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Where you end up doesn't depend on where you start; it depends on which direction you choose to take from where you currently stand

Kevin Ngo

Set your eye on a goal, study the direction and take the step forward from where you stand.It doesn’t matter where you start as long as you start.

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Live your life One day at a time

We all have 24 hours in a day and as much as you want to accomplished everything in a day so you can reach your goal faster oftentimes it is not always possible. Same thing happen as you try to discover yourself. It is not possible for you to know yourself in a day but you can learn something new about you everyday. Make it a habit to write down new discoveries about yourself no matter how small it is. It will make you recognize and appreciate yourself for who you are. Because a self-expert love details. Those details are the ones that makes you unique and special.

PUSH your limits!

The common obstacle to being a self expert is being comfortable. When we reach this stage we often stop growing and our journey ends. We often see people remain stuck to where they are because they became too comfortable to what they do and what they achieve. Comfort is good however, staying in your comfort zone is not always the best option. I believe you deserve not just good but the best. But before you can become your best you must first push yourself pass your comfort zone.

Are you ready to PUSH yourself up?

P- Pay the price. Before becoming a self expert you must first learn to invest in yourself. How much do you value yourself? How much are you willing to pay to learn new things that will bring out the best in you? How much time are you giving ti improve yourself?

U- Unlearn. Before you can even learn something new. You need to empty your cup. There are things that you need to re-learn. There are other solutions to the same problem that keep you stuck. Let go of the old habits and learn something new.

S- Step-up. Always push yourself UP. For you to move out your comfort zone. You need to step up. View things on higher ground. Look beyond what you can see.

H- Have faith. Whenever you are moving outside your comfort zone and venturing into the unknown believe that great things is coming ahead. Faith keeps you going even if you can’t see the fruits yet. It keeps you together even when challenges tear you apart.

The only person you need to beat in this life is your old self. Set new records. Learn new skills. Always PUSH to be the best version of yourself.

MAGIC your Passion!

Part of being a self expert is getting to know your passion and do something about it. Find that something in you that you really think is special and unique to you. Once you find that something turn that into a thing. Yes, you have to do a magic to turn that something into a thing. Are you ready to magically transform your life?

I hear you say Yes!! so, let’s begin the M-A-G-I-C

M- MASTER. Once you have discovered the things that makes you different, unique and special, master it! Yes, you are a multi-talented human being and you have very much to offer but you have to choose only one of those talent that you will master.

A- Alignment, remember to align your action towards the mastery of your talent. Before saying yes to doing an activity or accepting an invitation, ask yourself will this activity lead me to where I want to go? or what I want to achieved? If not, then train yourself to politely say NO.

G- Give. You need to learn to give the necessary time and effort to develop your skill and use it to give back to others.

I- Involvement. Be involve in activities that will develop and highlight your talent. Involve as many people as you can to join you in your journey towards self mastery.

C- Create. Once you have develop that talent, create beautiful things out of it. You must transform that talent into a thing that is tangible for everyone to see, feel, smell, hear, touch or even taste.

The true MAGIC! lies in you. No matter what other people say you will always have the last say. The greatest magician that can ever transform your life is you. Remember, magic is never a thing. It is always a process. So what are you waiting for? Start practicing that magic now.

Live the Moment

Being a self expert is a process that needs to start now! Being a self expert is not something you need to look forward in the future. It is something you build in the present. There are a lot of things to discover from yourself each day. The essence of being a self expert is applying self discovery to better one self.

Everyday is an opportunity to do something ordinary in an extraordinary way. You just need to be present at the moment in order to get this opportunity. In our fast phase life, We often forgot to be still and lavish the present moment. We are always running to meet our deadlines and others expectation of us. We sacrifice the time we need to enjoy our self and to learn from our self. We are to preoccupied thinking about tomorrow or looking back on some distant past never living the present we have.

Though its good to plan ahead and it is sometimes comforting to look back, we must not forget to be present in the now because it is the only thing we have.

