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[mrs-mccuckquean]

End of an Era

Even though I haven’t posted any cuckquean content in a very long time – the fact that I CAN’T now even if I wanted to kinda blows – so I guess I’ll do kind of a conclusion post to what I’ve learned while being MrsMcCuckquean :)

1. I’m a bad ass bitch. I always thought so, but it’s hard for me to believe without evidence – so I pushed myself into uncomfortable zones and tested just exactly what, and how much I can handle. Sometimes I went to far, and other times I went to the moon. There were nights I cried myself to sleep, and there were nights I was so high on power I couldn’t sleep. I’m most proud of myself for doing it, for going down the path, and getting where I am today, for being brave, for not being scared of judgement and being so interested in myself I’m willing to put the work in to see who I am.

2. Being a cuckquean to me, is loving enough to sacrifice and understanding enough to remain confident in your choices. I’ve always been a giver, always let my emotions lead me, and always been confident in that choice. I am nothing but what I feel, and if I feel you deserve my sacrifice and understanding – you will get it. My sacrifice is the fight with my instincts and my cultural conditioning to be able to show you how much I care about your happiness, and my understanding comes from the time I’ve put into the science behind sex, love, and behavior.

3. Balance is important. For me to be a cuckquean for you, I have to truly love you, I have to truly care. I am weak to your wants and I am sensitive to your needs. People will try to use that against me. People will ask of me, and people will expect of me – but my balance will myself is most important. Being strong is a vital characteristic for me. I have to be strong enough to not let anyone use me in certain ways, and strong enough to let someone use me in other ways.

I will always be me, and I will always love as hard as I can – and along with that comes me being happy, and proud of what I’m capable to do for you <3

To everyone who has followed me through my crazy ass journey, I appreciate you. To everyone who has sent me meaningful messages, you don’t know what it means to tell me I’ve helped. To everyone who has grown with me, keep on keeping on – and don’t forget, love yourself most of all <3 

[chubbie-wifey-deactivated201907]

Up in the bedroom, Patty wanted to see ‘slut teena’. She had me remove my ‘uniform’ and apply my red lipstick.

She laid in bed and taunted slut teena as I knelt and fluffed David who stood there,saying ‘stop’ when she thought David had enough of my mouth.

She put me out of the room. I was told to stand outside and wait. David closed the door. I was out there listening to them make love.  Then I heard the bell to come in and clean up an other load from Patty’s pussy. She spoke to me the whole time again. This time telling me how lucky I was that she was even sharing David with me. Would I like it if she totally cut me off? I loved this treatment.

David laid there and watched. Not saying a word.

Afterwards I was sent to the guest bedroom for the night.

[danthomfrank]

Saturday Night - Oh What a Night

His girlfriend (left) contacted me Saturday evening to invite us out to a lifestyle club with her and her man. We agreed and I immediately invited his newest cuckcake, Mindy (right). She was so excited and had never been to this club.

We all met up and spent time talking, drinking and dancing. I even danced on the pole (first time at this club). Then most of us moved to the voyeur room where gf and her man were going to have sex (with an audience). Mindy asked to join, and would anyone say no?! I ran to get my husband and brought him in to join the fun. He and I played side by side with the three of them. Then I stepped aside and encouraged him to play with Mindy. His gf tapped out, her man came in Mindy’s mouth which she then snowballed to the gf. Everyone dressed and we left.

I instructed my husband to drive Mindy’s car with her back to our house and I drove alone. When we arrived home, I led them to our bedroom and encouraged them to get comfortable. This was the first time for him to have sex with another woman in our bedroom and in our bed. I enjoyed the show for sometime and then started playing with them. She fingered me and made me squirt. I rubbed her pussy while he fucked her throat (which makes her squirt). He ended by stacking me on top of her, boobs to boobs and fucking me doggie style until he came.

He had to get up for work in a few hours so he went to sleep on the massage table and she and I cuddled up and talked and giggled until we fell asleep. In the morning she dressed and he walked her out to her car. He came back and crawled into bed with me, started talking to me and rubbing my pussy. This resulted in him getting a hard on and fucking me until he came in my pussy again.

