When someone expresses that they’ve been hurt, the focus should be on understanding their pain, not on defending yourself, flipping the situation to blame the person or shifting focus to your own feelings. This is emotionally immaturity at its peak. Acknowledging harm without making it about your own emotions shows emotional intelligence and respect
And if you do have feelings about the situation, it’s best to communicate them separately instead of making it a competition. Healing conversations require space for both people, but not at the cost of dismissing the other’s pain











