So you want to be a Dominant?
So you’ve sat down and watched Fifty Shades of Grey, and now you think, “yeah, I could do that. I could be a Dominant like that and tell a girl what to do. It’ll be awesome.” You’ve dusted off your suit and tie and readied your spanking hand.
That’s wonderful. Congratulations.
But are you sure you’re ready? You are? Oh, even better!
Quick question though:
Are you sure?
Are you sure you’re ready to never send another picture of your genitals to another person ever again without consent? Because that’s what being a Dominant is. That’s what being a good person is. It’s about respect. It’s about honoring other humans.
There’s a piece of Biblical cannon that speaks about “dying to self.” You’re sure you’re ready to do that? Because that’s one of the biggest parts of being a Dominant. Yes, you hold the reins. Yes, you’re in charge. But that girl you’re in charge of, that leans on you and depends on you? You’ve become their world, their stability. Their rock and their stay and their shelter in the storm.
You’re ready for that?
You’re ready to exhibit self-control? Because your submissive is not your stress release or your punching bag or your side of beef a-la Rocky. Your submissive may say no. She may use her safe word. Are you ready to stop on a dime and devote all your attention to her physical and mental health in that moment?
Are you ready for hard work? Yes, she is your submissive, your slave, your property, your toy, your muse, your sin and salvation. But she is not your fix it, your magical spell to make everything good for you while you rest on your laurels. She is work as much as you are work for her.
Are you ready to earn that title you’re so quick to claim? Are you ready to show her what a Sir, a Daddy, a Master is worth? Are you ready to earn her submission? Are you ready to do what it will take to reach a place where an intimate piece of another person’s existence and psyche rests tenderly in your outstretched palm?
Are you ready?
Are you sure?
