[prevwidmestern-blog]

please follow me on my new blog you guys!!! 

[prevwidmestern-blog]

please follow me on my new blog you guys!!! 

[prevwidmestern-blog]

please follow me on my new blog you guys!!! 

[yellowxperil-deactivated2026012]

srsly tho this is absolutely a thing that dudes do all the f***ing time

like where if he knows a girl doesn’t necessarily want to give him a hug, he will trap her in this position in front of witnesses where she has 2 options- both of which are undesirable for her, while simultaneously desirable for him

if she doesn’t want to hug him, whatever she does, it will suck for her.

she can 1. say nah and be the fucking asshole in front of other ppl or 2. forsake her corporeal boundaries and allow unwanted intimate contact

it’s a f***ing trap

[d-o-llf-a-ce]

SECOND STORY TIME

So I was on the transit bus alone one time. This was my first time riding, and so already I was PETRIFIED. I sit down, pull out my ipod, and begin to play some games. This guy sits down next to me, and begins trying to have a conversation. I don’t really respond, I don’t even look at him, just give half-hearted “mhm”s and “oh”s, as I don’t want to be rude if he was just striking up a friendly conversation. He then asks me on a date.

Now, as I stated before, I already was absolutely petrified. My heart stopped and I didn’t know how to answer. So I just didn’t. He didn’t let up and I could feel his eyes on me. I quietly stammer out a “no thanks” and my stop HAPPENS to be coming up, so I pull the string thing to let the driver know I want to stop there, and once we stop and the doors open I get up and he asks me, “Well, can I at least have a hug before you go if you won’t go on a date with me?” 

This makes me break. There are now people staring, as we are the only people standing up and not getting off… So I just start crying. Hell, I am bawling almost instantly. He looks so fucking freaked out and people are now getting up to come over and comfort me/question him. I don’t stop crying, and he keeps trying to comfort me by touching me, and people are yelling at him for that. 

AND THEN. AND. FUCKING. THEN. THE GOD DAMN BUS DRIVER. A VERY EASILY 6 FOOT BURLY MAN. COMES OVER TO US. PULLS THE GUY AWAY. AND KNEELS DOWN. HE THEN ASKS, IN THE MOST CALM VOICE, “Did you request the stop?” I very slowly and shakily nod, as I am still crying my eyes out. He then asks, “Do you want to get off?” I give a quiet “mhm” and nod once again, and he offers me his hand. I take it, he stands up, and he escorts me off the bus. He asks me questions such as where I was going next, if I was going to meet someone shortly, if I was going to transfer buses from there. He was very polite and waited for me to answer the entire time, and my friend (who I was going to be meeting there) showed up. He asked me if this was someone I knew, I said yes, and he said alright, have a good day. He then told me- and this is something stuck in my mind forever, so it is word for word-

“If some guy EVER starts harassing you like that again, do exactly what you did there. Cry. Cry and scream and have a temper tantrum. Not only will it throw him off, but it will get others to notice. They might not interfere, they might, but you will have gotten their attention and if you happen to go missing the next day the search for you will be a hell of a lot easier because everyone in that location will have seen you screaming and crying with a guy now very awkward with his actions. They will know. That is what my daughter did, and three days after she went missing she was back in my arms. I pray for you and every other person like you who has this done. You stay safe now, okay?” And after I began blubbering again, I nodded and he left.

So this is the second lesson for yall. If you can not have the courage to say no or make an excuse, cry. Let out those sobs and tears and cry your heart out. Because it is going to make people notice and make people aware.

[cosmic-noir]

Reblogging for that second story. This might save a life.

[grumpybeardruid-archive-deactiv]

I just wanna note that bus drivers can be really amazing and good ones do look out for their riders.

[han-syolo-shot-first]

Also, as an additional tip (in case you cannot cry on command or such), you can say, “No, because you’re creepy/creeping me out” and if he persists or tries to laugh it off, say “I do not want to be touched” and look at one of the strangers/persons that is watching.

