There He Is

[queer-fella]

Okay hi I’m Toby I’m 18

This blog isn’t for discourse. This blog is for me. I am in pain and I don’t have time for anyones bullshit tbh.

[cock-holliday]

I think people need to be more comfortable with illegalism and I’m not kidding. Of course the more legal something is, the safer and easier it is to do, but the more people who disregard the law, the harder it is to enforce. There are plenty of laws on the books that people just ignore and are never or rarely policed.

Becoming more comfortable with little illegal activities makes you more comfortable with bigger more important illegal activities. Additionally, it is crucial to build a wall of silence. Nobody talks everybody walks.

People who give out food without a permit, hold a march without a permit, grow a garden without a permit, are more likely to be people you could turn to to work with on preventing an eviction, or keeping people out of cop hands, or helping your friend Jane get crucial healthcare when it’s not legal in your state.

Communities comfortable with these acts won’t call the cops, and then nobody knows that it’s happening.

People have got to shift from both the idea that lawful = good/ illegal = bad, and that the illegality of something means that’s the end of it, and the only fight left is to make it legal again.

[stalinxhoxha]

hi! i’m doing research for a paper about neurodivergence and sensory needs regarding clothing. if anyone feels like filling out this google form for me that would be much appreciated :)

[stalinxhoxha]

https://forms.gle/rY4Q8bc1FkTzSxAK9

here’s the link

[stalinxhoxha]

also if you can please reblog!

[eels-eels-eelsrobot]

👀👀👀

@simplyfroggy

[queer-fella]

Not to be all “existence is suffering” and all but

[kitsnicket]

I’m so frustrated with how normalized and accepted it is to make fun of speech impediments. Imagine being that unfunny that you have to make a joke at someone else’s expense

[kitsnicket]

And the amount of people who think that going to speech therapy magically “fixes” it 😐. I went to speech therapy for years and all it did was make me hate myself even more lol

[kitsnicket]

Ableism that is widely accepted is still ableism! Little fun fact

[kitsnicket]

Ok I genuinely was not expecting this post to get any notes but now that it has I wanna clarify a few things. Mostly my point about speech therapy.

This is not me saying that speech therapy doesn’t work because it absolutely can and does help people cope with their impediments. It still doesn’t fix anyone though. When you go to therapy for your depression or anxiety, are you magically fixed? Most of the time when I see people claiming that speech therapy “cures” impediments, they’re doing that to absolve themselves of the guilt of making fun of us. Because if therapy fixes impediments then it’s the person’s own laziness or unwillingness to go to therapy that causes their impediment and, therefore, they’ve brought it upon themselves and making fun of them is fair game. It’s a way to invalidate speech impediments as a disability. So yes, speech therapy can help impediments. No, it’s not a cure.

the self hatred comment. When I was going to speech therapy, it was very much focused on the person with the impediment “fixing” themself and talking correctly. There was little to no emphasis on self acceptance and loving myself and my stutter. The emphasis on something being wrong with me, combined with the culture we live in where stutters and other impediments are readily made fun of, lead to lots of self hatred that I’m still working through over a decade later. It’s hard to get over that self hatred when society still finds it socially acceptable to make fun of me and people like me. I mention this because my experience is by no means mine alone. There’s entire generations of us traumatized by therapy like this who are working on how we see ourselves and our disability.

[kitsnicket]

Reblogging for disability pride and awareness month. Speech impediment are rarely included in disability conversations and I’m going to change that <3

[chubbyshubby]

Diagnosis

[queer-fella]

I can feel this tiredness in every inch of my body

[chaosdisorganized]

Dear muscles, tendons, ligaments, and joints

You suck, all of you, idk what's wrong with you but please stop fucking hurting so much.

[queer-fella]

Man these painkillers don’t kill shit

[saprophetic]

a diagram of the knee

[thelupuslady]

True.

[yharnamsnewslug]

Some of yall be like "you don't know what it's like to have societal pressures to be pretty 🥺 everyone is so mean to you and you live only for the consumption of others" and then turn around and blast some poor fucking guy who's just existing bc his beard his patchy and he has acne and is overweight.

We get it. Your body positivity is conditional and only feminine. Butch women, amab enbies who lean towards masculinity and us ugly men (cis and trans) have always known.

[yharnamsnewslug]

Also holy fuck this affected disabled people so fucking much, and SO MANY intersex people.

This post is for ugly, fat (FAT!!!!! FAT FAT FAT, NOT MAGAZINE PLUSSSS FAT), disabled, intersex, trans people and people of color who are tired of the body positivity movement being a fucking farce. Fuck the rest of you.

I cant reiterate just how much this is especially for disabled and intersex people.

[buddwyer]

Just what's the deal with the malaise! LOL!

[buddwyer]

Clap if you feel deep profound discomfort

[queer-fella]

Why do I feel irredeemable when I’m not doing anything wrong

[queer-fella]

Anyway I wish my body would be less confusing. All the bullshit would be far easier to deal with if I at least knew what and why it is.

[queer-fella]

ow