All the while she and I were texting as she wrote me as soon as she left. Everyone agreed it was an amazing night full of great fun with good friends. The picture above was on my phone. I’d left it at the table and as you can see, his girlfriend and cuckcake thought they’d leave me a little gift to enjoy finding. There actually is also a video of the two of them kissing him while he has the biggest grin on his face. Joining the lifestyle was probably the best choice for making my CQ dreams come true.

[cuckcakes-paradise]

For the cuckcake-curious

There are many descriptions of the different types of cuckquean. But what about a cuckcake? It doesn’t make sense that there should be a one-size-fits-all type of cake, because a quean’s needs, wants, and desires are totally unique. So it follows that the path to being a good cake will depend entirely on the quean. To a newcomer, that logic sounds antithetical. After all, a quean is submissive to her husband and she wants him to have sex with other women. Clearly, what she wants is to not be wanted- to roll over and be dismissed and ignored and humiliated by both her husband and her cake. Right? Well, that’s one type of quean. And there’s a cake like that out there for her.

What kind of cake?

If you’re reading this, maybe being that type of cake doesn’t appeal to you. Good news! You can still satisfy your desire to be a cuckcake. Many cuckqueans do not carry out their lifestyles as described above. Some queans want to be full participants in FMF or FFM sex, others might prefer to watch, some queans don’t want to be present at all and would rather interact with their husband afterward. Some queans want to be in contact and communicate with their cake, others would rather never meet her. Some queans want a cake to form a relationship her husband, and for still more it’s strictly sex. It’s important to note that as a cake, you should also have a long list if things you do and don’t want, because you will likely have a conversation with your quean and possibly her husband about your various desires and what is and isn’t acceptable. Contract negotiation isn’t the sexiest thing in the world, but it is necessary to ensure that everyone gets what they want out of the relationship and avoid real and lasting harm. This lifestyle is driven by some very intense emotional states, relies heavily on trust, and it can be easy to cross lines if you are not careful.

Your position in the relationship

It’s important for you to remember that regardless of the relationship dynamic, you are the third. The quean and her husband are married, they have built a life and possibly a family together. A cake is an aspect of this life; a single facet that serves a very specific purpose. I don’t say this to diminish the role of the cake; make no mistake, a good cuckcake isn’t also referred to as a unicorn because of her horn, it’s because she is such a rare and valuable find. I say this to remind you that no matter what role you play in the bedroom, at the end of the day, the quean stays and the cake goes home. Make sure you’re leaving both your quean and her husband satisfied and wanting more.

Having fun!

The quean/cake dynamic needs to be mutual and consensual. The quean is effectively handing you the keys to her husband, and by extension, her marriage. Have a healthy respect for that. The trust she is putting in you is unique to any other relationship dynamic. Do your best to be a good cake and make sure your quean is happy. Lucky for you, making her happy usually means fucking her husband. This is your chance to be someone’s dream-come-true. A personal pornstar. An object of worship and desire. Relish that. You’re here to fuck, not provide financial advice. Dress sexy or slutty for him. Bring toys. Wear lingerie. Lose your inhibitions and get off on pleasing him (and her!).

What about him?

You may have noticed that I have hardly mentioned the husband. This is kind of on purpose. Because like the cake’s role, the husband’s role in this dynamic is to serve the quean (maybe next I’ll do a similar guide for guys who think that being married to a quean is a hall-pass to fuck anyone he wants). Without the quean, all you really have is cheating sex. A man can’t decide for his wife that she wants to be a quean; he can’t tell her what she will and will not enjoy about the lifestyle. A quean is not made every time a married man sleeps with another women. My point is, yes, as a cake you will be pleasing a married man, but onlybecause it’s what his wife wants. Even a total Alpha dom male understands that the lifestyle only works as long as his wife is satisfied at the end of the day.