Embracing Change

As you try to discover yourself and strive to be self expert, it is essential to always embrace change. Change is one thing that is inevitable part of growth. It comes in many forms. Once you start accepting and start embracing change you can’t help but grow. Enjoy the process. Endure the pain. Stretch and expand yourself.

Take that first step now!

Nothing is ever accomplished without taking the first move. Ending can never be complete without its beginning. And beginning is always the hardest part. Before we can conquer the world we must first conquer our self. Too many people dream but only few people transform their dream into reality. Simply because only few people take the first step and never give up.

There is no real secret to success in life. The answer of whether you will be successful or not lies in the choices and actions you are willing to make.

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Be With The Crowd

We are a social being. No matter how we try to be independent, we cannot remove the fact that we need other people to survive. In the advent of technology we are being fooled to think that we can do all things alone. As we become immerse with the wonders of technology we unconsciously wrap ourselves in a layer of glass that gives us an illusion about the reality of life. A glass that though so thin bound us from embracing our true identity. As we try to discover our self and be a self expert we need to intentionally bump our self with the crowd. Because each bump allows us to break that glass barrier that hinders us from discovering who we really are.

Add Spice!

Have you ever tried eating the same food for a week? How about for a month? or for a year perhaps? Can you imagine eating dried fish day in and day out for the whole year without being sick? My dad use to hate tuyo "dried fish" because it reminds him of the poverty they have experience growing up. Whenever he smells it even from a distance his face changes and he looks like he is about to throw up. One day I came into a restaurant and eat with a friend. He ordered a thick noodles with a very crisp texture that is dip in different sauces that contain a whole lot of spices and herbs. You can feel within your taste buds the fight between each flavors. After eating a bowl you will find yourself floating and satisfied. I asked the Chef what made this noodles really tasty. Later did I know that the noodles contain grind salted fish that give it a distinct taste and texture and when mix with the herbs it forms the winning combination. I bought another set and give it to my dad for dinner. To my surprise he finished the bowl of noodles without realizing that it mainly contains dried fish. When I told him what it is made up he cannot believe it. Today he develop a cook book especially dedicated to dried fish making us love dried fish even more.

We all have a dried fish within us. A potential, memory, wound, pain something that stinks. Something we run away from because it is unpleasing in itself. Yet those dried fish can be transformed into something new. How? Add some herbs and spices. Don’t be stuck into the same place because you are running away from those dried fish. Running away cannot change them. It limits your life to grow. As you strive to become a self expert there are certain fears, truth, and problems that you need to conquer to expand your knowledge about yourself. Be brave enough to face them and turn them into something flavorful.

Getting the Subject of Self Discovery.

All experts started as beginners and take the basic. Just like in school there are certain level or course that we must first finished before we are able to enroll in the higher courses. But unlike school taking the subject of Self Discovery takes a lifetime. It is of essence to always start at the basic even if you think you already know enough. Always remember being an expert requires mastery of the basic.

A lot of people think they know themselves well so they no longer take the time to know who they are or study how they can become better.

Here are some of the lessons you should learn as you take the subject of SELF DISCOVERY.

1. Know your ROOTS! Look back and see where you came from. Your family is one essential part of who you are. They are the people who introduced you to the world. It is through them that you get the first impression about life. They are the first one whom you get your belief system. Knowing their stories and reason behind the traditions if any, would allow you to know yourself more. Their stories might even give you a deeper explanation why you do the things you do. Taking the time to know the history of your family can help you understand your actions and reactions towards certain things and issues. It might even help you change perspective and take on the necessary action to correct or improve yourself on how to deal with life.

2. Look at your ENVIRONMENT. Where you grow and how you are treated especially in the first formative years of your life influences your actions. There is a saying that goes “You are a reflection of your Environment.” It is from your environment that you learn those first instincts on certain occasions and people. Your environment trains you to adapt and react to circumstances of life.The environment to which you are constantly exposed can limit or push you to grow. If you have been stagnant for a long time may be its time to change your environment. Get out of your comfort zone and move towards your courage zone. No one knows but maybe your courage zone is a much better than your current comfort zone.

