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♥️ welcome to quadrant-confessions! ♠️

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hi, im mod spade [he/8self]! currently im the only mod here, but im a hardworking one :]

this blog is for quadrant related confessions, advice, and quadrant calls!! wanna talk about your new kismesis? got a little pale crush? need advice on how to be a good ashen partner? we've got your back!! just send in an ask and ill get to it as soon as i can!

♣️ rules ♦️

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don't start fights with other users, the mods, or use this blog to spread bigotry.

typing quirked messages are allowed, and will be translated by the mod

for quadrant calls, include your name, intended quadrant, age range, and method of contact

for advice posts, please specify you want advice somewhere in your message. otherwise, it will be treated as a confession

this blog does not tolerate asks about radqueers or proship, for the mods boundaries

suggestive asks are allowed, but as the mod is currently a minor we will not post outright explicit content. suggestive asks will be tagged for filtering and organization

non quadrant/non advice questions for the mod should specify somewhere that they're questions for mod spade so 8 can find them easier.

have fun ::::]

thank you so much for reading!! hope to see you in the queue ^_^

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me and one of my friends have what is essentially a platonic kismesisitude and its sooo fun. i love getting lightheartedly tormented and lightheartedly tormenting in return /gen

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accepting asks again i prommy i won't slack off this time =w=

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↑ guy who immediately slacked off....

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hey! I really hope this doesn't come off as a vent or anything, but... I used to have this moirail, right? my very first moirail in fact! and it was definitely pale, no redrom or flush, but I miss them. I am just friends with them now. and what I mean by when I miss them, I mean I miss them being my moirail. they broke it off with me after a while because I was apparently too much to handle? which I didn't understand at all! they insulted me while breaking it off... and I guess I did go a little off the rails at them. I went off on them because I have issues with my emotions, also because I guess I relied on them too much for help? I have a new moirail, he's sweeter and definitely an upgrade. I love him lots, but I cant help but miss my ex-moirail so much... and, not to mention, but my ex-moirail-just-friends situationship keeps randomly bringing up me and them being moirails again, and I get a little angry... what should I do?? D: -- 🧁 anon

modnote: hi anon!! i don't have a more polite way to say this but i really believe you should friend dump that person. it feels a lot [from my limited perspective] like they don't really have your best interests at heart? if you feel like that's too sudden id gently confront them and ask why they keep bringing it up. DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHER IF THEY TRY TO OFFER polyamory is great but if you two were unhealthy and they keep being Weird about it that's a bad sign.

modnote: good luck!! let me know what happens if you feel comfortable ^_^

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accepting asks again i prommy i won't slack off this time =w=

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what are you supposed to do when someone youre developing pale feelings for after having known them for only a week or so sees a dumb selfie you took and thinks youre cute like is there something wrong with me or what idk how to do this im pretty much aromantic

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just realized that the person ive had a vague pale crush on for like actual years and i are like literally already moirails we just never went through the work of putting words on it well we did but it was once and in passing just like "hey bro what if we were qpr like literally nothing would change and my boyfriend is chill with it like just so we have a word to discribe it anyway this haunted house is cool as fuck" yes it was actually in a haunted house like a year ago and i only just realized it now

i fear i am dumb as a bag of rocks

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id like to have a moirail but i dont have anyone i can think of who would currently be a good fit... meeting new people even just to make friends is hard for me... i feel like developing a pale bond with someone new would take years... i tend to burn bridges out of fear of losing people or due to conflict... my social life is limited to online as well but i need someone irl... sorry if this is too depressing :(

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i want a kismesis but like. platonically. idk if that makes sense.

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okay uh biting him anon this might be vacillation. what

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vacillating yearning goes crazy. wdym I went from thinking “I miss you. I want to be good to you” to thinking “how’s it going. fight me you stupid dumb bitch” whenever I see her

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biting him. with my teeth <3<

one chance [expunged] please just one chance to be your cartoon rival and makeout partner /silly

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okay so this dude is most definitely pitch for me and i thiiiink i might be also?? im not sure??? but i dont know how my boyfriend would feel about me having any other kind of relationships other than my moirail and i have no idea what to do and im kind of scared to ask

modnote: hey anon, i totally understand how you feel. id say talking it through with your boyfriend is probably the best idea. i know it's scary, but if you don't communicate then things might be harder down the line. you should talk with your possible kismesis as well and let them know of the possibility you won't be able to be in a rivalry with them.

modnote: please know that if your boyfriend blows up, tries to manipulate or hurt you or himself, or go after your possible kismesis, this isn't exactly the best of behavior for being in a relationship. if it's difficult to communicate with him often, it might not be the best relationship [if only by virtue of breakdown of communication, im not sure how he treats you so idk about the other big factors]. please stay safe, but don't be afraid to have hard conversations.

modnote: im rooting for you anon :]

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△△ fuck.

△△ ashen crush. on two people who 1. have almost certainly never even heard of homestuck, 2. are probably both straight men and 3. would probably just be outright uninterested

△△△△△ yearnning hours c/3<

(△△ if anyone recognizes me by my quirk no you dont)

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there is an ugly feeling of guilt inside of me for wanting casual quadrant relationships [or casual romantic relationships of any kind] but it's probably the amatonormativity so idrc rn

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having a moirail and/or a kismesis could fix me (<- has so many problems)

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LF advice bcs i cant just go to reddit for this stuff lol

me and person A have pitch feelings for eachother. we have explicitly stated this to eachother and we would like to get into a kismesissitude.

the problem is that A's matesprit, B, is monogamous and A doesnt know how B would feel about us being in a relationship. B hasnt read homestuck and doesnt plan to, and A is hesitant about talking to B about entering a pitch relationship with with me out of fear that B wouldn't understand/it'd hurt their matespritship

(side note: B considers their relationship as a normal human romance, i use matespritship as a close descriptor for it so this ask makes more sense)

i dont really know what to do? i hate A a lot, and hes a wimp when it comes to confrontation. ideally we could all talk it out but. (and i say this nicely in case A finds this ask) B is a hardass and i dont feel like they'd really be up to communicating.

so... does anyone have any suggestions?

modnote: unfortunately not sure what to do in this situation, anyone who does please leave a comment for anon!