It: 1. Gives them a sense of urgency in the situation, as the eye contact is a way to make them feel as though you are personally asking for their help and it is now their obligation to help. 2. Contains words so that if you’re in a public place but people aren’t necessarily watching, then they (as natural evesdroppers) can overhear the attention-grabbing words and then notice the situation. Note, this does NOT mean that they will come for help, but you might be able to look someone in the eye (as previously mentioned) or just get some people’s attention. 3. It shows that you have fight in you. As with rapists, those who are physically aggressive (ie. these huggers) choose women they see as an easy target. The moment you show them you are going/willing to fight them, they are less likely to continue. Sadly, this is not always the case, but every little bit helps.

Hopes this also helps, guys, and I’m so sad that this has to even be a post we need.

[oxfordcommaforever]

Dudes who follow me: 1) reblog this 2) don’t be the creepy guy who asks random women for hugs 3) be aware of your friends or random creepy dudes and call them out if they act gross towards girls/womem

[seralvis-deactivated20180221]

I’ve actually have had this happen to me quite a few times. It doesn’t even have to be hugging at this point. A lot of guys in my past have done this to me. At one point one of the guys that hugged me, unexpectedly, told me beforehand that I shouldn’t be outside by myself. That I could be kidnapped for being too attractive/sexy/cute. I was mortified right then and there. He was taller than me. And more than likely was going to keep pushing his buttons.

So I did what I naturally was good at, scream and cry. I was in my neighborhood that had a bunch of people and families living around (apartments and the like) I knew they could hear me. And trust me, they did. At least three families came out and one of the dads from the families came up to us, I was blubbering and he looked right at the guy and said, “are you harrasing this young lady?” And he just gave a sly smile and shrugged, “I’m not harrasing, just helping her.” And without a second he got popped right in the face by this dad.

This random guy I didn’t even know. I’ve never met him in my life, yet he came and helped me.

Tl;Dr: If you are faced with a life threatening crisis like the stories above, cry, shout, scream, and if you have to, kick… do whatever it takes. People have good in them that will come and help you.

[lovelyfuriouscycle]

This honestly makes me feel safer, knowing that there are kind souls out there willing to help complete strangers being harassed.

[pugsies]

PLEASE READ. WILL NOT HURT TO AND FORWARD. Kids are putting Drano, tin foil, and a little water in plastic drink bottles and capping it up - leaving it on lawns, in mail boxes, in gardens, on driveways etc. just waiting for you to pick it up intending to put it in the rubbish, but you’ll never make it!!!

If the bottle is picked up, and the bottle is shaken even just a little - in about 30 seconds or less it builds up enough gas which then explodes with enough force to remove some your extremities. The liquid that comes out is boiling hot as well. Don’t pick up any plastic bottles that may be lying in your yards or in the gutter, etc. Pay attention to this. A plastic bottle with a cap. A little Drano. A little water. A small piece of foil. Disturb it by moving it; and BOOM!! No fingers left and other serious effects to your face, eyes, etc. Please ensure that everyone that may not have email access are also informed of this. 

Snopes confirms.

[geometricdeathtrap-deactivated2]

I’ve dealt with these before. If you find one:

Do not touch it

Do not touch it

Clear the area around it. It will explode on its own in time.

Once it explodes, do not make contact with the liquid inside. If needed, flush it away with large amounts of water.

Do not try to detonate it. You’ll probably be disfigured.

I’ve seen what these can do. The acidic liquid inside can strip the paint off a car.

[chaplip]

when i visited vancouver these were everywhere. it’s not a fucking joke they’re actually scary

[zzazu]

Just a reminder that there are awful shitty people out there doing awful shitty things to everyone else

[pastel-wendigo]

there was a bunch of these at disneyland

[xakariahthepariah-deactivated20]

i found one in my back yard, when i let my dogs out, i pulled them back inside, took my cousins bb shotgun and shot it from a safe distance (i was in my house and shot from the screen door. When it went off, my family and neighbors came running to see if everything was ok. I told them what happened and to watch out for them. 

These things are not a joke! When we went to check the damage there was a fucking hole in the ground. The dirt in my yard is like CLAY.

This shit is bad news

[sparklefairydust-blog]

PLEASE DON’T BE AN ASSHAT. PLEASE DON’T LEAVE BOMBS IN PEOPLE’S YARDS.

[youkofujima]

Please spread this information!

