Brute Force Bedwetting - A Training Guide
Diapers, cloth or disposable, mattress covers, clock with multiple alarm settings, child’s wetting calender
Preparation - week before training begins:
1st the trainee must understand that from the start of training they are to be considered a bedwetter in every sense of the word. The term “Nocturnal Enuresis” should be a readily available if a nurse or doctor asks if the trainee has a medical condition. They do have a medical condition, and they should understand that now before the training really begins. This needs to be understood in all it’s permutations: there will be no place the trainee won’t be able to wet, they will have to wear protection every night. There will be embarrassing questions, and staying over with friends, and dating will be forever changed by this behavior.
2nd the trainee should start going to bed at an early time. 10pm would be ideal, but as late as 11 pm works. If the trainee works on a specific schedule adjust times so that they should get at least 8 hours of sleep nightly. They should also get in the habit of having a drink before bed.
3rd the trainee should begin sleeping in the diapers that they will be wearing most through the training. Cloth diapers are recommended. They should be comfortable sleeping in the diaper, and should practice wetting while laying in bed, finding the most comfortable positions to do so.
4th the trainee should be prepared to be honest about their wetting. There will be some aspects of the later phases where the trainee will have to self report how their night went, and the only way to establish the proper behavior is if the trainee reports honestly.
Phase 1 - The New Behavior Paradigm - 1 month duration
Take the clock and set three alarms for 1AM, 2AM and 3AM. These times are important because it allows the trainee to get a solid amount of sleep, but not enough for a full nights sleep. The clock dial should then be covered, and from now on any other clock in the room that is visible from the bed should either be removed, covered or turned away so that it isn’t visible from the bed. This is so that the trainee doesn’t adapt to a single specific time to wet, and that the only solid trigger for wetting is the alarm. Every day choose an alarm at random to set. When the trainee has gone to bed, the alarm will wake them. They will then turn off the alarm and wet, moving as little as possible, then go back to sleep. This will be repeated every night until the end of the training. What this does is establish a new behavior. That behavior is conscious wetting at night. They key point is to get the trainee to sleep, then wet, then sleep. At first the behavior will be difficult. There will be many sleepless nights, and early on there will be anticipation and insomnia. But as time passes and the trainee gets used to the schedule, they will fall into a regular sleep cycle. Later in this phase the adaptation to the nightly disruption may result in automatically return to sleep without wetting. This behavior should be punished appropriately. As long as the alarm is set the trainee should always wake wet in the morning. By the end of this phase, the trainee should be wetting every night consistently without requiring punishment. If this is not the case, repeat the phase until it is so.
Phase 2 - Maintaining Behavior Under Differing Conditions - 1 month duration
The first phase is to establish the night wetting behavior. This second phase is to establish comfort and acceptance of this new behavior. A bedwetter is a person that wets in their sleep, regardless of what they are wearing. At this point we don’t have a bedwetter, but a person that wets a diaper at the sound of an alarm. Consider the different clothing variations that the trainee might experience when sleeping. So far they’ve been wearing diapers. But maybe they have cloth and disposable diapers. What if they were wearing regular underwear? Or all these variations fully clothed, or completely nude. Once the variations are figured out, set a random schedule, and continue the use of the alarm clock-wetting routine with the added variation of the different conditions. Keep in mind that this phase requires the most cleaning, make sure that you have many extra sets of sheets and the mattress is protected. Now that the new behavior has been established it is still unfortunately a specific habit: The trainee has so far been trained to wet a diaper at night. What the trainee needs is to be comfortable wetting and being wet. This phase helps the trainee to learn to be comfortable in a wet bed, or wet clothes and still able to return to a sleeping state. If by the end of the month the trainee is still having trouble returning to a regular sleep cycle, repeat the phase until they have done so.