For first-time cakes, it can be overwhelming when a woman asks you to have sex with her husband. I hope that what I have written here is helpful and useful advice. My goal is to provide guidance that will lead to a healthy, stable, incredibly unique and unbelievably satisfying experience for all involved.  Remember that a happy quean means a happy cake, not the other way around. And when all else fails, communicate!

- Cuckqueans-paradise for danthomfrank.

[danthomfrank]

Ask and ye shall receive. Thank you @cuckqueans-paradise

[anar-and-henry-blog]

It’s complicated.

Most people would say that my wife has made the perfect arrangement for me. She essentially seduces other beautiful women and brings them home to have sex with me while she watches, directs, and sometimes participates. In terms of the physicality of sex, it indeed likely cannot be improved upon.

But, it’s complicated. Try as I might, I’ve never been able to truly understand what motivates her. No way can I come close to putting myself in her shoes, which is a barrier to understanding.

I’ve never been able to overcome the lurking sense that she does it in part because I haven’t made her feel loved enough. It haunts me.

Until now, Tumblr has provided an avenue to find other similarly situated people, and especially to learn the various viewpoints of other women who also want to see their husbands with other women. It has to some degree rescued me from isolation and has become a day to day way of embracing the peculiarities of my marriage.

@elenahomans

@quean-heather

@domestidom

@lancashire-brunette77

@taotaosz

@yoursexkitten0515

@playful-swingers

@fireandlace911

@peachyquean

@compersionquean

@danthomfrank

@cuckqueansking

@tequidreams

@phallax

[danthomfrank]

Thank you for the shout out (as the ship goes down).

[danthomfrank]

Good Girl(s)

Texts between my husband and his cuckcake Mindy this afternoon. She sees him as her Dom as she is submissive to him. I really can’t believe my husband has submissives (I call them sarcastically, his groupies).

Our cuckcake is in the lifestyle (swinger) because she likes the freedom and doesn’t want to be tied down to one guy, but look what she said to my husband on this Sunday night (they last met up Wednesday night).

I don’t know what to make of this. If she were to become monogamous to him, I’d be happy for them to go bareback. We would not expect her to, but I may bring it up in case it is something she’s interested in pursuing. She has expressed repeatedly how much she enjoys being with him and how much better he is than any of her other side guys. (And this is not the first time a swinger female has told me that…this is the third time…3/3!)

We are so lucky that he has connected with so many awesome ladies who enjoy him and vice versa. We have come such a long way in such a short time and I can’t believe how many want to earn the right to be called his “good girl”.

[danthomfrank]

When his side piece is thinking ‘bout him….

He was with her Wednesday evening. This was Friday afternoon. I was finally going to have his attention for the first time since last Saturday. I’ve been sick and on my period, so nothing fun has been happening lately between us. We were talking about our Friday night options when he got this text from her. I thought I was about to be left alone again, but turns out she had plans with a vanilla female friend, so I got to spend an evening with my husband.

Lucky me.

[denial-switch-quean]

Give it to get it?

I thought of a cuckquean incentive. 

I love his cum. I enjoy threesomes and I like seeing him play with and fuck other women. I do though find it very challenging to share his cum. I always want him to cum in me. In my pussy, mouth, or ass. Or if not in me then on me. I love to feed his cum to the cake - to swirl it in her mouth when we kiss or to push her head down into my pussy and have her suck and lick it out of me. I know though that he wants to cum in the cakes too. In her mouth. In her cunt. In her ass. I want to be more able to be supportive and happy about that because I know he won’t go there if he feels it is going to make me sad or cause us problems.

So it occurred to me we could agree that when we play with cake I can either get his cum or I can cum myself. This provides a wonderful incentive to give his cum away. Give it to get it. :-)

Of course I need to get up the courage to suggest this to him. We already practice orgasm control and denial. My orgasms are totally his to give or deny and I wouldn’t have it any other way. This would be an easy extension of that practice… 

[master-slut-trainer]

Super hot to have to choose between getting his cum or getting to cum. Thanks, @denial-switch-quean!

[denial-switch-quean]

Awww thanks for the sweet appreciation. 😊

[danthomfrank]

I think I can die happy now.

