I am in no way attacking you for your beliefs, or opinions on homosexuality, I was just curious, about your point of view as a Christian. If you feel homosexuality is in fact a sin, does that also mean that you feel it is a choice to be attracted to one's same gender? I, personally, feel that we cannot control who we love, the people we are attracted to, regardless of their gender identity. So why would God make people this way if he says it is sinful?
Hi! Questions like these are great, and I appreciate your respectfulness.
I very strongly believe that 1) feeling attracted to someone is not something we choose and 2) we do choose who we love. If you are human, you know that so many feelings and things we feel in our hearts are not our choice. I’ve had feelings for guys that I know are not right and that if I chose to be in a relationship with them, it would bring me further away from Christ, although it would give me momentary happiness. This is the same as homosexuality. I watched this video recently and I feel like she explains things very well. It’s about denying ourselves and making everything about Jesus. If a relationship, regardless if it is homosexual or not, draws us away from Christ, it’s not good. Any situation where we are putting our own desires before what God has intended for us will only distance us from Him.
“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 (yes, that is new testament!) (notice that homosexuality is listed alongside with idolators, all sexual immorality, thieves, drunkards, etc. homosexuals should never be alienated!!!) (also !!! this is important !!! when we accept Christ, all these temptations and sins we struggle with are no longer counted against us. When we accept Jesus and repent of our sins, although we may stumble and fall into sexual immorality or any other sin, GOD STILL LOVES US and sees us perfectly because Jesus died for our sins. If you want me to elaborate on this, let me know.)
We are all born with sinful hearts. I struggle with many things, and although one of them is not homosexuality, it is still sin and all sin is the same in God’s eyes. So many things that I’ve struggled with and have conquered with His help have made me stronger and enabled me to relate to others and help them through their struggles. You were made intentionally and with purpose, regardless of the sin you struggle with.
And to address my view on love is a choice: I think the word love is used for so many different things that its true meaning has been tainted. I believe true love is a verb, not a feeling. We can feel so many things for people: adoration, attraction, respect, etc. but LOVE is choosing to actively put someone before yourself and to consistently and selflessly caring for another. There is so much more I could say about what it means to love as a follower of Christ, but I’ll leave it at that (feel free to message me about it, though!)
Hope I answered your question :)
