an excuse on a vaguely worded post that doesn't specify which of the readers it applies to.
It makes sense that many of those who have a complex relationship with the idea of being human are nonbinary. Because, if you try to express a gender that is nonhuman, you'll most likely land on something somewhat nonbinary.
But trying to get the reverse out of it, assuming that a nonbinary gender is by default nonhuman, is already transphobic.
Is your relationship model a lifestyle or an identity to you?
Lifestyle
Identity
Both
Other
Voting ended onMay 22
*lifestyle as in "i chose to be in polyamorous relationship, it's not a part of my identity/nature.", identity as in "i am monogamous like i am asian, cis, bi, etc."
I am polyamorous (an identity), I'm in a polycule (a relationship model). I was also polyamorous when I was single or dating only one person. Because for me it's about the feelings I'm experiencing, not what I'm doing.
Idk if the analog trend is still going on, but I hate/hated how it acted as if your phone is this inherently evil thing when it’s really not. The internet is a fantastic thing, and there are ways of using it that aren’t just mindless “consumption” that takes over your entire life. I’m a very online person and I have a lot of physical hobbies and i spend a lot of time outside. It’s called balance. You do not need a record player, a camera, 400 different recreational books, and a Walkman to be present in life
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