It is so satisfying as a CQ wife when another woman appreciates him. I’ve become used to it from his girlfriend but it’s still new with this new cuckcake. It just warms my CQ heart.

[beludandi]

B was here again today

Evidently she is getting more comfortable with being here for the sex, she wanted it right after her ritual coffee and before eating. It makes me glad she’s getting more comfortable with it. And not sure what was different for her, but she didn’t have to stop; they kept going for almost 2 hours. @bcindc said he really enjoyed her moans - she’s so tight and this time she just kept taking it without stopping, deep moans and creaming on him pretty hard.

@bcindc and I had a little bit of fun before I left for work, it’s amazing how hard his cock gets in the days leading up to her visit. 😍 I got caught in being turned on for a while, wanted his cock, but he told me no more. I think I came 1x from his hand and 2x from his cock. It was nice being that turned on and funny because I knew I wasn’t going to be sated unless I got his cum. I really wanted him to save it and he knows it, so you could say I denied myself.

I definitely dont think I can live this life everyday, but I do enjoy some things about it. There’s the opportunity for him to have sex with a friends wife (they’re non-monogamous), I told him we should invite them over to dinner sometime. I’d watch that. 😉

And there’s another lady we both know - we got invited to go on vacation with her in the spring. Considering they kissed when we parted last, I think she’s interested. I told him if we do go with her, I want him to do it - I want to hear them from the other room. 🤩

Life is good. Love you cutie!

[danthomfrank]

Any plans for Halloween?

I completely missed this message back before Halloween. As it turned out, we did have Halloween plans at a party with a swingers group, together with a bunch of our friends. We had a fantastic night, my friends got along very well, and my husband got his first friend to lover convert who has now become his number one cuckcake.

But since Halloween is in the rear view mirror and it is getting close to another big swingers holiday, I thought I’d address New Year’s Eve. We are going to another huge event put on by the same swingers group. It’s got a fun 20’s theme and while we won’t have the same big, fun group, we will have the girlfriend and her man as well as our newest cuckcake, Mindy.

Last night when they were together she brought up NYE, he asked if she’d go with us, she said “if you’ll have me” and he said “why wouldn’t we have you?!” So that’s that and it seems we have ourselves a full time cuckcake.

I’ll report back on NYE as I can and let you know how this goes.

[danthomfrank]

Does Motivation Matter?

I thought she’d thanked me and gave me a play by play because she’d researched how to be a good cuckcake and wanted to be a good cuckcake for my sake.

Turns out, they chatted about being a good cuckcake at the end and he’d given her a few hints as to what a good cuckcake might do in a situation like this (having just fucked the Queens husband with no videos sent).

He’d emphasized that she wanted to be a good cuckcake. That she’d brought it up. But me, I had to ask why she wanted to be a good cuckcake. He insisted he didn’t know until he finally admitted that he thought she was doing it in order to be allowed continued access to him.

So unlike the other girls who like me as much or more than him, this one definitely seems to be all about him and whatever it takes to keep him. And i believe this to be the case even though she’s identified as somewhat bi.

So once again, it is not about me. I am not the center. He is with her because that’s what he wants to do and she is interested in keeping me happy so she gets to keep him. So, I ask you, does motivation matter? Does it matter why she wants to be a wonderful cuckcake and keep me happy? Or does it just matter that my husband has another devoted submissive pussy in his harem?

If you were a cuckquean, could you imagine a more perfect cuckcake?

[pussiesformysir]

Dodged a bullet

Psycho girl is out of the picture. My husband told me he’s not interested and she acts bipolar. She messaged him and said she has to get something off her chest. She said she doesn’t feel comfortable with me watching (after we already discussed that I wouldn’t be watching and they’d be alone) and she said I’m outside her hard limit for age. I’m ten years older than my husband and he’s six years older than her. She said she’d feel like I am a creep.

He ended up getting annoyed by her saying that because he doesn’t think my age matters, plus I am much more attractive than her, specifically our faces.

