Be Still

An assortment of quotes, boho things, articles, art, feminism, spiritual things, etc. Follow me on instagram @succulentorchard. I'm fairly new to propagating succulents, but it's a fun hobby.

[diaryofseveralnymphomaniacs]

Why I Decided to STOP Having Casual Sex

Hookup culture has been normalized with the development of apps like Tinder, POF, as well as more online dating sites. Dating, and for me, especially online dating is a huge cluster fuck.

I made a Tinder account after a long, and drawn out break up from a long term and pretty toxic relationship. I dated M* for awhile, casually, but after like 8 months of being “exclusive” but “no labels”, I was pretty heartbroken and over it. Our courtship ended with an explosive *not* break up (since you know, he was not my boyfriend) when M* showed  up at my apartment early, planted a good morning kiss on me, and was ready  to take me to brunch and I had to tell him he couldn’t come in because I had an overnight guest. Cue sleepless nights, hours of texts, name calling, and blocking and unblocking each other’s numbers for the next five months. 

I felt terrible for breaking our unwritten “rule”. I apologized over and over again. I sent him a gift basket of beer with an apology note. My friends told me to get over it and move on. He didn’t want a relationship with me. He was a narcissist. The sex couldn’t be that good. He called me names and made me cry. I was begging him for another chance and to get back together….but back to what?  

He got a new job and I got busier with school and work. I went back to the watering hole of the online dating world and made a new Tinder account. I tried my luck at OkCupid. I went on several terrible dates that went nowhere. I listened to Taylor Swift on repeat and tagged my friends in memes about being a crazy cat lady.

I eventually got over it when a friend went through the same thing with someone. I realized I was giving her advice and not following my own advice. I blocked M on all my social media, blocked his phone number and moved on with my life. I know what I want out of a relationship based on all the things I know that I for sure DON’T want. 

Moving forward now, I want to take things slow. I’m okay with no labels for a bit, but I know that I don’t want to be crying myself to sleep six months from now. I don’t want to keep doubting my self-worth over some douchey guy not calling me for weeks on end because he went “off the grid” for awhile. I don’t want to have butterflies for someone who doesn’t feel anything for me. I don’t want to have sex with someone and have them immediately get dressed and leave. I’m sick of waking up in the morning to a Bridesmaidesque dialogue of “I thought we agreed on no sleepovers”. I’m sick of going out of my way to get morning coffees and doing cutesie bullshit for people whose only response is not a “Thank you” but instead “This is….. a lot…isn’t it?” It’s not “a lot”. It’s coffee. I want to date an adult who is capable and comfortable with expressing their feelings and will respect mine enough to not drag me along on some quest for a Holy Grail that I have no hope of ever finding. 

[foundinghamilton]

Hamilton || Crack #1

OKAY SO I MADE A THING

Crack #2 || Crack #3 || Crack #4

[talatalitha]

The woman who is content with where God has her in life, who is content in her singleness, is not vulnerable to the emotional persuasion of foolish men who wander through her life.

But the woman who doesn’t trust God’s goodness, who doesn’t wait on God’s timing, or is controlled by feelings of incompleteness without a man in her life – that woman ignores red flags, lowers her standards, justifies a lack of godliness, and in the end gets hurt by the very man she wanted to love her.

[singlechristianfemale]

Good stuff right here. Truth!

[pressiabellz]

I needed this reminder

[daughterbydesign]

Single ladies: guard your heart from flirtatious men. Don’t create a life in your head with a man that is bold enough to flirt with you but refuses to communicate his purpose for his flirting. If he simply flirts & that’s it - he most likely flirts with you + every other woman he sees. Although it may feel good to get some false attention, it feels better to be pursued by a godly man with a plan that includes you in it.

Heather Lindsey (via daughterbydesign)

[arminrebellious-blog]

Tatianna vs Alyssa Edwards Lip Sync For Your Legacy

[aoifuh]

When your friend makes you do karaoke with them

[biancadelbitch-deactivated20170]

A legend truly 

[thorinoakenshieldin221bwithlupin]

Sherlock’s Dance Class

[vedma-natka]

My oil painting

[thexfiles]

i hate that liberal feminist ideology that if you’re faced w/ misogyny irl you have to say something and if you don’t you’re a Bad Feminist ™ as if talking back to men doesn’t get women attacked, raped, or murdered on a daily basis. 

like: “if a man tells you to smile, tell him to fuck off!!” yeah, you know i fucking would kathy but i really don’t feel like getting killed today

[pressiabellz]

Kidney Disease Symptoms and Treatments : Kidney Transplant & Dialysis For Kidney Disease

The kidneys are a pair of bean-shaped organs that are located on either side of the spine. All waste products and excess water is removed from our blood by t...

[pressiabellz]

This is for the Women Who don’t Believe They are Powerful.

[acidgeoff]

Baby Tina Belcher gives me life. 

[illustration-cf]

illustrations & art

[pressiabellz]

Succulents from my instagram account succulentorchard

[eleanor-el-deactivated20191228]

HSP - Choose Wisely

I’ve been realising a lot recently about the importance of empathic sensitive people choosing their environments wisely. As one myself, there has been many times in my life that I would choose situations from my head and I didn’t take into consideration how my body would feel. My body had to pay the price and I would end up getting emotionally drained and ill because of the negative energy I would accumulate. When I was six years old and I was at school, a lady played songs on the piano during assemblies for us to listen to. The songs she sang were very serious and gloomy and provoked such intense emotion in me that I would burst into tears every time. People would know that ‘Eleanor’s crying again’. They would send me out of the room every time to calm me down. Not once did anyone recognise that I was empathic, I didn’t realise it until I had been on this earth for twenty years, that’s a long time to be unaware of it and walking around with emotions that don’t belong to you.

When you are in tune with the emotions around you this is something that has to be taken very seriously, just like a food allergy. When you have an allergy you have to avoid certain foods and when you are empathic, you have to avoid certain situations. This is a tricky skill that takes time and nobody can tell you otherwise, after all it is you that has to face the consequence. There are so many things that empathic sensitive people can do and so many ways they can offer help, this shouldn’t have to be at the price of their health and happiness though. It doesn’t have to be a curse but a blessing, if used and understood correctly. 

Before making any decision now, this is at the top of my list of things that has to be taken into consideration, no matter what that decision is. I didn’t choose this ability, it chose me, so one must honour it as if it is sacred. On one level, I do not enjoy feeling so many things that I don’t always want to but I wouldn’t change the ways it helps me to connect with and understand people, animals and nature on a deep and visceral level, it’s very beautiful at its best. I accept this is a huge part of who I am and I know now that my sensitivities have to be the compass to guide me towards the appropriate places so that I can feel grounded and at ease.

[neonarizona]