Phase 3 - Weening and Reward - 12 week minimum duration
At this point the trainee has spent at least two months consistently wetting at night. In the mind of the trainee two things have happened, the behavior has become a habit, and the brain has gotten used to urinating during the three hour alarm period at night. By repetition we are creating the urge to urinate during this period even thought the trainee has most likely not yet felt that urge because of the alarm. This phase is the trickiest part of the training. Up until now the trigger for wetting has been the alarm. Now we turn off the alarm. But it can’t be done all at once. So the trainee must be weened slowly off the alarm until it becomes unnecessary. Start by randomly selecting one night of the week. This will be the night the alarm won’t be activated. A random day will be chosen for the next two weeks, and ideally every two weeks the number of days per week that the alarm is inactive will increase by one until after twelve weeks the alarm is no longer necessary. Because this phase can be extremely tricky be prepared to delay progress or even return to phase 2 until the desired behavior is achieved. The child’s wetting calendar will come in handy at this point as it will be easy to track the trainee’s progress. The behavior that is desired is that on nights that the trainee doesn’t experience the alarm, they will still wet. Realistically there are three possible scenarios when the alarm is off: The trainee sleeps through the night, the trainee wakes because of the established habit of waking at this time, or the trainee doesn’t wake but still wets. If the trainee should wake, they should wet before returning to sleep.Early in this phase don’t worry if the trainee sleeps through the wetting period, however don’t progress with the weening if the trainee hasn’t wet after the first four weeks. When the trainee does wet, either by waking or sleeping, reward the behavior. Show the trainee that this is the desired behavior, and that it will be rewarded, and the trainee will have a greater incentive to continue the behavior. In this way also the mind of the trainee will be conditioned to want to wet. As the wetting behavior continues without the alarm, the trainee will require waking less and less. As it is, with the alarm activated, after so long the trainee ought not even need to stay awake, but might even be falling asleep while wetting after having experienced the situation so many times. So now with the alarm inactive the sleep wetting has a chance to occur naturally. By the seventh to eighth week, the randomized condition training begun in the second phase can end provided the trainee has shown the ability to wet in each of the conditions without the alarm. Once the trainee has been able to wet, awake or asleep, without the alarm at least 50% of the time this phase can end after at least two weeks of only one night where the alarm is activated per week.
Phase 4 - The Bedwetter and Diminishing Returns
At this point the trainee has established the ability to wet at night without the need for an alarm. As well because the alarm is no longer being used, most of the time the trainee should be wetting without waking. However this is also taking up a lot rewards. But since the trainee is now a bedwetter, they don’t need the rewards. But still we can’t just stop, so like he alarm we must ween the trainee. At the start of this phase we change the reward scheme to only reward nights where the trainee has only wet in their sleep. Do that for several weeks. Keep in mind the wetting calendar will be very handy at this point. Once the trainee has gotten used to this new reward scheme reduce the reward period from one night to two nights. After several weeks reduce it again to three nights. Every few weeks keep reducing the rewards until it takes a full week to wet. This will wen the trainee off the rewards, but it will also encourage more wetting since the mind of the trainee is conditioned to be rewarded for wetting. At this point don’t end the rewards all together, but keep it up for the next month or so in order to continue o encourage the wetting behavior. The rarity of reward will encourage greater regularity of the wetting behavior. When the trainee is wetting 75% of the time or more should the rewards end, and the training period officially end.
A Word on Punishment and Reward
Notice that when I mention punishment I said “this behavior should be punished appropriately. I am not a proponent of harsh punishments, nor do I pretend to know all the various dynamics that might come into play between trainee and trained, or even trainee by themselves. Punishment need only be as harsh as necessary to be effective, and the trainer ought to know best what is most effective punishment. No punishment should result in injury. Rewards can be tricky. As often as a trainee might wet the bed, it will be difficult to reward with stuff, because that could be expensive in the long term. I recommend sensory rewards like pleasure or even orgasm, but that implies a greater control and specific relationship on the part of the trainer. As with punishment the trainer has the best understanding of the trainee, and the nature of their relationship. Reward appropriately.