3. Watch your WORDS! Word are very powerful. What you say and how you say things can give you a glimpse of who you are or what you have become. The choice of words you use for certain people in different places and circumstances can be a valuable tool for you to know yourself more. Words are common tools we use to adapt. Watching your words can give you an idea of what your actions will be.

Begin with the basic. Start with yourself. Start where you are and use what it is within your reach. It will definitely go a long way!

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The Trap You Should avoid by 2016!

People may have different opinion of you but their opinion must not become your reality. Pleasing people is not a good habit if you want to become a self expert. You should give priority to know the things that will please you rather what pleases others. Becoming a self expert starts from looking at the things that gives you personal satisfaction.

How do you know if you have fallen into the trap?

There is a thin line between pleasing others and pleasing yourself. Both involve a happy feeling. What makes it different is the extent of happiness on each ends. Pleasing others can give you a false perception of reciprocity. Often times we try to please others because somehow we are expecting to be please in return. However it is not always the case. Pleasing others is often one sided. Pleasing others often results to fleeting happiness on your part. A temporary feeling of satisfaction and accomplishments. Because the happiness is so short lived we tend to repeat it again and again and fall into an unending cycle that takes us nowhere.

Signs that you have fallen into the trap.

1. Having a "YES Syndrome". People who always try to please others never learn to say NO. They feel that it is their primary obligation to make others happy. They are an avid believer of the saying that "First Impression Last". They tend to believe that pleasing others earns them the best impression they need to survive. They feel that YES is the answer to everything. As a result they never learn to be self expert because they are too busy being the person others want them to be.

2. You lack a STAND. There is a saying that the dangerous part of the road is being in between. People pleaser don't want to take sides. They like being in the middle. They go to the direction of the crowd they are with. Rare do you see them alone because most of the time they are looking for people who can make a stand for them and as a favor they try to please them in return.

3. You always seek to FIT in. People pleaser seek acceptance by adjusting to the crowd. They are willing to go let go of their identity just to belong. Their actions are limited to the image they want to portray. People pleaser are great pretender. They try to show that everything is ok when in fact their inner self is falling into pieces.

How to get out of the trap?

It is not easy to break a habit but it is not impossible.

1. Free yourself from the influence of others and go on a serene place where you can ask yourself the following questions:

1. What are the things that you will gladly do with or without expecting anything in return?

2. What are the things you do that gives you personal fulfillment?

3. What are the things you do when you are alone or when no one is watching?

4. What is your long term goal?

Based on your answers to the questions.

2. List down activities that you can do in relation to your answers.

3. Prioritize those activities based on their importance to your long term goal.

4. Commit yourself to spend at least 1 hour everyday to do those activities.

5. Say NO to people or activities that is inconsistent to the goals you want to achieve. Remember, a NO gives you an opportunity to say YES to a bigger opportunity.

This 2016! Commit yourself to achieve greater heights in all areas of your life by being a Pretty Self Expert.

Let the Journey Begin!

Hey there! WELCOME to Pretty SELF Expert.

Before anything else I would like to remind you that..

YOU are created to be wonderful and amazing. Life is a journey of discovering the beauty that is within you. If you cannot appreciate what you are. How can you appreciate what you have?

Here at Pretty Self Expert. We are building a community that lifts people up by appreciating themselves as well as life. How do we do this? We come out of the picture. There’s one author that said” You cannot see the bigger picture unless you come out of the frame”. Here we aim to share stories and personal experiences of overcoming obstacles, and conquering failures. We also share practical tips that challenge each and every one of us to reveal our beauty within. Post questions and exercises that aim to build you up and test your limits that allow you to know yourself more. Here at Pretty Self Expert we believe that you are a gem. A gem that is yet to be discovered by YOU!

Join us in the journey as we strive to be the best version of ourselves and be a Pretty Self Expert in all the areas of our life.

P.S. every week I will be posting at least one article to inspire you to take the journey of being Pretty Self Expert.

I’m looking forward to hear from you soon.

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