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Relationships

Let's talk RELATIONSHIPS So let's just say I don't really have that much experience lol 🙈 So I've had one boyfriend in my first year of university and we started off as friends and when we went into the relationship I was really happy. But i didn't initially fancy him but think I liked the fact that someone liked me for once. He was a lot smaller than what I thought a guy who would be interested in me would be like which also made me feel like I had to be lucky that he would want a BIG girl. Anyway long story short I changed myself a lot in that relationship to make him happy and felt that it was what I had to do put his feelings first and mine second but in this process I lost myself and disconnected myself from God and it wasn't till it was over till I realised how far away I was from the person I wanted to be. I felt so angry at myself for getting carried away with a guy, never thought I'd be one of those girls but hey that was me. It made me feel good about myself knowing that someone else loved me for who I was even tho I was bigger, but when it was over I felt empty and alone which made me question my self worth all together, did I put my self-worth and confidence in the hand of a boy? Yes. I really do regret it because it took me along time to find that confidence back and I had to crawl back to God and cry and ask for forgiveness and give him back my heart that was once his but I gave it to a guy who broke it without a care in the world. It was tough. But I know I will come out on top 💪🏾, I know I'm a beautiful human being and I know that with or without a man I will be loved. Now, don't get me wrong my next year of university my closest friends all managed to find themselves in new, blossoming relationships whereas I was the friend who was always available or always disturbing someone to come hang out whereas they always had someone to chill with, or to text 24/7 or to just know there's someone who wants to talk to them as much they want to. It's a beautiful thing ❤️. But I couldn't help but question myself, am I not pretty enough, am I not friendly, do guys just not like me, is it because I'm too fat? There were so many moments of insecurity that I almost started to resent some of my friends in their relationships I know I know 😔 such a horrible thing to do but I guess I was just jealous. But then I read something on Instagram saying if you're not happy with yourself by yourself how can you truly know if the next person you get in a relationship with makes you happy or if they are just there so you don't get bored. It really hit me because I want the next relationship I'm in to be a real one that it healthy for both me and him and also that's in line with God. Anyway I guess what I'm trying to say is love yourself cos no one else can do that better than you can 💪🏾❤️✨ and just because you're a Big does not mean you should settle , you deserve the best. 🍫❤️✨

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Fashion

So 😊😊😊😊 Lets talk about fashion well maybe not high fashion but let's talk about clothing and dressing up. So I Love getting dressed up but I've started to realise I never wear anything out of the norm as I'm scared I'll look funny and therefore have not enjoyed the dressing up part, however my face is always BEAT hunny 💅🏾. But yeah clothing is a big thing for me because there's too many parts of my body I'm trying to hide or tiger stripes (stretch marks) I'm trying to conceal. If it's not my arms, it's my shoulders, or my stomach or my legs and errr too much stress 😫. But then I started to think why am I hiding it is it because I don't find myself beautiful or is it because I'm scared of what others are gunna think is beautiful. Who decides what's beautiful 🙄 WE DO!!! We get to decide what we classify as beautiful I know it's easier said than done when you think of the magazines, TV shows, Internet and what guys we know define as beautiful but forget that. If we stop giving power to these things and people they can no longer control how we perceive ourselves. I've always seen an outfit and been like oh that would look amazing on you and never thought I could be the one to wear it as my flabby arms would disgust those around me or my stomach would stick out but how about just live life and do what makes you happy. They aren't caring about me feeling uncomfortable so why should I. Loving my body and loving style to help express myself and look amazing while doing so. 🍫❤️✨

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So it's 2:12am and I have been searching online for something to wear 🙄. This pretty much sums why I started this blog in the first place, I have been looking on Instagram trying to find boutiques that will sell beautiful dresses at my size. Now let me just say I'm a beautiful black Nigerian girl in the UK who is also a size 16/18. Well I say girl but I guess I'm a woman now (just turnt 20 this week😁) anyway finding a boutique on Instagram has been so difficult and it really shouldn't be, I have going on some of our fave insta girls and youtubers and seeing what boutiques they tag in their photos and each boutique I go to stop at a 14 if that. I mean UK boutiques are already hard enough to find, not everyone wants to shop at boohoo, asos or misguided all the time (even though they are great!!!) sometimes you wanna find something that's not in plain site. Then I realised I wasn't going to find it on Instagram until I found a beautiful uk plus size blogger, youtuber or Instagram model (being melanin obsorbed would be a bonus 🍫) that I could steal style ideas from and honestly I wasn't spoilt of choices. It's a struggle because now a days us girls love to see our fave insta models and bloggers style and be able to buy exactly that or steal ideas and Americans are definitely not slacking in that area but it kinda made me give up on looking for an outfit all together. I can't be the only one that's been frustrated looking for an outfit online or even in store for their body type and just given up because it's too much stress; well this led me to starting this blog ✨ all about us beautiful women and making it easier for ourselves. My goal is to make sure that there are a wide range of stores we can find clothes at, also a place where people can post their new discovery of clothing stores, talk about plus size in the UK and beautiful young women that can lift and encourage one another because we all need that. ✨🍫 This is something completely new to me but hey might aswell do something about this than moan about the lack of UK plus size role models. So yeah that's the story as to why I'm starting this blog and hope you can all stay interested and follow . ❤️✨🍫

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positivity ✨

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You are beautiful! Go out and let your light shine ✨

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Hi There 👋🏾

About Me I can't even lie, I am a little scared to show my identity because I've seen how cruel social media is and you can never tell how they are gunna perceive you, you guys could love me (which you will 😜) or absolutely hate me but oh well I mean I can't talk about self love if I can't be an example. So my name is Deborah but debbie, debz, Vanessa (story for another day lol) is fine with me. I am currently a first year student at university in the UK but technically this is my second year at the uni experience so yeah i can't say I've seen it all but I've seen a bit 👀. In the UK, uni can be one of those times where you really just see whether you can make it life or not Lool okay it's not that deep but then again it is. So yeah I just turned 20 years old (so weird) but yeah I'm at the stage where I feel like I need to get my shit together lol, this next decade it's about to get REAL real fast. I'm Nigerian 🙌🏾🇳🇬💪🏾 and I love my country, my culture and my people, couldn't be prouder of my country and wish I visited more often, I'm the oldest child (Yano what that means the house help/ assistant parent 😂) and I have 3 siblings. I'm a size 18 student at university and in some cases that speaks for itself alone it can be very challenging, especially if all your friends can't relate to your body struggles. I've been through the embrace your curves stage, I've been through the I hate my body stage and I've been through the crazy diet try and lose weight stage; trust me it's been a rollercoaster. But here I am 👩🏾💅🏾 and I am at the love yourself and be the you that you can be stage and trust me it feels amazing 🙌🏾✨. Not to say that there aren't times I waiver into those other stages but I always try to remember that the only opinion that matters is mine. I'm trying to think what else you might need to know about me except from the fact that I am a Christian and I am so deeply in love with God and will also be sharing my journey of growing closer to him with you guys. This blog will be about positivity (even though I can be petty betty at times😂) and love and hope to put a smile on your beautiful faces. ❤️✨🍫