[herongale]

the one fucking time I actually will signal boost cuz I didn’t know about this and would never ever wanna learn about it first hand

[mochitits]

we actually had the bomb squad called to our house for something like this and it totally ruined the paint on my big bro’s car.  :c

[nkhamiltons-blog]

lol the thing is certain boybands dont even have to try onstage they wear ratty ass shirts, eat and roll around and barely harmonize but they can sell out arenas

over on the other side girlbands have to look good, hair done, make up done, do choreography in heels all while keeping harmonies intact but nobody would even give them a chance bc theyre “annoying”

like bye

[dateagirlwhosuggestion]

date a girl who helps you accept that it’s okay to like girls

[afro-elf]

like, honestly, it is 2016, put asian people in your FUCKING MOVIES

[mohaliraj-deactivated20160430]

once you start sleeping with no pants there is no going back

[elevated-thoughtsss]

[fearwakes]

As a woman in a television show about superheroes, you certainly go, “Well, I don’t just want to be the love interest, or just the girl, or the damsel in distress” – you know, all of those [tropes] that we try to avoid.

[dateagirlwhosuggestion]

date a girl who you can hold for as long as you like and she wont complain

[godlyicarus]

[queerhawkeye-deactivated2017012]

[Caption: screencap of [a tweet] by @AlannaBennett: “ Arden Cho is leaving Teen Wolf, which marks the third PoC in the same number of weeks leaving a show bc of neglectful storytelling”

#1 is Ricky Whittle, who [was abused by his boss until he finally was written out of the show] and whose character [was executed and left to very graphically bleed out on the mud].

#2 is Nicole Beharie, who [was sidelined from her own show until she finally felt like she had to leave], and her character was killed off with a disgusting and racist “I was only meant to carry you forward” to her white co-lead.

Arden Cho makes #3. She basically put all of her other projects on hold for three years because she never knew when the show was gonna call her for an episode –and they never bothered to wrap the writing around her schedule like they did for white cast-member Dylan O’Brien, who was able to film two movies while Arden had to bend over backwards for the show.

[Caption: screencap of an Intagram comment left by @arden_cho: “@shermandanielles: also less than 1% of my time went into side projects (only filmed during breaks of Teenwolf) and had to turn down numerous other projects and films, I dedicated 3 years to Teenwolf and made it my first priority. I have barely even posted on my YouTube channel (which I did before Teenwolf) because I’ve been so busy. Just know that i have no choice or power. The writers and producers make all the decisions. All I can do is show up and act. If I had a choice it might be different.”]

She was introduced in the show [just so the white sidekick could have a storyline where he was possessed by a Japanese demon] and, the moment Asian mythology became unnecessary, Arden began to be further and further pushed to the sidelines. 

Even though it’s said that head writer Jeff Davis fought to keep her on the show, as soon as he stepped off of his position, MTV confirmed that Kira would not be in Season 6 because “her story was all wrapped up”, even though Jeff left her at he beginning of a very powerful arc about her powers and sense of self. Arden [loved this character], and the Yukimuras were the only regular Asian characters on the show.

Also, this week Kat Graham announced that [she’s leaving The Vampire Diaries], and though I’m not a TVD fan, I’ve seen talks that she was also mistreated. So that technically makes four.

@booasaur commented in another reblog: By the way, if people have twitter, THANK YOU ARDEN is trending worldwide right now 32.6K tweets. It’d be great to add to that support. She was always very outspoken about diversity and the difficulties of being a PoC actor. And remember, there’s a [trend for Abbie tomorrow] as well.

[gonegirlbyeee-blog]

A study in Amys by Diana Neves

[rytfujgkuhhgmjgh]

like, is it good to have a female lead in rogue one as opposed to a male one? of course! but that doesn’t mean that you can ignore the fact that she’s white, and that women of color get almost no lead roles, and every time a white female lead comes on the scene, women of color have to sit and listen to this whole “baby steps (: (: (: sweetie” bullshit rhetoric that people spout and are told to “wait their turn” and whatnot and that’s so gross shut up

[bnsolo]

Daisy Ridley wins Best Breakthrough Performance at the MTV Movie Awards

[skywalkerkids-deactivated202002]

daisy dragging lucasfilm for not including trans and nb characters is my aesthetic

[daisyridley]

 I don’t know your name.