He told her he is insulted by her saying that, and she complained that it’s her choice to feel that way and got all angry. Then she tried to say the world doesn’t revolve around us just because we have specific ways we go about our relationship, meaning he won’t keep secrets from me if he were to fuck her. Sorry bitch, it’s not my fault you would rather find a man who cheats than one who shares this kind of lifestyle with his woman. She made more comments about being an angry and unstable person and they left it at it’s not going to work out. He’s not interested in talking to her or anyone who says something he doesn’t like about me. Hope she has a happy life being bitter because she can’t find her own man.

[queandove]

Be careful, Queans, there’s a difference between a cake and a crazy bitch that’s going to cause a bunch of problems because she’s desperate for attention! Don’t waste your time on those, they’re not worth it!

[danthomfrank]

As soon as she (and him) left the motel room, she texted me while driving home, after fucking my husband.

Three hours total elaspsed time, another satisfied customer AND he got off.

That’s a successful CQ experience in my book.

[chubbie-wifey-deactivated201907]

Sexually speaking, I realize I’ve become a fetish for my husband. While he mostly gets his sexual fulfillment from Patty, though it seems somewhat submissive, he occasionally enjoys coming home to his whore. When Patty allows it, he enjoys taking the dominant role with me. And I enjoy being his whore. Denying myself sexual satisfaction, while he uses my mouth as his cum dump. I’m so needy, longing to hear him tell me how useless I am.

[danthomfrank]

So, you never got jealous? Ot thought he'd leave you for one of them? Does he ever reassure you or just spend time the two of you? Sorry for all the ?'s I'm just very curious hehe.

My definition of a cuckquean is a woman who sexualizes the pain, fear and jealousy of her man with another woman. Therefore, yes, I get jealous, I consider it essential to the fetish. If it doesn’t spark jealousy, I don’t experience it as a CQ event.

Yes, I have had the thought that he’d leave me, because I am jealous, insecure and human. Each time I presented him with my fear, he was so reassuring that I had to let it go. Sometimes I have been very calm and self assured. It seems to depend on the situation.

He has to reassure me after some events, depending on how I felt about the event. Sometimes I’m quite calm about it all. Of course we spend time alone! But in my mind, it is always with me, just as his desire for others is always with him.

I don’t mind questions at all. I enjoy talking about my obessession and I think we can only learn from each other as official resources are non existent.

[curiositykilledthecuckquean]

Before Jay

This fetish of mine began small, long before I ever saw Jay’s face. 

I remember being in high school or college and watching some movie where a guy joked about cheating on his girl in front of her and she just laughed. I can’t remember the movie, but I remember that scene because I rewound it over and over and over again. 

There was the scene in the movie “Unfaithful” where Diane Lane catches her side dude with another woman and he makes her beg him to fuck her. “I want you to fuck me…” she pleaded - just seconds after seeing him with someone else. Another scene I memorized and watched with wide eyes and a confused arousal. 

In college, there was Jake. He was beautiful. And arrogant. And a habitual cheater. And I knew about it. And deep down, I liked it. But I felt so messed up for liking it, so I simply ignored it. I would be on top and would think about Sharon - that was his other - and I would get close to having an orgasm, then my shame would set in and I would stop myself.   

I read 50 Shades. It was a terrible book that put me in the mood at all times, and I remember desperately waiting for his mistress to appear. And talking to my girlfriends about it and I was the ONLY person that felt that way when reading it. 

Then I met Jay. And it all made sense. All my pieces fit into place just right. This is something I LIKE, this is who I am, who I have always been - even before Jay. This is what has always felt natural to me. And until Jay, I have not had the confidence or self awareness or self esteem to accept that this is who I am - and I may be slightly different than you or the norm or what is universally accepted by society. And I may not be exactly what makes the masses comfortable. And many of you may not understand it. Or like it. And that is okay with me. So read my blog or don’t read my blog, be kind or be mean, but just know that this is who I am. 

I am a cuckquean and I am Jay’s. 

I’m just a girl, standing in front of a man, asking him to fuck other women. 😉